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This semester i finally talked to her and slowly over the term we have gotten to talking and she is fairly comfortable around me.

I bring up more personal topics and she responds but never asks me anything personal? so the conversations often run out of steam after about 3 minutes

I start conversation most of the time but if we are walking to class and she is walking in front of me she will turn around and talk/ walk with me to class?
but then get to class she wont sit next to me she will sit with a seat inbetween us?

Its so confusing and i feel like i have been getting mixed messages and i just dont know whether she likes me or its just me hoping she does.

And the reason i just havent asked her out yet is because i get terrible approach anxiety.. I want to ask her out so bad but i just wont let myself ! and i hate my self because of it

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And the reason i just havent asked her out yet is because i get terrible approach anxiety.. I want to ask her out so bad but i just wont let myself ! and i hate my self because of it

The reason you have this anxiety is because deep down, you know this is the one thing that you need to do to find out if she interested in you or not.

Come on mate, grow some bollocks. You want her to make a clear IOI to you so that you will be rejection free. Not gonna happen bro, the longer you leave it the more likely you're to get stuck in the friend zone - Then one day see her waking down the street with someone like me holding her hand because I got bigger balls

If you are willing to leave it if you can't find an IOI from her, then you have nothing to lose, no? - Just assume she is interested bro. This mindset will ironically can make her more attracted to you.

Author:	qwerty23 [ Fri Oct 03, 2014 10:33 am ]
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Hey fellas, Okay sorry to be that guy, but like so many before i cant tell if this girl likes me and i need to know cause its driving me crazy!! A little back story. So we go to university together and she is in all my classes. She is only around campus for 3 days out of the week as she goes home (she lives like an 90 minutes away) on days we don't have uni which is 5 days in a row. This semester i finally talked to her and slowly over the term we have gotten to talking and she is fairly comfortable around me. Anyway these last 2 to 3 weeks i have started to really like her, and i mean really like her! but i have no idea if she likes me. We talk for a bit most days, but its usually always about school work. I bring up more personal topics and she responds but never asks me anything personal? so the conversations often run out of steam after about 3 minutes I start conversation most of the time but if we are walking to class and she is walking in front of me she will turn around and talk/ walk with me to class? but then get to class she wont sit next to me she will sit with a seat inbetween us? Its so confusing and i feel like i have been getting mixed messages and i just dont know whether she likes me or its just me hoping she does. we have also emailed each other but that was only school work related. She also doesn't have facebook ... which is annoying so i cant see if she has a boyfriend or find out anything about her anyway what do you guys reckon ? And the reason i just havent asked her out yet is because i get terrible approach anxiety.. I want to ask her out so bad but i just wont let myself ! and i hate my self because of it So if enough people say she does like me then i will use that as motivation to ask her. Similarly if not then i wont worry about cheers

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Oct 03, 2014 1:05 pm ]
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Quote: This semester i finally talked to her and slowly over the term we have gotten to talking and she is fairly comfortable around me. Exactly how long to get to this point? Quote: I bring up more personal topics and she responds but never asks me anything personal? so the conversations often run out of steam after about 3 minutes I start conversation most of the time but if we are walking to class and she is walking in front of me she will turn around and talk/ walk with me to class? but then get to class she wont sit next to me she will sit with a seat inbetween us? That's because that is as far as your 'friend zone' extends. Quote: Its so confusing and i feel like i have been getting mixed messages and i just dont know whether she likes me or its just me hoping she does. Not confusing, she's just treating you like one of the girls.

Author:	Dragula [ Fri Oct 03, 2014 2:57 pm ]
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Quote: And the reason i just havent asked her out yet is because i get terrible approach anxiety.. I want to ask her out so bad but i just wont let myself ! and i hate my self because of it The reason you have this anxiety is because deep down, you know this is the one thing that you need to do to find out if she interested in you or not. Come on mate, grow some bollocks. You want her to make a clear IOI to you so that you will be rejection free. Not gonna happen bro, the longer you leave it the more likely you're to get stuck in the friend zone - Then one day see her waking down the street with someone like me holding her hand because I got bigger balls If you are willing to leave it if you can't find an IOI from her, then you have nothing to lose, no? - Just assume she is interested bro. This mindset will ironically can make her more attracted to you.

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Fri Oct 03, 2014 6:19 pm ]
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You have to look at things like this in a series of steps and realize the reality of your situation. If its taking all of this just to ask a girl out.. How much more is it going to take to actually make any moves to generate attraction? Surely if you can't do something as simple as asking a girl on a date you don't think you'll be ready for the actual date? This is the easy part man. And with the levels of pressure you're placing upon yourself rejection is almost inevitable. But you have to try anyway so you can built the character needed to capitalize off this opportunity the next time you find yourself in it.

Author:	fishnwomen [ Sat Oct 04, 2014 5:15 pm ]
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Class is a tricky situation man- there is a lot going against you- you can't generate attraction as easily with your abundance and the setting does not bode well for flirting. I agree with Eddie- if you can't ask her out, how are you going to perform during the date? Stop putting pressure on yourself- you got this bro.

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Author:	DurandalBlue [ Wed Oct 08, 2014 9:35 am ]
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Quote: Quote: And the reason i just havent asked her out yet is because i get terrible approach anxiety.. I want to ask her out so bad but i just wont let myself ! and i hate my self because of it The reason you have this anxiety is because deep down, you know this is the one thing that you need to do to find out if she interested in you or not. Come on mate, grow some bollocks. You want her to make a clear IOI to you so that you will be rejection free. Not gonna happen bro, the longer you leave it the more likely you're to get stuck in the friend zone - Then one day see her waking down the street with someone like me holding her hand because I got bigger balls If you are willing to leave it if you can't find an IOI from her, then you have nothing to lose, no? - Just assume she is interested bro. This mindset will ironically can make her more attracted to you. This Grow some balls man. Your story is just stagnant.

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