i am not looking for a LTR SPAM. when i hit my mid-thirties, i want to find a woman that is loyal to me. a woman who keeps a large amount of orbiters on purpose somehow puts me off.

You sound insecure.

A large part of a woman's loyalty is dependent upon how YOU make her feel. How affective YOUR leadership is.

You sound insecure.

A large part of a woman's loyalty is dependent upon how YOU make her feel. How affective YOUR leadership is.

Like I said..

Imagine there were women of all kinds, types, and creeds trying to have sex with you all day long. Everywhere you go, everytime you leave the house there are women trying to have sex with you. You would turn down the majority of them (as a woman you would turn down more), but you're going to eventually make friends with some of them. Perhaps this is why ancient cultures kept there women fully clothed and in the homes most of the times. Anyone that understand seduction can tell you that a womans attraction to you isn't necessarily her choice. Its about YOU affecting her. Femininity must submit to the masculinity that knows its power. Not all cases of all, but generally this is true. Our society today isn't setup for women not to have orbiters. Control what you can control.. You can control her, but you can not control the orbiters.

A woman is only going to do what you're willing to stand for. If maintaining relationships with orbiters will make you "leave her" she won't do it. She'll only do what there is a chance you will stick around for. This is where a strong frame and mindset comes into play. She's only responding to whats on the inside of you.

it seems that there is no way a woman would give up their orbiters. if she has to choose between her orbiters and her boyfriend, she would not hesitate to ditch the jealous boyfriend. Most PUAs wouldn't settle for one woman. It is a good thing. PUA never feels jealous. However, I want to get married at a certain age. I want to find someone who is not selfish. Someone who doesn't look for backup plans.

You all think it's so easy to handle these types of situations. Girls will try to hold on to their friends and if you show that you feel threatened by the friends she can and will lose attraction for you.

I'm curious as to how exactly will you bring up the idea of making her drop those guys she's known for years without coming off insecure? Would you present an ultimatum? Would you do some slick manipulative thing?

Explain.

I get it, set the terms before the relationship. Would you do this by having a relationship conversation or casually dropping things you do and do not accept early on in general conversations?