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“I will act now. I will act now. I will act now. Henceforth, I will repeat these words each hour, each day, everyday, until the words become as much a habit as my breathing, and the action which follows becomes as instinctive as the blinking of my eyelids. With these words I can condition my mind to perform every action necessary for my success. I will act now. I will repeat these words again and again and again. I will walk where failures fear to walk. I will work when failures seek rest. I will act now for now is all I have. Tomorrow is the day reserved for the labor of the lazy. I am not lazy. Tomorrow is the day when the failure will succeed. I am not a failure. I will act now. Success will not wait. If I delay, success will become wed to another and lost to me forever. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person.”

― Og Mandino

Author:	ogliastra [ Fri Aug 07, 2015 3:18 pm ]
Post subject:	fear of rejection
Hi guys! How can I fight the fear of rejection?

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Fri Aug 07, 2015 4:36 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: fear of rejection
Everything starts in the mind. You have to get into character similar to the way an actor gets in their character for a play for for a film. Mental repetition. Your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your character, and your character becomes your destiny. - Thought create the emotion, emotions fuel the action. It a process that can take anywhere from 3 - 9 months. So don't think that just because you repeated to yourself over and over " I have the confidence and courage to approach women" a thousand times a day for a week that there is suppose to be this immediate change. Its going to take months.. Just like getting yourself in prime physical shape. You have to get your mind in shape and depending on how out of shape it is you could be talking a shorter or longer time to get it to where you want it to be. Heres a quote for you: Quote: “I will act now. I will act now. I will act now. Henceforth, I will repeat these words each hour, each day, everyday, until the words become as much a habit as my breathing, and the action which follows becomes as instinctive as the blinking of my eyelids. With these words I can condition my mind to perform every action necessary for my success. I will act now. I will repeat these words again and again and again. I will walk where failures fear to walk. I will work when failures seek rest. I will act now for now is all I have. Tomorrow is the day reserved for the labor of the lazy. I am not lazy. Tomorrow is the day when the failure will succeed. I am not a failure. I will act now. Success will not wait. If I delay, success will become wed to another and lost to me forever. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person.” ― Og Mandino

Author:	coco79 [ Tue Aug 11, 2015 9:03 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: fear of rejection
The BEST, and I mean VERY BEST way to get over rejection is........wait for it..........experience getting rejected. I know that's not a popular answer, but it's the truth. Similar to how a skinny guy has to go to the gym, workout and break down his physical muscles in order for them to heal and get bigger and stronger --- you, an aspiring ladies man will have to go out, get rejected, and endure that time after time in order to foster the growth of your 'emotional muscles'. Different activities, but same process. The crazy thing is, (and I've found this with myself, and, have other friends who can attest to the same) that by going out and TRYING to get rejected on purpose here and there, you can sort of wean your way into the experience. But there's no getting around it. Yes tactics, and the like work to an extent, but at the end of the day you have to BECOME an attractive guy. What most guys don't realize is that pick up really is more EMOTIONAL than anything else. When a woman accepts or rejects you, it's not your approach so much as it is the vibe you give off during your approach. If you're anxious, nervous, in your head, etc. you give off a needy, repulsive vibe. And vice versa, if on the inside you feel secure, confident, and not giving a you know what, you give off a calm, cool, inviting energy. Women are EXPERTS at picking up on whichever vibe you give off before you even say a word. The only way to overcome this fear is to face it head on over and over until it becomes so minimal that you do not think of it as 'being rejected' anymore. This is why boot camps are so popular. Depending what company or who you take one with, you will be forced to some extent to face this fear. I know this a very simplified answer, but it really all does boil down to you learning to be ok with a girl not 'liking' you, and feeling no change in your mood or state based on if she does or doesn't. This is true confidence.

Author:	Jay (Majik) [ Thu Aug 13, 2015 5:53 am ]
Post subject:	Re: fear of rejection
stop seeing rejection as something bad. If you get rejected or you reject someone else... that means that you two were just not meant to have any more of a relationship. Consider it a good thing. You might have just saved yourself YEARS of frustration and suckiness because you got rejected and chose not to "game" her.

Author:	R.C [ Thu Aug 13, 2015 6:19 am ]
Post subject:	Re: fear of rejection
Conditioning. The more you're exposed to something the less of an impact it has on you.

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