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| Author: | TheLazyGent [ Fri Jun 05, 2015 3:36 am ] |
| Post subject: | Question about shy guys who made it |
Ok I think my biggest problem is that I dont have chemistry with 90% of people, but the people that I do I love and when it applies to girls I become needy bc i dont connect with most people (notice I didn't say girls). My problem is with people not girls. I feel sometimes I lack a personality with 90%, but when I have chemistry I am the happiest person. I feel like I lack social savy. I have never approached a group of girls that I dont know. It is one of my biggest fears. I fear it because i hate being awkward and I am really good at it. It sucks because I have a good looking face (9.5/10), I do bodybuilding competitions so my body is a 9/10, I am studying for the CPA and will have a good paying job eventually. I just dont connect with people. In others eyes, I dont contribute to conversions and do not emit positive energy that girls are attracted to. Is there anyone else in the Pick Up world that "has made it" that was at some point similar to me? My question is simply. How did you get to where you are now considering where you started? |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Fri Jun 05, 2015 11:32 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Question about shy guys who made it |
You sound like every other client that I have ever had. Which again contributes to a mans looks not being as important as we would like to believe. A great looking guy without game will struggle a ton more than an average looking guy with good game. That only goes to show you the order of importance. Now a good looking woman without charm doesn't struggle at all, but a average looking woman with charm will still struggle. Opposites do attract. I have found that some of the shiest guys I know, that are the most fearful when it comes to taking courageous steps have a masturbation issue as well. They're masturbating 5 or more times a week. It weakens them and kills the motivation to step beyond the confines of their comfort zone. If you this is something you could relate to I would advise you go at least 30 days without masturbating and see if you can feel a huge difference in the amount of anxiety you have to deal with. It will be dramatically reduced. This is advice for the shy introvert. Not the natural who was always social. Masturbation doesn't hinder him because being social is already within his comfort zone. I say that would be step one. While doing that I advise you begin correcting the way you word your thoughts and sentences. Our thoughts become our words, our words become our actions, our actions become our habits, our habits become our character, and our character becomes our destiny. The subconscious mind doesn't hear words like "not" or "Don't or "won't". Its moving it a forward motion. So when you say "don't" it hears "do". When you say "won't" it hears "will". Therefore you can begin slowly reprogramming you subconscious by expressing yourself with "not" positives. For example: Instead of saying "i'm Shy" - You'll say " I'm NOT very social". The subconscious will hear " I'm very social" and work to bring that to the forefront of you conscious mind after enough repetition. Instead of saying " I fear approaching" - you can say " I'm not confident about approaching " - And it works to bring this to the fore front of your conscious mind after enough repetition. You can beat this man for sure, and thats just a couple simple things you can being doing right now to bring about change. And remember, just like exercising. It takes time to get the body you want. If you just worked out for one day, you wouldn't see results. You have to repeat certain exercises consistently over 3-6 months before you get the results you seek. These are emotional and mental muscles. They have to be worked out just like all other muscles. And it takes time commitment and effort. So once you understand that, you'll begin working daily toward your goal just like you would do with your body. If you obese emotionally and mentally, it will take more time than someone who is slightly over weight emotionally and mentally to get to where they want to be. Whats your emotional and mental body type? That will tell you how long its going to take you to become an emotional and mental body builder, full of the courage and strength to get to where you wanna be. Heres a quote that you can use as well when thinking about being more social: Quote: “I will act now. I will act now. I will act now. Henceforth, I will repeat these words each hour, each day, everyday, until the words become as much a habit as my breathing, and the action which follows becomes as instinctive as the blinking of my eyelids. With these words I can condition my mind to perform every action necessary for my success. I will act now. I will repeat these words again and again and again. I will walk where failures fear to walk. I will work when failures seek rest. I will act now for now is all I have. Tomorrow is the day reserved for the labor of the lazy. I am not lazy. Tomorrow is the day when the failure will succeed. I am not a failure. I will act now. Success will not wait. If I delay, success will become wed to another and lost to me forever. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person.”
― Og Mandino |
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| Author: | R.C [ Fri Jun 05, 2015 11:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Question about shy guys who made it |
More or less every guy that ever got good was in your shoes at one point. Some are naturals, others become naturals. Anyone can do it, but almost no one is willing to put in the work. This shit is supposed to be fun. And it becomes fun once you understand it's ok to suck. The ego is a frail thing, but ultimately you control it, not the other way around. You'll go through horrible rejections, soul-shattering moments that will keep you up at night and further down the road they'll be some of your fondest memories. So go out there and don't be afraid to suck. Sucking is the first step in becoming good. |
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