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Author:  DjSuperman [ Sun Aug 02, 2015 3:54 am ]
Post subject:  Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
So I've been trying to ask this girl at work to go out with me for the past week, and I've been working there for about 5 weeks.
But it seems like things keep going wrong with my plans, like she would go home early, or she would get pissed off at someone, or pissed off at me....

I have never spoken to her ever since I started working there, since I don't want to get friend-zoned, but it seems like she talks to everyone, like one of those super popular girls.

I've been wanting to ask her out for the past week, I would always be looking for a good time, like during our breaks or lunch breaks, but there are always like 20 or 30 people around her.
And while we are working, there are 20 or 30 people around that I see every single day, and I feel like, if I approach her, it would cause this huge scene, and it might be the center of office gossip, and it might embarrass her.

So I've been waiting to ask her out in the parking lot, when we both get off of work, and there are less people around.

And this is what I am planning on saying:
"Hey Megan... Could I talk to you for a second? I have been seeing you around for forever, and I have always thought that you were really gorgeous, and I would love to take you out to dinner, or out for some drinks sometime, and I was wondering, if you would let me get me get your number"

What do you guys think?

Seriously, this is the hottest girl I have ever seen in my life. Like she is super popular, and the most beautiful, and everyone is always trying to talk to her, and I have never asked any girl at work to go out with me in my entire life, so I'm like super nervous......
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sun Aug 02, 2015 8:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
Oh god...

Onenittis much

Somebody get into the PUA hazmat suit and spray this guy off, he's def infected.
Author:  Dragula [ Sun Aug 02, 2015 9:26 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=191987

Same girl I presume?

Look lad, your reason to join this community is totally miscued. You basically read the game in the past and seem to think that we are a community of people that will obtain any and every girl we come across. Wrong.

This is a numbers game thing. which means, you might have to ask 50 girls out for one girl that MIGHT dig you.

You have a major crush on this one chick. She is on a pedestal in your mind, you seem more attracted to her because only because all your work colleagues want her to which is causing this massive frenzy to obtain her. These are wrong reasons to want a girl.

if you were to immerse yourself into pick up, like truly really worked on your core confidence. You would treat her like she is just any girl that eats, sleeps and shits like everyone else in the world and she would sense that from you. right now, she probably senses that you're in love with her like the rest of her colleagues.

You have 2 options:

1 - Focus on your core self and obtaining a skill that will make you earn to be good with women in general. You will probably have to sacrifice a year off to work on this goal. This is a long term strategy and the best one for obvious reasons.

2 - Use a short term strategy.How can you stand out from all those guys competing against her? be creative. I can't be arsed explaining what I would do in that situation but this scene pretty much explains what I mean: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IShHOub-PO0 if even this did work, you will be back to the community for the next oneitus you come across.
Author:  DjSuperman [ Sun Aug 02, 2015 9:33 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
Yes same girl....
I don't care if it is one-itus, I want her.....
Author:  Dragula [ Sun Aug 02, 2015 9:44 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
Quote:
Yes same girl....
I don't care if it is one-itus, I want her.....
I edited my last post

Your neediness is jumping out of my computer screen and hit me in the face though.
Author:  DjSuperman [ Sun Aug 02, 2015 11:05 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
I am sick and tired of working on Inner Game....
I want that girl!!!!!

What do you guys think about my freaking line?!?!?!?!
Author:  J.Daniels [ Sun Aug 02, 2015 11:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
Quote:
I don't care if it is one-itus, I want her.....
Well duh? That's the whole point of oneitis.

The thing that you don't realise, is that you're trying to sound all alpha and masculine with the whole "I'm going for what I want and nothing will stop me" attitude, but that's so destructive when it comes to women. It comes across as the same way as a kid screaming in a supermarket cause his Mom won't buy him a certain toy or something.

You've planned your approach out and fantasised about it like girls do about their wedding day ffs. Could you be in any more invested? That's also destructive.

I can tell that you're not exactly racking up the numbers. You're far too invested in this girl and you don't really know anything about her. Are your standards really that low?
Author:  Dragula [ Sun Aug 02, 2015 11:08 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
Quote:
I am sick and tired of working on Inner Game....
I want that girl!!!!!

