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Author:  WhiskeySuit [ Fri Nov 14, 2014 12:36 am ]
Post subject:  Girl not taking initiative to start conversations, help

Hey! I've been a lurker for quite some time and this site has helped me alot, thanks guys! :D Anyways, story time now, I have some questions for you guys.

So I was an 8 hour ride away form home, visiting my friend, and we decided to get to this party I was invited to (I have a lot of friends everywhere). Was mainly concerned with having a good time, and being my friends wingman since he haven't lost his V-card yet. :roll: I went around at the party, wingmanning my friend. I ended up KC-ing 1 girl and getting 2 numbers. It's okay considering I only approached 4 girls myself.

2-3 hours into the party two girls arrived, let's call the girl I decided to game Lisa and her best friend who she came with Victoria. They were standing right infront of us and Lisa looked at me, looked down on the floor and back at me again, a good sign. I approached them asking if they were shy, because I stood there talking to my friend and they didn't come to say hi.

Fast-forward, I pushed my friend on Victoria because he needs a little push. So I sat down with Lisa and we talked about everything and exchanged our drinks for a sip from time to time. I moved my chair closer to her every now and then, and started Kino. She was really comfortable, laughed alot, smiled, and we had a strong eye-contact. Suddenly, out of nowhere, she told me about this one guy she had sex with and followed up with "Woops, did I really say that?" with a shocked face. I just laughed and called her a bad girl. She switched the topic to something else immediately, maybe I should've tried to switch it back?

When the party was over, Lisa asked us if we wanted to go somewhere to eat. So we did. Suddenly Lisa said that she wanted to go home, because she was tired, and I couldn't figure out a way to get her home because Victoria was crashing at her place. I sat with my arm wrapped around Lisa and my hand on her thigh when I tried to KC. She dodged it and turned her cheek to me and said "I thought we were just friends?". I just laughed and said "No", she smiled, and I kissed her again. This time she didn't dodge and we kissed. My friend was being a loser and didn't kiss Victoria even though she gave him a lot of signs.

I got Lisa's number, texted her two days after we met "You should be regretting that you went home", cause she knew we were going to another party. She replied "Was it that good? Aw.. Well, I was so tired so I had to sleep, and I had a game the day after".

When girls are attracted to you they usually start conversations, but she isn't. Did I screw up by not KC'ing her earlier or could it be that she's taking the distance between us in consideration and doesn't want to end up hurting herself? Some of you will say "She's just another girl, get over it" but this girl was far more interesting than any girl I've ever met.

Author:  oceanx [ Fri Nov 14, 2014 4:07 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl not taking initiative to start conversations, help

I don't see where you did a single thing wrong. Just hit her up to meet up again and you should be good. Good job man.

Author:  andrewbalderree [ Fri Nov 14, 2014 4:47 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl not taking initiative to start conversations, help

Yeah he's right. sounds like you nailed it man.

if everything felt right for you i'll bet it did for her too. You seam pretty socially aware so I'm sure you would have noticed if she wasn't interested.

High 5

Author:  WhiskeySuit [ Sat Nov 15, 2014 5:52 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl not taking initiative to start conversations, help

Thanks guys! Considering she lives 8 hours away, should I be cold or just keep on texting her and starting the conversations every time? I know I'll be going to the same city in a couple of months

Author:  andrewbalderree [ Sat Nov 15, 2014 5:57 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl not taking initiative to start conversations, help

I'm terrible at keeping long distance relationships, but my brother kills it. He's always having girls come in from out of town to visit for a few days because he friends the shit out of them through text and SPAM and then he kinda slips in with his sexual side (pardon my pun)

I know I probably wouldn't take the same approach, but keeping communication works. And if it does, having a sexy SPAM partner with the occasional weekend vacation isn't so bad.

Get it buddy

Author:  Versalis [ Sat Nov 15, 2014 2:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl not taking initiative to start conversations, help

Yes, you should have kissed her earlier. You wanted her to come back to your place to fuck, when she wasn't even clear if you liked her or not(hence the "aren't we just friends?" comment). Once she says she's tired and wants to go home, THEN you make a move.

You played it way too safe, and got the reward you most typically will while trying not to screw things up - you missed the window.

Next time you see her, try again and move fast.

Author:  WhiskeySuit [ Sun Nov 16, 2014 12:42 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl not taking initiative to start conversations, help

Alright, thanks guys! I usually play it a little too safe, probably because I was just being C&F and maybe a little TOO nice before I joined this site. I got girls back then too, but I got the "I thought you just wanted to be friends" waaaay too often. :roll:

Will keep texting her 2-3 times a week :mrgreen:

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