PUA Forum :: Need an answer ASAP! Girl asked me for drinks

Sorry for hijacking this thread but something very similar happened to me.

Met this girl online, talked to her for like 3 days and we built good attraction and rapport in my opinion based on things that she said like 'you have definitely captured my attention now' etc.

Yesterday, we were talking about things we are passionate about (me trying to qualify her) and when I asked her a specific question about something she said 'how about over drinks or whatever you're into?'

I replied with 'yeah definitely we could do drinks/coffee/whatever, when are you free in the next few days?' I also her to text me on my number instead of online.

Received a text on my cell from her saying 'I'm free tonight and going away for the weekend so if you're around let's meet up?'

I waited a bit and then replied affirmatively asking about the location and since then no reply. Lol. This would have been our first date/meetup.

I'm new to game so I guess I fucked up a bit after that by leaving her a text along the lines of 'hey, never heard back from you last nights and based on the ABC I've gotten to know this isn't you at all. I hope you're doing fine'.

Any comments on how I could have done better. Also, have i irreversibly fucked this up now?

Author:	FuturePUA7 [ Fri Nov 14, 2014 4:38 pm ]
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Hey everyone, I've liked this girl for some time now and recently she got some good news and told me we should go out for drinks to celebrate. Is this a good sign? We are going tonight so I really need to know how to escalate with her before tonight so please guys if you have any pointers please let me know. Thanks!

Author:	JackZero [ Fri Nov 14, 2014 4:40 pm ]
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Does this girl like you too or is she just asking you out as a friend?

Author:	FuturePUA7 [ Fri Nov 14, 2014 5:05 pm ]
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Well she knows I like her, we have kissed in the past while we were drunk. In the past I used to always message her and lately I have been talking to other girls and I think she's noticed because she is always trying to start convos with me now

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Fri Nov 14, 2014 5:16 pm ]
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First things first... Sloooowwwww the **** down. Is it just you going with her? And whats your previous history when it comes to dealing with women. You don't want to take some advanced escalation advice if you aren't yet comfortable escalating. Whats the history? Have you ever asked her out before? Sex? More details are needed. Although aside from that man.. You have to create your own reality for the women you like to live in. The chosen are made up of those that chose themselves. Therefore if you to your core believe this is a good sign (despite what any else thinks) you have the ability to lead this situation into whatever is in congruence with your desire. You have all the power. A woman is looking for you to lead her. You second guess yourself and she will second guess you. You display confidence and she will be confident in you. Despite whatever is going on.

Author:	JackZero [ Fri Nov 14, 2014 5:32 pm ]
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Quote: Well she knows I like her, we have kissed in the past while we were drunk. In the past I used to always message her and lately I have been talking to other girls and I think she's noticed because she is always trying to start convos with me now That's a lot better description of what's going on and her motivations for inviting you out. At this point, I'm assuming she's wanting just it to be the two of you. You have to assume that she is into you now, but you have to make her work for you now because you are wanted by other women. But you are going to have to make her qualify herself to you. If you fall into the same routine you did before, she will be in control like she was before.

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Author:	FuturePUA7 [ Fri Nov 14, 2014 11:15 pm ]
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WOW. so this girl just messages me now, we were supposed to meet in four hours. she says this: "Hey I'm sorry I can't come out tonight!" "Have fun! " this really pissed me off, i just replied saying "no worries". I can't stand it cause I really like this girl and now I feel like shit. Help please, is there still hope?

Author:	oceanx [ Sat Nov 15, 2014 8:26 am ]
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Quote: WOW. so this girl just messages me now, we were supposed to meet in four hours. she says this: "Hey I'm sorry I can't come out tonight!" "Have fun! " this really pissed me off, i just replied saying "no worries". I can't stand it cause I really like this girl and now I feel like shit. Help please, is there still hope? Don't sweat it (I know, easy for me to say). There is hope: Keep on with the other women. Next time you set up something with her FLAKE ON HER. Tell her in advance that you have to cancel (i.e. something better came up). In the meantime keep going with the other women like I said.

Author:	kimster7 [ Sat Nov 15, 2014 3:05 pm ]
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Sorry for hijacking this thread but something very similar happened to me. Met this girl online, talked to her for like 3 days and we built good attraction and rapport in my opinion based on things that she said like 'you have definitely captured my attention now' etc. Yesterday, we were talking about things we are passionate about (me trying to qualify her) and when I asked her a specific question about something she said 'how about over drinks or whatever you're into?' I replied with 'yeah definitely we could do drinks/coffee/whatever, when are you free in the next few days?' I also her to text me on my number instead of online. Received a text on my cell from her saying 'I'm free tonight and going away for the weekend so if you're around let's meet up?' I waited a bit and then replied affirmatively asking about the location and since then no reply. Lol. This would have been our first date/meetup. I'm new to game so I guess I fucked up a bit after that by leaving her a text along the lines of 'hey, never heard back from you last nights and based on the ABC I've gotten to know this isn't you at all. I hope you're doing fine'. Any comments on how I could have done better. Also, have i irreversibly fucked this up now?

Author:	Rebooting [ Sat Nov 15, 2014 4:06 pm ]
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Quote: Sorry for hijacking this thread but something very similar happened to me. Met this girl online, talked to her for like 3 days and we built good attraction and rapport in my opinion based on things that she said like 'you have definitely captured my attention now' etc. Yesterday, we were talking about things we are passionate about (me trying to qualify her) and when I asked her a specific question about something she said 'how about over drinks or whatever you're into?' I replied with 'yeah definitely we could do drinks/coffee/whatever, when are you free in the next few days?' I also her to text me on my number instead of online. Received a text on my cell from her saying 'I'm free tonight and going away for the weekend so if you're around let's meet up?' I waited a bit and then replied affirmatively asking about the location and since then no reply. Lol. This would have been our first date/meetup. I'm new to game so I guess I fucked up a bit after that by leaving her a text along the lines of 'hey, never heard back from you last nights and based on the ABC I've gotten to know this isn't you at all. I hope you're doing fine'. Any comments on how I could have done better. Also, have i irreversibly fucked this up now? I don't know why exactly she flaked on you, but... You are the guy. You take her out. You lead. Asking her about a location is NOT good. You should have been like "I know a good place for drinks, we can head there after blablablah..."

Author:	kimster7 [ Sun Nov 16, 2014 12:13 am ]
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It wasn't just the location, it was also the time and everything. As I said, we were planning to meet for the first time so had to figure those things out. But I definitely do see where you are coming from, men are supposed to lead. Spot on. Next time I'll just propose a time and place myself and then if she has a problem she can suggest an alternative. What I'm more concerned about now is how to deal with her given that she has flaked out once. Also, as I said, I think I screwed up by leaving her a text after she had flaked when it seems I should have just waited it out casually. So, anyone got any suggestions for the game plan from this point onwards or is this just a dead lead now? Haha I still can't believe she flaked she seemed genuinely interested lol. Obv when I say 'flake' I mean she never confirmed a time and place for our proposed meet up, not that it frikkin matters.

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