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Author:  psiconauta [ Tue Feb 10, 2015 4:14 am ]
Post subject:  Girl thinks Im a RAPIST
I was in a relationship some years ago and during that time I found a dog on the street. I took him home and put adds on the internet if someone was interested in adopting him. After a couple of days the dog had a new home.

But day after that, this girl added me and asked me about the dog. I told her that someone already adopted him and we talked for a while. We got along and started talking often and she seemed to be flirty at times.

However, I had to delete her, my gf in that moment made a scene out of this.

But since Im single again, I reconnected with her on FB and surprisingly she still remembers me. I asked her out and she agreeded but said "Ill be on exams so Ill meet you in 2 weeks after im done with this" and gave me her number. I agreed and we kept talking for some days. As days passed she seemed less interested and sometimes even unresponsive.

Today has been 2 weeks. She talked to me on FB because of some song I share with her. We talked for a while and the conversation seemed to be kinda ok but not to fluid. After a while she said "hey I gotta go....when...?" and I was replied with "...when...what?". She didnt say nothing and I continued with "its been 2 weeks" and she said "yeah hahaha" and we agreed to meet on Thursday.

Funny thing is she said this (on the phone) ; "If you want to meet me, my condition is that you must come to my university so we´ll meet after Im out of classes. And I want you to meet me inside the place" . At first I was like WTF but then I realized she must be worried I might be some random rapist or psychopath... its pretty ok since my city has been striked by lot of crime in the recent years.

Even though, I told her that I understand that, but also told her to stop repeating it to me like a threat. I said "I got it now, dont make me repeat this, just stop" And she did. So shes kinda deffensive but seems to be interested in meeting me since she was who brought the topic.

So, this girl seems to be conservative. Shes 2 years younger than me and seems to be that kind of woman who is kinda responsible and clear headed. Im not into that stuff and I know she seems to be pretty different than me in that aspect. Should I do kino asap or wait? I dont want to make her feel uncomfortable. Any advice?
Author:  sikrion [ Tue Feb 10, 2015 5:50 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl thinks Im a RAPIST
make it fun.

"You are worried about me raping you??? wtf its me who has to be worried! How do I know you aren't going to rape me???"

easy. if you make it a big deal it will be if you play it off as silly it will be silly.
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Tue Feb 10, 2015 1:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl thinks Im a RAPIST
That's a heavy subject line for what this actually is.

She doesn't think you're a rapist - she's either had a bad experience herself, or someone she knows has... Or she's just being cautious.

I'm on the same page as you with the 'enough already, I got it'... She shouldn't be repeating herself like she's giving you commands, but as long as she's not belaboring it further let it slide, man.

I would kino/escalate the same as any other girl. If she tells you no, then stop. That's it.

No need to switch things up cause of some precaution she took before she met you.
Author:  fudge_88 [ Tue Feb 10, 2015 1:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl thinks Im a RAPIST
She doesn't think you're a rapist. Let me ask you a logical question since you're not a woman. Would a woman who thought a man was an actual rapist agree to meet with him?

You're mind pulled rape out of thin air for some reason which concerns me. She is being cautious. She is also throwing 1000 compliance tests at you and you are agreeing to every one of them. She's basically setting all of the terms, and I think she will flake on you when the date time arrives. If not, she is going to throw more compliance at you. It will reach a point where she is just giving you commands because the tone right now is that she has the power. If you try to refuse any terms she sets it will cause problems. Be prepared to have your backbone ripped out.

That being said, no need to get defensive yourself because that is an attraction killer. Ask yourself the next time she does this "does what she ask me to do make logical sense?" if it doesn't then you are being tested.

Some women like men they can control, some don't. I don't know where this girl stands because I don't know too much about her. You'll find out soon though. I'm thinking she is the type that likes men she can control. The reason I say that is because she is agreeing to meet you even after you have complied to all of her demands. If her major at school has some sort of real career path behind it and not some stuff she's doing just out of passion she is definitely one of those women.


Oh...and don't talk about rape to a woman you haven't slept with yet...Not even as a joke.

That falls into the realm of avoidable conversation topics. Such as politics, stds, pregnancy, and murder...
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue Feb 10, 2015 1:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl thinks Im a RAPIST
You have to play the vibe man. No one can tell you that you HAVE to kino if you aren't producing a vibe that going to make her receptive to it.

I personally don't play into those little " I'm not sure if i'll be safe with you" games, because it makes me uncomfortable. And if i am going to be the one leading, I can not afford to be uncomfortable.. I usually respond with something like " Then lets wait, we'll go out and meet somewhere mutual after you figure out I'm not a killer". Patience is the game I have found and as long as you're WILLING in vibe to be patient you don't necessarily ever have to be. Women usually cave once they know you're WILLING to walk away or WILLING to take the initiative.

This is how you get girls to just come over to your place without ever having to take them out on a date. You have to know how to build comfort and plow through their resistance with WILLING patience. You can literary order girls up like papa johns pizzas from sites like okcupid, pof, and tinder when you know how to handle conversations on the phone properly.

