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| Author: | dasmooth [ Thu May 14, 2015 11:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Asking For The Name. Old School Rule Still Apply? |
Never really asked this question cause in the community its often said to not ask for her name. But I've also seen n heard coaches say they'd ask their name, though they'd do it without making the girl feel she's having the pressure of the conversation on them. They'd follow the law of reciprocity sharing something about themselves then ask for her name. It would usually be a hi following it up with a pacing statement with leading statement. Afterwards they'd say their name and ask for hers? Just wondering from this standpoint on following this reciprocity principle, is it still a "no-no" to ask because if she responds shes investing n thts a hoop to see how comfortable/attracted she is which is a good sign? Have done it before n it's never gotten a bad reaction . |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Thu May 14, 2015 11:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Asking For The Name. Old School Rule Still Apply? |
I ask names all the time... Nothing wrong with it. Introduce yourself, say hi, smile, and she'll more than likely give you her name when you tell her yours. |
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| Author: | neo87 [ Thu May 14, 2015 11:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Asking For The Name. Old School Rule Still Apply? |
Quote: Never really asked this question cause in the community its often said to not ask for her name. But I've also seen n heard coaches say they'd ask their name, though they'd do it without making the girl feel she's having the pressure of the conversation on them. They'd follow the law of reciprocity sharing something about themselves then ask for her name.
It would usually be a hi following it up with a pacing statement with leading statement. Afterwards they'd say their name and ask for hers? Just wondering from this standpoint on following this reciprocity principle, is it still a "no-no" to ask because if she responds shes investing n thts a hoop to see how comfortable/attracted she is which is a good sign? Have done it before n it's never gotten a bad reaction . Alot of this stuff is based off of the context of the writer. Is it day game? Night game? Social circle? Indirect? Direct? You can get a million answers on what works, but at the end of the day...just try stuff. See the results. Figure out what works for you and your situations. |
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| Author: | dasmooth [ Fri May 15, 2015 12:21 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Asking For The Name. Old School Rule Still Apply? |
I was just talking in the context of being direct . Never really lke to go indirect unless being direct ddnt really hook therefore ill shift back to indirect talking about myself or whts going on around til she's more comfortable. From there ill just build more compliance and investment. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Fri May 15, 2015 12:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Asking For The Name. Old School Rule Still Apply? |
This is overthinking at it's finest. Something simple as asking for a name is a show of interest. When a woman ask you for your name, its a sign that she's taking some level of interest in you. When you ask for her, its a sign of the same thing. Now if you're one of the guys that believes you shouldn't show any interest in the woman you're approaching than by all means don't ask for her name. If you believe in showing interesting in the woman you're approaching ask for it. Hell, do you even want to know? Do you care what her names is? Guys tend to build from the top to bottom, women build from the bottom to the top. Ever ask a girl for her number and she says " You don't even know my name" We generally don't see a name as being of that much importance. "Who she is", is of more importance to us that "What her name is". We rather get the number, get out with them and find out all the small details later on. The way a woman sees it, "If you don't even care what my name is, how are you going to care about deeper stuff. You can't possible care about the deep things if you ignore the shallow things". They lump everything in, how you do one thing, is how they'll think you do everything. So I ask for the name because its "What she wants" and it cost me nothing. Repeating her name during the interaction is also an easy way to bond yourself to her subconsciously. |
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| Author: | Jay (Majik) [ Fri May 15, 2015 7:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Asking For The Name. Old School Rule Still Apply? |
If you're genuinely interested in knowing it, fuck yeah. Are you asking about if you should ask her name right off the bat? Again... as long as you're genuinely interested in her... you can make a girls face light up by just asking for her name. You can give her that "movie" feeling by just the way you look at her. Your intention is everything. Your intentions are to sweep her off her feet. Talk to her in a playful/make her pussy wet tone. If you don't know what that is, figure it out. Get good at showing this through your body language and eye contact too. Asking for a girls name is showing interest. That's why I said... as long as you are genuinely interested, go ahead. Because you'll be congruent. And congruent "works." That's also why I said you can make a girls face light up. So many girls these days WISH guys would talk to them but they don't. They want guys to be interested in them and their lives. But actually INTERESTED is the key word there. Most guys just ask they questions hoping that the girl will say "okay. you've gotten to know me enough I guess. Lets go fuck." and it really doesn't work like that. |
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| Author: | dasmooth [ Sat May 16, 2015 3:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Asking For The Name. Old School Rule Still Apply? |
Exactly. Reading stuff in the very beginning of learning lke " The Game" which I never finished cause to me it was very anal the whole process of (A)(C)(S), but, more on the point I remember something about Neil saying tht you should never ask for the name . I dnt know if those were really words or Erik's words since he taught him, either way I just thought it was dumb. In the daytime approaches you're approaching her already telegraphing interest. It just makes sense to ask for the name in the interaction. Now on the other hand if you're in a club with her friends n you're talking to the whole group, maybe its best to save tht for later to see if she volunteers tht info , or prompt her for it. As an example, I told a girl tht to me she seemed lke a Veronica n she said no im Makenzie. Shook her hand , did a funny handshake with a powerslide, n continued talking. Did the same thing to another girl saying she seemed lke a Veronica n she laughed about it not giving me her name. I kinda took tht as a bit of attraction cause she lke passively accepted it but ddnt say her name. I just continued. But yea it just makes sense for me to ask in the daytime cause for me its genuine . |
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