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Author:  urbangent [ Tue Jun 02, 2015 7:03 pm ]
Post subject:  Tinder First Date?
First time I've used Tinder
Anyway met this one cool girl, she's in medical school and she's an exotic type face is about a 9 but body isn't that impressive. What drew me to her because she's super smart and she has shit going right in her life. No dependency.

I did a compliance test and told her to text me. Which she did and she was texting me all night for hours. She was throwing me all kinds of shit test, I think she was a bit concerned about using Tinder and didn't want to seem like a one of those "girls". She was questioning me hard giving more shit test. I passed them all and wanted to build rapport. I'm not a text game supporter because in my opinion you can't game over the phone. In person is the best way to go also since it's my first time meeting her I don't want to talk about my life via text. Rather do all that talk during the date, I closed the date for this Friday at a sake bar.

I kind of don't want to text in between now and Friday. Should I send her ping texts or should I just go no contact until the day before of the day of to confirm. I don't want to lose the attraction.

What's you guys opinion? I'll update this thread continuously and will keep updated on how the date goes.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue Jun 02, 2015 7:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tinder First Date?
Let her open

I'm sure she will.

And do you best not to focus on what you "Don't" want, just put the focus on what it is you do want. Fridays only 3 days away. No biggy. And she'll probably open you or text you the day of or the day before.

In the future though, you don't have to actually "end" conversations on a " I'll see you next week" kind of thing. You can continue chatting after the date has been set up.

Does she know the address of the place already? Or the time? Thats something simple and easy you can open with if you hear nothing, but if she's interested she'll check on you so she can find out. Maintain connections though man. You could respond every hour or so if need be. And once that connection is locked in the chick will be opening you daily just to check in.

How long has it been since the last contact?
Author:  urbangent [ Tue Jun 02, 2015 7:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tinder First Date?
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Let her open

I'm sure she will.

And do you best not to focus on what you "Don't" want, just put the focus on what it is you do want. Fridays only 3 days away. No biggy. And she'll probably open you or text you the day of or the day before.

In the future though, you don't have to actually "end" conversations on a " I'll see you next week" kind of thing. You can continue chatting after the date has been set up.

Does she know the address of the place already? Or the time? Thats something simple and easy you can open with if you hear nothing, but if she's interested she'll check on you so she can find out. Maintain connections though man. You could respond every hour or so if need be. And once that connection is locked in the chick will be opening you daily just to check in.

How long has it been since the last contact?
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Yes the time and place is already setup she already knows everything so we're on. The last time I talked to her was last night via text. That's when she passed the compliance test. From there we was talking on and off for a few hours. I had to keep the conversation interesting as I got a little bored with her.

I ended it with saying I'll hit you up later

But I'm not a fan of texting I'd rather be ready for the date
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue Jun 02, 2015 7:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tinder First Date?
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Let her open

I'm sure she will.

And do you best not to focus on what you "Don't" want, just put the focus on what it is you do want. Fridays only 3 days away. No biggy. And she'll probably open you or text you the day of or the day before.

In the future though, you don't have to actually "end" conversations on a " I'll see you next week" kind of thing. You can continue chatting after the date has been set up.

Does she know the address of the place already? Or the time? Thats something simple and easy you can open with if you hear nothing, but if she's interested she'll check on you so she can find out. Maintain connections though man. You could respond every hour or so if need be. And once that connection is locked in the chick will be opening you daily just to check in.

How long has it been since the last contact?
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Yes the time and place is already setup she already knows everything so we're on. The last time I talked to her was last night via text. That's when she passed the compliance test. From there we was talking on and off for a few hours. I had to keep the conversation interesting as I got a little bored with her.

I ended it with saying I'll hit you up later

But I'm not a fan of texting I'd rather be ready for the date
From the sounds of it, she'll contact you.

And I feel you on the texting thing. There is a lot to talk about though. An once a chick is comfortable with you, she'll reach out to tell you "EVERYTHING" going on in her personal life. Women are looking for someone to confide in. Men don't get the same luxury.

Sounds like you'll be cool.
Author:  urbangent [ Tue Jun 02, 2015 10:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tinder First Date?
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Let her open

I'm sure she will.

And do you best not to focus on what you "Don't" want, just put the focus on what it is you do want. Fridays only 3 days away. No biggy. And she'll probably open you or text you the day of or the day before.

In the future though, you don't have to actually "end" conversations on a " I'll see you next week" kind of thing. You can continue chatting after the date has been set up.

Does she know the address of the place already? Or the time? Thats something simple and easy you can open with if you hear nothing, but if she's interested she'll check on you so she can find out. Maintain connections though man. You could respond every hour or so if need be. And once that connection is locked in the chick will be opening you daily just to check in.

How long has it been since the last contact?
.


Yes the time and place is already setup she already knows everything so we're on. The last time I talked to her was last night via text. That's when she passed the compliance test. From there we was talking on and off for a few hours. I had to keep the conversation interesting as I got a little bored with her.

I ended it with saying I'll hit you up later

But I'm not a fan of texting I'd rather be ready for the date
From the sounds of it, she'll contact you.

And I feel you on the texting thing. There is a lot to talk about though. An once a chick is comfortable with you, she'll reach out to tell you "EVERYTHING" going on in her personal life. Women are looking for someone to confide in. Men don't get the same luxury.

Sounds like you'll be cool.

Yeah I will let her contact me again
I just don't feel the need to keep contacting her everyday leading up until Friday
Wasn't sure if I needed to, obviously I will ping her the day before the actual date which will be Thursday if I don't hear from her.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Wed Jun 03, 2015 5:24 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Tinder First Date?
The issue with setting up a date with such a long time frame is that many things that can happen in the meantime. I usually just make the girl want to meet up with me rather than set a set date if she isn't available in a few days. If a date is set four dates in advance, I usually get flaked on since she will have more time to think about the date.

