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| Author: | Ghost. [ Mon Apr 13, 2015 3:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Playful callouts? |
So if you've been out with a girl couple of times and are trying to set up another meet-up but she takes too long to answer, what do? I texted her about 1 hour and a half ago. She always gets back at me but sometimes takes quite long to do so which is not uncommon of her. Anyway, she flaked the last time so I need to know whether she's free or not, because if she isn't I'll just make plans with someone else. Is sending a follow-up like "Someone's playing hard to get" a bad idea? It's in a playful manner but I'm not sure. Normally I'd just go ahead and make other plans but last time we met she replied after two hours or so accepting. I'm not holding my breath here. Still I never knew how to deal with situations like these. |
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| Author: | Spacevolt [ Mon Apr 13, 2015 5:12 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Playful callouts? |
now, not all the people have the same free time you do have. not everyone will text you back right away as they get a text. specially if its not a text engaging enough. and specially if you do not have build rapport yet. Besides why do you even text her. i feel like it takes away that masculine energy away from us. rather call her. engage with her in the moment not through texts. and no do not send that i feel like telling a girl "someone is playing hard to get" through text isn't the same thing is you say it in person and make it seem playful. it comes more as serious as in "someone is not letting me get into her pants" the thing with texting is that you can't really communicate emotion. sure it gives a hint but not the same result. |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Mon Apr 13, 2015 5:21 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Playful callouts? |
Quote: Is sending a follow-up like "Someone's playing hard to get" a bad idea? It's in a playful manner but I'm not sure.
Yes it's a bad idea.A whole hour and a half, eh? Really? You know people have lives, right? If her tardiness bothers you, make other plans. Have some respect for your own time. When she asks why - tell her she didn't get back to you, so you made plans... She doesn't get to ride if she misses the boat. Maybe she'll reply more promptly next time. ...Though an hour and a half is not a lot of time. |
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| Author: | R.C [ Mon Apr 13, 2015 5:28 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Playful callouts? |
Depends on a few factors. Is saying something like that congruent with your personality? The difference between coming across playful or needy is the way she contrasts what you say to who you are. Generally speaking it's a bad idea. However if you've been out a few times already and have a connection, some rapport going on, it's acceptable. Still not a great idea, but acceptable in special cases when you need a prompt answer for whatever reason. Don't hyperventilate over it. You can send that text if you want but as a general rule, like Charles said, respect your own time. Do not make a specific girl your #1 priority. And if you do, at least don't let it show. I get it, sometimes you can't help it. When that happens, take a few breaths of fresh air and remember your training. |
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| Author: | Dragula [ Mon Apr 13, 2015 5:30 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Playful callouts? |
Quote: I texted her about 1 hour and a half ago.
OH MY!!!!!
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Mon Apr 13, 2015 5:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Playful callouts? |
So what you;re saying is you would much rather hang out with this girl you're "waiting on" instead of the girl you could potentially set something up with? Playful callouts and/or callouts in general work, but you have to actually be being playful and/or not dependent. And from the looks of this post you sound a little dependent. You have to keep in mind that just because you have 1,000,000 women you can sleep with in seconds that still doesn't equal the one girl you have some emotional involvement with. Guys use this excuse all the time ' I'm not desperate. I just went on 3 dates this week." Desperation is an emotional thing.. If all there is an physical attraction to the other women and nothing really "deep" you can have all the women in the world and still be needy/desperate. You say you aren't holding your breath, but you are.. Thats why this post is even being made and thats why you're waiting/holding before texting the next girl. Set something up with the other girl and plan to see this one another day. She's obviously a lot more important to you than you are to her. And thats no way to maintain any long lasting attraction. |
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| Author: | Ghost. [ Mon Apr 13, 2015 5:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Playful callouts? |
Quote: Playful callouts and/or callouts in general work, but you have to actually be being playful and/or not dependent. And from the looks of this post you sound a little dependent.
I am a little dependent yes. That's because she's been showing huge attraction ever since we met and lately, past week, I've been getting mixed signals. So I panicked a bit.It's easy to have a 1.000.000 women mentality when you're actually dealing with 1.000.000 women, but that's not the case for me. Not yet anyway. I'm not a master at this by any stretch of the imagination. |
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| Author: | Jay (Majik) [ Mon Apr 13, 2015 5:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Playful callouts? |
Quote: because if she isn't I'll just make plans with someone else.
Okay, well then if an hour and a half is too long to wait... to it. Don't just talk like a g... Actually go through with it. If your boss kept telling you that if you don't perform better, he's going to fire you. But you know he's a bitch and does have the balls to actually do it.... Where is your incentive to change? Either put your foot down for real or don't do it at all. A "playful call out" just makes you seem like you're looking for attention. |
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