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| Author: | Zeru [ Fri Jun 12, 2015 11:29 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Can it kill attraction letting conversations last too long? |
Not nessisarily with texts because I am in a good place there. I'm thinking more about conversations in person and hangouts. I tend to really enjoy the connections that I have with a lot of these girls when just chilling with them. Because of that, I always want the interactions to last longer. Wether we hang out for a long time or a short time, the girl I'm with is normally the first one to say I have to go. what I'm concerned about is if they are always the ones to say it first, and I am rarely the first to say, " I have to go." Is that an attraction killer? |
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| Author: | magipimp [ Fri Jun 12, 2015 11:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Can it kill attraction letting conversations last too lo |
So your talking about interaction that aren't of the date variety. From what I've read it the only reason they would want to leave is if they found something better to do, or they're nervous. So your conversations may be boring, or too sexually intense. Do they laugh? is it genuine, forced, or nervous? Do you hold long logical conversation that don't lead anywhere. Are you constantly moving in a direction and turning things up or just sitting there talking? |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Fri Jun 12, 2015 11:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Can it kill attraction letting conversations last too lo |
Ignoring attraction during conversation kills attraction. That's why you hear us constantly say that you need to escalate. |
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| Author: | magipimp [ Sat Jun 13, 2015 2:15 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Can it kill attraction letting conversations last too lo |
Jack is right, the thing about escalation is that you have to pace it right. This would be the art of PU. You can read a bunch of scientific theory on what you should do, but interactions are dynamic. You'll get better at it with practice, let me know if you'd like some great resources on escalating and flourishing in this arena of pickup. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Mon Jun 15, 2015 1:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Can it kill attraction letting conversations last too lo |
It depends man.. I've had attracted killed in 5 mins and I've had situations in which I hung out with a woman for 36 hours straight "outside" just walking around the city, talking, and then we fell in love. Love and attraction isn't based on "length" its based on what you have inside of you. Now if you're not confident about your ability to maintain a conversation/maintain attraction for as long as you please then of course it will. Because the girl will be responding to the strength of your frame. I personally know that I'm cool as hell. I can talk for hours upon hours and keep people listening. Was I always this way? No. But it didn't happen until I began pushing beyond my boundaries. You're still young bro. Grow as much as you can. You don't have to limit yourself as if you're some old guy who's running out of time to develop his gifts and skills. Talk as much as you like, learn women, and learn how the system works. The "rules" are guides. They aren't absolute, Not to mention rules are broken and then new rules are made. What a woman wants more than anything is for the guy she is communicating with to be present in that moment. Not in his head. Fully present with his body and with her. As long as thats in place you can communicate for as long as you will like. It is only when you go back in your head for too long and begin "thinking" does attraction fizzle out. |
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| Author: | wilyone [ Mon Jun 15, 2015 10:02 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Can it kill attraction letting conversations last too lo |
Yes, it definitely can kill attraction when a guy hovers around too long. The sexy, high-value guys never stay in one place for long. They are always moving around, talking to different people, not glued to a strange woman's side for 30 minutes. It's too much investment. When guys stick by my side it makes me feel pressured and a little annoyed, even if I was mildly interested in the beginning. |
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