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| Author: | YokezHam111 [ Mon Apr 13, 2015 12:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Girls gets bossy |
So I repeatedly run into same situations almost with every girl I am gaming (no matter 5 or 9) - she gets bossy and tries to lead me in the comfort-building phase (around 2-3 date). The problem is that I don't know how to act in such situations. They just happen out of the blue. Overall, she may be really into me, bombard me with IOIs, kino, kissing, etc., but then she start treating me like her little annoying brother, tries to dominate me, order me around, etc.. A few real life examples: (in a bar) Me: "OK, let go sit at that table" (going there) She: "No, I want to stay at the bar" Me: "OK" (going back to her) (on the street) She: "Let's go this way." (going where she wants to go) Me: "If we want to go to XYZ we should go that way. I have been here before" She: "No, I have been here before too (she hasn't) - we go this way. Let's go!" Me: "Listen, we should really..." She: "C'mon! =(" Me: "Let me check my GPS" She: "No! We are going this way =(" (just walking away) Me: (just joining in) (in university) Me: "May I use your pen for a sec?" She: "No =|" Me: "OK" (on the street) Me: "Hey, you know, l was rea..." She: "Shhh! =| " (typing a text on her phone) You got the point. I do know why this happens and I know that I must be assertive, but I don't know how. I don't think that it will be really 'alpha' to make a scene over what direction to go - or 'point her at the door' every time she behaves like that. Thanks for reading this post! |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Mon Apr 13, 2015 6:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girls gets bossy |
You're following.. And showing you're the "Follower" type in subtle ways from the start so she's only treating you like wha you're acting like. And what you're hinting and sub communicating to her based on the frame you've been giving off to her since you guys met. If you do the same thing over and over how could you expect a different result? How about you just don't follow and continue to go in the direction you thought was best with or without her. Or say something like " Fine. You go that way and I'll go this way. Lets see who gets there first" or " Cool.. I'll meet you there" and then just WALK, don't sit around waiting for her approval. |
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| Author: | Dragula [ Mon Apr 13, 2015 6:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Girls gets bossy |
Yeah it's good to a be a little stubborn. That one little supplication can really destroy the entire dynamic. This one time i made eye contact with a stunning girl and she smiled. I waved her over but she shook her head and waved me to come to her. I shook my head and didn't supplicate. I managed to bump into her later on naturally and it went a lot better that way as opposed to losing man points going to her. |
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