Just go and feel her out man. You have to have confidence and spending too much time on a forum asking about a girl you haven't even met yet is counter productive to a confident mindset.
Author:  Chief [ Tue Feb 10, 2015 10:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl thinks Im a RAPIST
Something like 1 in 4 women have experienced some form of sexual assault or molestation. Keep that in mind.

You need to respond to potentially negative things like this with positive affirmations in order to establish rapport and set the foundation for compliance and shaping.

OK that sentence may have sounded all PUA-nerdy and incomprehensible, but all you need to know is that you need to demonstrate understanding and approval. For example, saying something like this would have been good:

"I think it's awesome that you're being careful about your safety like this. I guarantee that I'm not some weirdo looking to do anything bad; I'm just a normal cool guy who kinda likes you. But I respect that you're smart enough to look out for yourself by taking these kinds of precautions. I hope that we can learn to trust each other. You're cute."

I won't get into how that sets the foundation for compliance and shaping here (unless someone's dying to know), but what you need to take away here is that you should know how to turn any negative into a positive.

Don't talk about rape or anything potentially traumatic with her until the two of you actually get close just in case she has had traumatic experiences like this. You wouldn't want to chase her off with triggers.
Author:  psiconauta [ Wed Feb 11, 2015 1:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl thinks Im a RAPIST
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Something like 1 in 4 women have experienced some form of sexual assault or molestation. Keep that in mind.

You need to respond to potentially negative things like this with positive affirmations in order to establish rapport and set the foundation for compliance and shaping.

OK that sentence may have sounded all PUA-nerdy and incomprehensible, but all you need to know is that you need to demonstrate understanding and approval. For example, saying something like this would have been good:

"I think it's awesome that you're being careful about your safety like this. I guarantee that I'm not some weirdo looking to do anything bad; I'm just a normal cool guy who kinda likes you. But I respect that you're smart enough to look out for yourself by taking these kinds of precautions. I hope that we can learn to trust each other. You're cute."

I won't get into how that sets the foundation for compliance and shaping here (unless someone's dying to know), but what you need to take away here is that you should know how to turn any negative into a positive.

Don't talk about rape or anything potentially traumatic with her until the two of you actually get close just in case she has had traumatic experiences like this. You wouldn't want to chase her off with triggers.
Hey dude, how are you?

Well this chick and I were chatting last night, it was all good and out of the blue she started acting like in a bad mood and replied me in a rude way once then said "Im in a bad mood" so I just said "Too bad. Good night" and stop answering. After a while she send me a long ass text apologizing herself but I didnt answer because I was already in bed.

This chick contradicts herself a lot, like she seems to be interested in meeting then talking like this, like she actually tries to prove herself as "strong" and take control.

Any tips?

Btw, Ive heard about you on chat and they say you knwo some things about gaming as an introverted... Id like to hear more about that.
Author:  Chief [ Wed Feb 11, 2015 10:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl thinks Im a RAPIST
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Well this chick and I were chatting last night, it was all good and out of the blue she started acting like in a bad mood and replied me in a rude way once then said "Im in a bad mood" so I just said "Too bad. Good night" and stop answering. After a while she send me a long ass text apologizing herself but I didnt answer because I was already in bed.

This chick contradicts herself a lot, like she seems to be interested in meeting then talking like this, like she actually tries to prove herself as "strong" and take control.
She strikes me as someone who recently went through some hard times in dating, or has some sort of trauma from a while ago. If I were you I wouldn't consider her as relationship material because that's gonna lead to some tough times for yourself if you commit. Regardless, this is about pickup/seduction, so what you need to do at this point is to inspire her to lower her guard. She's just being defensive because she's been hurt before. Show that you understand her and that you're here to leave her better than you found her. As you establish more rapport, act more compassionately. Saying "too bad" when she felt bad worked in your favor now because you haven't had any sort of depth with her yet, but you're going to want to open up to each other more soon. Or after you have sex. Which should be soon anyway.
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Btw, Ive heard about you on chat and they say you knwo some things about gaming as an introverted... Id like to hear more about that.
I'm always here for my fellow introverts. Email me at chief@seductiveintrovert.com anytime if you have questions about my Seductive Introvert program or anything related to that.
Author:  Davidrrr981 [ Wed Feb 11, 2015 11:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl thinks Im a RAPIST
Yeah, my advice is to accept her rules. Man, if you're interested, go with the flow. Do not ask her to stop repeating it, cause maybe for her it's important you're not a psycho.
Author:  Versalis [ Thu Feb 12, 2015 2:07 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl thinks Im a RAPIST
One thing I have noticed, when a girl fights me, just to get her out on a date, I basically never bang this girl, or get anywhere good.

Maybe you'll have better luck than I do. It just seems like when she's throwing one thing up after another, she's looking for no, and that doesn't lead to good outcomes in my experience.
Author:  oceanx [ Sat Feb 14, 2015 3:40 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl thinks Im a RAPIST
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That's a heavy subject line for what this actually is.
Very true, but it did get us clicking :lol:
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