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| Author: | Adam_Sandler [ Sat Apr 18, 2015 10:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Should you always take the I love you SPAM serious? |
I have been seeing this girl for about a month and a half. We have hung out quite a bit, at least 2-3 days each week. Also we have hooked up a couple times. Anyways pretty obvious we are both into each other, we text and call a lot. She has disclosed that she likes me a lot and, and told her feelings mutual. She comes over one night to hang out in the pool and hot tub at my apartment. We both drink quite a bit, we end up hooking up. After we are done she just holds onto me and wont let me go. She keeps telling me a she loves me. Eventually she asks If I love her too, in a half-inebriated post hook up mind state, I say yes. Should I take this exchange seriously? She is a bit young 18, (I recently turned 22), plus we both had a decent amount to drink. Also, would she expect for me to take this seriously, since we have only been going out for a month in a half? |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Sun Apr 19, 2015 12:56 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should you always take the I love you SPAM serious? |
She probably does love you, but only in a way an 18 year old girl can conceptualize love. She hasn't had a lot of experience in anything, so her feelings are likely more based on the experiences she is having with you and not much more than that. Basically what I'm saying is, you take her statement seriously but at the same time as she matures and has more experiences she's not going to take this current feeling of love as seriously. |
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| Author: | anonymousani [ Sun Apr 19, 2015 2:20 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should you always take the I love you SPAM serious? |
yeah she is pretty young man. at the age of 18 the world looks completely different than from a 22 year old. it's young love for her, not saying it's not true, but love is a lot more than what she thinks it is. this is like some of her first experiences like this so it feels magical and special, but it's because its a first time for her |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Sun Apr 19, 2015 2:30 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should you always take the I love you SPAM serious? |
Puppy love to me. This is the kind of love young women experience and guys like me take and shatter. Well in the past I would have, I have matured more.. I'd take it seriously. |
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| Author: | Adam_Sandler [ Thu Apr 23, 2015 4:40 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should you always take the I love you SPAM serious? |
Yeah I feel its just puppy love on her part, though I feel like I should honor as more than such. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Fri Apr 24, 2015 6:50 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should you always take the I love you SPAM serious? |
Women are creatures of the moment. And this is an area where many guys go wrong and begin to slowly kill their relationship. Did she mean it? Yes, but only because that is how she FELT in that moment. And you must keep in mind that she was saying "I love you" to the guy you were being in that moment. The guy you were being right before she said those words, because it is that guy that caused her to produce those emotions. NOW, if you allow her saying " I love you" to change how you're going to feel about her or treat her in ANY WAY - you are no longer the guy she loves, you have become a new guy that has been affected by her statements. So she'll keep that love so long as you remain the guy you were being just moments before she said it. Guys fuck up by thinking thats a sign that they can become softer now - the girl said she loves them - all is right with the world. They become affected and as a result the girl can no longer feel that love because they guy is no longer being the guy he was being when she said it. If I could drill one thing into the heads of guys headed toward LTR's this would be it. Who she wants is the guy you were being in the moments she said those words. All that other shit is just extra. Now if you said you love her too, she'll take that to heart. Its masculine in nature to stand by your word. Its feminine in nature to go with the tide. You're the direction. So you must upkeep and be consistent so that she can be reminded of how you would want her to feel. So in closing.. Take no significance from this situation. Keep being the dude you were before any of this. Mixing that up lands you with a 3-6 month relationship. I've been there and I've learned. |
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