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Author:  GivenToFly [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 1:51 am ]
Post subject:  Dating another Man, but confused with me.

Hi guys,
I've been thinking a lot about this particular issue i'm having.
And since im pretty much out of ideas I've decided to come here to the forum and see what do you think my best options are.

I'm from Uruguay.
I've been in an unhealty relationship for almost 5 years now (it started good, but then it got toxic and shit..)
She cheated on me... was mean... and even with all of that i forgave her. (Stupid beta... or even worst)
It was my weak side.. but since she was one of my first "pick ups" when i started reading this fourm, and using this techniques... i guess it backfired me.

Anyway... I started college this year... (a short course)
And i met this Wonderful, beautiful HB8/9 (Fake tits but just gorgeus)
anyway. im not a natural... but along the way i learnt the ways... i know how to make an opener, a good impresion, and since i liked her i started to making small moves toward her.

As time happens... i realize she was WAY into me. she started phoning me, texting me...

One day, in the middle of the class. She kissed me.
it was a big fucking surprise.
i was like "wtf. I freaked out. mostly because i was still with my GF... the mean one.
After some days... the hb9 invited me to her home, i went... she invented a NO SEX policy... we ended up cuddling and sleeping in her bed.

Then she went on a holiday for 1 month with her family.
We continue talking but she got mad at me for not dumping my GF...

When she got back... i dumped my gf... coz i wanted to be with her...

But she told me that she is already seeing someone.

Days went by... and she invited me to her home. we kissed again...

but nothing else.

Then she tells me "sorry... im with this guy now... i dont want to hurt anyone so this is not right"

but in class she continue to sit next to me, held hands with me, make me massages... and also kiss me in the cheek...

So...
Right now what happened today was that we went together to the bus stop... and she told me that even when she likes me, she is trying with this other guy who is deeply commited to her (she didnt say IM commited to him) she said, im confused, and dont know what to do.
I decided to play the "ok, this is over, i wont speak to you anymore" card, but she was like, but i dont want that... i want us to continue being together...
in the end she kissed me on the cheek and huged me, and looked at me with sad eyes... like she wanted to be with me...

So im seeing that i still have a chance.
Which move should i make ? i really want to have this girl. Been making a lot of effort and i wont give it a rest now...

Im seeing her 3 days a week.
Should i stop talking to her.?
im not sure if that is good if she is confused...
what do you think?

Author:  Pikeman85 [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 5:25 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Dating another Man, but confused with me.

Drop her, you can do better.

Author:  CharlesFinley [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 12:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dating another Man, but confused with me.

Oh jeez man.

She likes the attention you give her... She likes having you as an option while she's fucking another guy.

You do like the toxic ones, don't you?

As Pikeman said - you can do better than this... you're doting on this one girl who's unavailable, but wants you to be available. Effectively you're making her a priority while she's making someone else her priority.

I would run from this one.

Author:  Cool Hand Luke [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 1:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dating another Man, but confused with me.

Your her back up. She got mad at you for not making a move sooner.

You can still play this. It's a combination of what the other guys are saying.

Stay talking with her. Be friends with her. Even ocasionally try escalating on her. Just to let her know you still want her. Then at the same time seek out other girls. Date of girls. Get involved with other girls. She'll feel it.
Get her jealous. Then play the cards from there.

Author:  breedlove465 [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 1:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dating another Man, but confused with me.

Easy dude. First, block all communication with your ex. You're lucky to have broken it off with her.


For this new chick, man up, tell her your not into games, tell her that you want a girl that knows what she wants and right now she obviously doesn't. And end it with that. If she invites you over and she hasn't broken it off with this bf just tell her that you're busy or dont respond at all.

Author:  hugge [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 2:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dating another Man, but confused with me.

You need to draw a line. Give her an ultimatum - she has to make a choice. You or him. If she can't make up her mind, ditch her. You need to be tough here. That's the only right thing to do.

Author:  GivenToFly [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 4:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Dating another Man, but confused with me.

Hi!!,
First of all
thanks for your replies!!:)

Yeah, its good that i grew the balls to left my exgf... she was a pain in the ass, i was being lame in staying with her.

Regarding HB9
so far i didnt speak to her since yesterday, last thing we "talk" was me saying to her to reconsider going out in an innocent date with me. she just replied ":("

Today, she did put some likes in random pictures in my facebook, totally unrelated, guess she was waiting for me to talk to her, (we used to text everyday)...
but i didnt to anything.
I will see her again TOMORROW at class.
Should it sit next to her, like always?
or should it play it tougher and sit with some other chick (guess its gonna be obvious anyway...)

I can feel as cool hand said that she is mad at me for not engaging sooner... but it was the way it was... i cant change that fact.
But all i know is that she is looking for me all the time.
So i need to capitalize that feeling she is having towards me... and make it something productive...

I will see her again tomorrow. i cant do anything about that.
What i dont know is if should be me... or should look tougher... careless...
what do you think?
Today i will not talk to her.

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