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Author:  nickfury [ Sat May 09, 2015 12:04 am ]
Post subject:  rescheduling without sounding needy or desperate
How do you guys do it when you ask a girl out on a particular day and she can't do it?

I have had this situations where I ask a girl out and he answer is like she wants to go out, just not the day you asked her (either she was tired or had another thing planned)...

My mind wants to say: ok you can't tonight how about tomorrow? hahaha but in order words that would be just like telling her "let's go out whenever you can I am desperate enough that I can accommodate"

Any suggestions?
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Sat May 09, 2015 4:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: rescheduling without sounding needy or desperate
Asking "When are you available?" spares you from being told "no".. doesn't it?
Author:  nickfury [ Sat May 09, 2015 10:58 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: rescheduling without sounding needy or desperate
Yes but if i ask when is she available am I not being submissive as in "we'll meet when you are available". I want her to think we are meeting on my terms and not on hers lol
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Sat May 09, 2015 11:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: rescheduling without sounding needy or desperate
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Yes but if i ask when is she available am I not being submissive as in "we'll meet when you are available". I want her to think we are meeting on my terms and not on hers lol
And that is exactly why you're currently without a date.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sun May 10, 2015 2:23 am ]
Post subject:  Re: rescheduling without sounding needy or desperate
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Yes but if i ask when is she available am I not being submissive as in "we'll meet when you are available". I want her to think we are meeting on my terms and not on hers lol
And that is exactly why you're currently without a date.


PUA gone too far with this one..


I second the asking when she is available. This take some pressure off of the meet up.
Author:  nickfury [ Sun May 10, 2015 6:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: rescheduling without sounding needy or desperate
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Yes but if i ask when is she available am I not being submissive as in "we'll meet when you are available". I want her to think we are meeting on my terms and not on hers lol
And that is exactly why you're currently without a date.

Hahaha makes a lot of sense.
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Sun May 10, 2015 6:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: rescheduling without sounding needy or desperate
These guys are completely right. This alpha "always top dog" shit has ruined a lot of guys' chances.

Absolutely nothing wrong with asking when she's available. If you want to soften it say "what day works best for you."
Author:  Playboi_ [ Sun May 10, 2015 7:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: rescheduling without sounding needy or desperate
Eddie is on point with most responses. Why not ask when she is free? Isn't that the only way you will know when is convenient for both of you?
Author:  Dragula [ Sun May 10, 2015 8:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: rescheduling without sounding needy or desperate
This is one of those pick up things that make me cringe just like the 'persisting' on girls when they have been clearly been blown out.

Asking a girl, 'let's meet Tue' is a total guess and fake alpha

A simple, 'which day of the week are you free?' is all that is needed. No bravado bullshit
Author:  R.C [ Mon May 11, 2015 7:04 am ]
Post subject:  Re: rescheduling without sounding needy or desperate
I usually suggest a day and if she's busy ask when works for her. If that works for me too, great. If not, repeat the process.
Author:  Playboi_ [ Tue May 12, 2015 4:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: rescheduling without sounding needy or desperate
I am in the middle of setting up a date with a girl and the first day I suggested along with the place to meet, she said she had work that night. I told her no worries and that we will find a night that works. I left it that vague because I knew that I am working every night this week. She responded by saying "yes, it shouldn't be too hard." Quickly followed by a second message from her of "when is another day you are free this week."

I am legitimately busy the rest of the week and told her this and that beginning of next week is the better option. Now, she waits until I know my free time next week and I attempt it again.

No games played. Just inquiring about the time she is free because that is the only way we can get together lol. You're thinking too much.
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