I have been seeing a trend...if the girl isn't available in a few days I just have her agree to the activity rather than set up a date and time. For now you let her come to you. You can always reinitiate playful conversation and light comfort, but you're right, not every day. On the day of the date, do the whole how's your day going, and then go in with the "does (insert time) still work for you". Confirming the date a few hours before the date is better than the day before in my opinion.


Good luck.
Author:  urbangent [ Sat Jun 06, 2015 1:49 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Tinder First Date?
Wanted to give you guys an update, just got off the date about an hour ago. So the date went ok. She traveled about an hour to get to me, some investment in her part. I need some more time to analyze the entire thing personally, she's a 7.5 and I don't know how I feel about her after meeting in person. The date got started out on a bad vibe on her part. The place I intended to take her to was a really cool hip bar. She forgot her ID at home, she said she switched her purses, and the place wouldn't let her in. I got really pissed because a lot of other spots nearby had long waits, and she was being really picky we went to about 5 spots before we chose one together.

Anyway I chose this random cheap Italian spot she got a salad, and she said she couldn't eat meat, I'm guessing she's on a diet, she offered me the salad to taste but I said no and offered my food she said that's she's good, I got my pasta and drinks for myself lol. She didn't even order a drink and was really conservative, she said she barely drinks lol then why did she accept my date at a bar initially? lol

I could tell she was nervous, and that was making me nervous for a bit, but that's normal and she say said never did an online date. Now I go into rapport building mode. I talk about our similarities and we have many things similar. I got her more comfortble with more laughing and smiling. Along with strong eye contact.

Date was 2hrs, ended the date with a hug, didnt get the kiss vibe so I didn't do it.
She thanked me and told me to keep in touch.

What's you guys opinion on this. Should I just let her contact me after this? Or should I hit her up in a few days and ask for the day 2 sometime in between.

Thanks guys
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Sat Jun 06, 2015 2:41 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Tinder First Date?
Sounds like you spent the entire night being a reaction to her instead of creating something for her to react to. All of your finger pointing is directed at the wrong one. The leader should never point at the one he's suppose to be leading to suggest why his leading wasn't effective.

And your last question.. If you don't know how you feel about her, why would you need to look for an opinion on whether or not you should contact her or wait? Isn't that something that you should base around your own complete feeling toward the girl? Why would you want to? Especially after what you said just prior to that question?
Author:  urbangent [ Sat Jun 06, 2015 6:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tinder First Date?
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Sounds like you spent the entire night being a reaction to her instead of creating something for her to react to. All of your finger pointing is directed at the wrong one. The leader should never point at the one he's suppose to be leading to suggest why his leading wasn't effective.

And your last question.. If you don't know how you feel about her, why would you need to look for an opinion on whether or not you should contact her or wait? Isn't that something that you should base around your own complete feeling toward the girl? Why would you want to? Especially after what you said just prior to that question?
Your right Eddie, however the mishaps happened, not placing blame I just had to deal with the obstacles that were placed on her behalf. However after I slept on it, she is a cool girl however we did not click on a deeper level beneath the surface. No point to contact, if she opens me that on her accord however no point to make any further investment. Keep on hunting.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Sat Jun 06, 2015 7:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tinder First Date?
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Sounds like you spent the entire night being a reaction to her instead of creating something for her to react to. All of your finger pointing is directed at the wrong one. The leader should never point at the one he's suppose to be leading to suggest why his leading wasn't effective.

And your last question.. If you don't know how you feel about her, why would you need to look for an opinion on whether or not you should contact her or wait? Isn't that something that you should base around your own complete feeling toward the girl? Why would you want to? Especially after what you said just prior to that question?
Your right Eddie, however the mishaps happened, not placing blame I just had to deal with the obstacles that were placed on her behalf. However after I slept on it, she is a cool girl however we did not click on a deeper level beneath the surface. No point to contact, if she opens me that on her accord however no point to make any further investment. Keep on hunting.
Indeed.

Salute bro.
Author:  Dragula [ Sat Jun 06, 2015 8:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Tinder First Date?
Always ping with Tinder. Too many guys on there. Think of it as spinning plates and keeping them spinning or keeping a fire a light.

A pic of your current meal can open up some amazing content. Girls barely know anything about me because I text current stuff. Send her stupid dubsmash vids etc. I'm kinda showing my personality not telling her what my personality is.

Once you are on the date, just turn off game mode and turn on "don't fuck it up" mode and lead it where you need take it

Edit - I should read all the replies before posting lol
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sun Jun 07, 2015 12:16 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Tinder First Date?
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Sounds like you spent the entire night being a reaction to her instead of creating something for her to react to. All of your finger pointing is directed at the wrong one. The leader should never point at the one he's suppose to be leading to suggest why his leading wasn't effective.

And your last question.. If you don't know how you feel about her, why would you need to look for an opinion on whether or not you should contact her or wait? Isn't that something that you should base around your own complete feeling toward the girl? Why would you want to? Especially after what you said just prior to that question?
Your right Eddie, however the mishaps happened, not placing blame I just had to deal with the obstacles that were placed on her behalf. However after I slept on it, she is a cool girl however we did not click on a deeper level beneath the surface. No point to contact, if she opens me that on her accord however no point to make any further investment. Keep on hunting.

Dope ass response ^, not too many dudes are like this girl ain't worth it in the long run. :!:

AND lolol ^ at Pebble.
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