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Author:  twoontarmac [ Sat Aug 01, 2015 5:54 am ]
Post subject:  Should I invite her out to meet
Hey all,

Few weeks ago I went to the beach with a few friends. One of my best friends girlfriend has this friend who she is trying to hook up with me. I think it's kinda cheesy because she made it very evident that she was trying to. We all hung out and I chatted with her for a while. Seems like a cool girl but it was a short lived conversation as we all just wanted to have fun in the sun and she wanted to just sit in the sand. I didn't end up grabbing her number so I just kept it at that.

A few weeks later (Yesterday) she text me asking if I wanted to go on a group ride. I told her I was busy around the times she wanted to meet and said I wish I had known earlier I would of planned to make it out. She text back saying no problem. another time. (this is like 1am so I didn't bother texting back. I attend Yoga classes Sunday morning and was going to invite her out to join me. If she cannot make it I was thinking we can meet for coffee. What do you think? Also find it awkward that I didn't give her my number which means that my friends girlfriend gave it to her which is kind of shady. Thoughts on this will be greatly appreciated.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sat Aug 01, 2015 6:10 am ]
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You're over thinking this.

If you're attracted to her by all means ask her out, she's already made it easy for you so there's some attraction there.

Invite her out if you find her attractive otherwise don't
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Sat Aug 01, 2015 2:31 pm ]
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You seem a bit paranoid.

Who cares if some girl that is obviously friends with your entire group that you seem to be attracted to got your number? What is she going to do with it except try and get you out? And does she even do yoga? I'd personally just go for the coffee date if thats your only other option, but you're going to have to get out your head.

If you like the girl go out with her, if you think she's shady leave it alone. She's doing all the work here though man. All you have to do is show up.
Author:  J.Daniels [ Sat Aug 01, 2015 4:07 pm ]
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Don't do coffee dates ffs!!

Dates should be in the evening. How many girls fuck a guy after coffee? Do something at night, that enables you to escalate.

However, don't overthink it. Just invite her out, take her to an arcade or a bowling alley or somewhere fun like that where you can tease and escalate...
Author:  JackZero [ Sat Aug 01, 2015 4:54 pm ]
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Don't do coffee dates ffs!!
Coffee is okay if you're trying to get a girl to feel comfortable around you. If you do that, the goal would be to move her from coffee to your place. If you have good conversation, charming, and something to "show" her at your place it won't be to difficult.
Author:  Dragula [ Sat Aug 01, 2015 6:57 pm ]
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I've flaked so many coffee dates. I'm a vampire.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sat Aug 01, 2015 9:01 pm ]
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Don't do coffee dates ffs!!
Coffee is okay if you're trying to get a girl to feel comfortable around you. If you do that, the goal would be to move her from coffee to your place. If you have good conversation, charming, and something to "show" her at your place it won't be to difficult.

I second this...never had a big issue with coffee dates. Managed to even get verbally sexual in a couple...which blows up later on :mrgreen:
Author:  J.Daniels [ Sat Aug 01, 2015 9:35 pm ]
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Don't do coffee dates ffs!!
Coffee is okay if you're trying to get a girl to feel comfortable around you. If you do that, the goal would be to move her from coffee to your place. If you have good conversation, charming, and something to "show" her at your place it won't be to difficult.

I second this...never had a big issue with coffee dates. Managed to even get verbally sexual in a couple...which blows up later on :mrgreen:
That's because both of you know what you're doing. You could both probably intentionally get friendzoned by 5 girls and fuck all 5... that doesn't mean it's the easiest thing for a new guy to do :)
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sat Aug 01, 2015 9:53 pm ]
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I will give you that one Daniels...
Author:  twoontarmac [ Mon Aug 03, 2015 11:40 am ]
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Thanks for all of your tips on this. I ended up inviting her but she had plans to hike, she did say another time perhaps? I then went on to say Let's get together next week or something. I'll reach out to you. She said ok sounds good!. So at this point I would have to ask her out to meet somewhere. I'm not exactly sure where I should go as I haven't gone out with anyone in a while. I can do like dinner, walk in the park, a bike ride to my secret spot I don't share with many people. Idk any suggestions would be helpful.
Author:  J.Daniels [ Mon Aug 03, 2015 1:58 pm ]
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She will probably keep flaking. You should have set a definite date for next week, if she rejected you should have never reached out again and just let her come to you.

If you do try again, only do it once. Seriously, only once. With each attempt, you communicate lower value.

Picture it like this:

Attempt 1. You're going for what you want, good for you.
Attempt 2. You're clearly into her, I mean if you're trying twice then you're interested!
Attempt 3. Really? You must not have many options
Attempt 4. Take the hint
Attempt 5. Lets just be friends
Attempt 6. Ignore

^ Lol, not every situation is the same, I'm just giving you something to imagine, maybe to stop you trying too many times. More than 2 would be ridiculous.
Author:  twoontarmac [ Tue Aug 04, 2015 2:05 am ]
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She will probably keep flaking. You should have set a definite date for next week, if she rejected you should have never reached out again and just let her come to you.

If you do try again, only do it once. Seriously, only once. With each attempt, you communicate lower value.

Picture it like this:

Attempt 1. You're going for what you want, good for you.
Attempt 2. You're clearly into her, I mean if you're trying twice then you're interested!
Attempt 3. Really? You must not have many options
Attempt 4. Take the hint
Attempt 5. Lets just be friends
Attempt 6. Ignore

^ Lol, not every situation is the same, I'm just giving you something to imagine, maybe to stop you trying too many times. More than 2 would be ridiculous.
Nice! thanks man. I haven't reached out yet but was thinking of shooting her a text tomorrow to see whats good for Thursday or Friday to meet. Not sure where to go but was thinking something like a dinner. Or she can meet me like in the city somewhere. Not really sure yet. Any solid ideas would be helpful.
Author:  J.Daniels [ Tue Aug 04, 2015 2:08 am ]
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I keep repeating this everywhere... but a bowling alley. Click on my profile, show posts, look for one about a bowling alley... there's quite a lot, explaining the reasons why etc
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Tue Aug 04, 2015 2:15 am ]
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She wants the d... what more do you need to know?

Are you going to give it to her? You better make up your mind before she gets bored.
Author:  twoontarmac [ Tue Aug 04, 2015 3:03 am ]
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I keep repeating this everywhere... but a bowling alley. Click on my profile, show posts, look for one about a bowling alley... there's quite a lot, explaining the reasons why etc
Never thought of this... bowling sounds like a great idea actually. It's a place where you can do pretty much everything in one space. How would you go about sending an invite out. I don't really know her well at all except from when we spoke at the beach and I'm sure my friends girlfriend gave her the run down on me since she passed her my number. Should I open a text conversation being straight forward like "Hey whats up?" What's the end of the week look like for you? Or hey I've been meaning to slide my balls down a slick alley, care to join me for a game of bowling?

In all seriousness, I haven't went on a date in about a year since I've broke up with my ex girlfriend. I know it sucks pretty bad but all help will be greatly appreciated.
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