What do you guys think about my freaking line?!?!?!?!

You have no chance, please change your user name to DJChodeman

*Black book updated*
Author:  R.C [ Sun Aug 02, 2015 11:09 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
I'll spare you the time OP and tell you right now you have no chance.

None.
Author:  J.Daniels [ Sun Aug 02, 2015 11:11 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
Quote:
I am sick and tired of working on Inner Game....
Everybody is, stfu moaning and get it done or remain a weak, needy little bitch forever
Quote:
I want that girl!!!!!
She probably doesn't want you, you're nowhere near self-satisfied, mentally attractive, patient, experienced or educated enough.

Quote:
What do you guys think about my freaking line?!?!?!?!
I think it's crap and your attitude is complete shit, you stubborn, impatient little brat. How dare you talk shit like you're losing your patience with us!? You're getting mad at people who spent 1, 2, maybe even 10 years learning this stuff... because they wont give it all to you in a little forum reply? It's not possible, you idiot. I remember back when I used to think pick up artists just had the possibility to get any girl they wanted, ever, and never get dumped if they got a girlfriend.
Author:  oceanx [ Sun Aug 02, 2015 5:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
Quote:
I am sick and tired of working on Inner Game....
You haven't worked it enough. Pebble's reply to your first post was 100% gold. Do what he says there and you will look back at this situation with a knowing smile. Or don't put in the work it takes to become seasoned in this stuff, and be like most every other guy out there.

Develop what Pebble is talking about and you'll become a man who finds it amusing when other men only stare and fantasize at that hot girl they see strutting down the street, while you know you can go up to her, confident in your abilities to charm her pants off - not that every girl will fall for your charming ways of course, but u get the idea.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Mon Aug 03, 2015 12:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
The funny thing is, guys think they're in friend zone only after the girl had said it, but the truth of the matter is guys are usually in the friend zone within the first 10 mins, the girl just has no reason to say it unless the guy tries to escalate. So don't think that just because a girl hasn't openly told you "lets be friends" that you aren't already there.

If this is the same girl from: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=191987 you've already built her up in your head to a place she couldn't possibly live up to. This over romanticizing is what puts guys in that zone.

One thing you have to consider is that social level that you are currently at. If you had a weight lifting competition on friday that required you to list 1,000 lbs, but today (monday) you were only able to lift 100 pounds, there is no way to meet your goal that quickly. You can try, and you should and get the experience, but that likeness that you'll actually win the competition is slim to none.

The most beautiful girls have some of the most flawed personalities in my experience, and you'll take them off the pedestal once you get around enough of them to realize it.
Author:  DjSuperman [ Sat Aug 08, 2015 5:13 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
So I asked her out.
When I told her that I thought she was really gorgeous, she was like "Awwwwww".
She was actually really nice and sweet.
And when I asked her if I could get her number.
She told me that she was "talking" to someone.
So I gave her my number and told her to give me a call or text me, if she changes her mind.
And she was like "Okay",
Then I said "I hope you have a good night."
And she was like "Have a good night."

She was actually happy when I talked to her.

But anyways.
I was wondering if it would be okay to add her on Facebook, or would it be too creepy?
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Sat Aug 08, 2015 7:03 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
Absolutely not man. Just chill. Leave her alone for now.

And the whole approach you did subconsciously said " hey, I think you're better than me. Would you do me a favor and allow me to take you out ". Any girl would of responded the same way. People want to share space with someone that already has value, not someone asking them to use them for their value. Wheres yours? Not that you don't have any, but you sure didn't make it seem like it.
Author:  DjSuperman [ Sat Aug 08, 2015 8:49 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Trying to ask a girl at work, to go out. Please help!!!!
I was trying to go for the direct approach.
I wasn't thinking about value or anything.
As for value, she is the hottest girl at work, and everyone thinks I'm the hottest guy at work, and they're always saying how we look cute together, or we belong together.
So I don't think my social proof is that low.
But she is so popular, everyone is always trying to talk to her.
While I am so hardcore, and intimidating, I never talk to anyone.....

What should I do when I see her at work again?
She is so fucking hot, I still feel shy around her, even after I asked her out!
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