Hello everyone I am new to this site and am in desperate need of some help. Let me explain my situation and all comments/pointers/tips/answers are welcome. It may be a bit long as I really want everyone to understand so please bear with me.
I had first met Steph on New Year's eve through a mutual friend. We went to the liquor store because at the time my friend and steph were underage, she is one year younger than me. They came back later that night to an event me and my friends were at. I got Steph's number that day. They left and I didn't see her again until my friend arranged a hotel party a week later.
*Side note: She had a boyfriend at the time who was at a strip club"
At the hotel party we began to click we were sitting on the bed just talking to each other, almost gazing into each other's eyes. Later that night she started crying to me about her boyfriend so I comforted her. We were both drunk. That was all.
After that I never saw her until almost a year later at a bar with our same mutual friend. As soon as I sat down she touched my leg and said "I promise I won't cry again". I got us a couple shots and that was all. (She is still with her bf at this point)
I saw her on and off again a couple of times since then.
More recently, I offered her to use my house for the Ice Bucket challenge. She did and then told me she's taking off her clothes because she was cold. She did so in front of me and then asked for a towel. I then drove her home and she commented that she loves that I know where her house is.
After some texting of her telling me that her boyfriend had been looking for other girls and what not she texted me saying "Haha I'm officialy single" so I quickly jumped at the opportunity I had been waiting for and asked her if she wanted to grab food this weekend. She agreed to go with me.
So this past weekend we went out and I felt that it went well, she looked great and it seemed to me that we were flirting, she grabbed my hand once, good eye contact was made and she laughed a lot her feet and legs were pointed towards me on the way there and I thought it went well. She even said when we were going to the restaurant "we'll do sushi next time". So I took it as a good sign. The only regret I had was I never made a move at the end of the night, I just hugged her as usual.
There is a huge reason as to why I didn't make the move: I'M AFRAID.
Some reasons why are:
- I never officially called it a date although it felt like one so I was worried she might have thought we were friends and that's it. (Even though as soon as she told me she was single I said, "OK we're going for food this weekend")
- I was worried she would reject me and break my heart. (I know I sound like a loser but I'm just letting you know)
Anyways, the day after we went out I sent her a text, here is how the convo went (please analyze for me)
Me: Hope you had fun last night!
Steph: I did thanks
Me: We have to go for sushi for next time I want to try that Tapinaki
Steph: Aha ok
sounds good to me lolllMe: We won't trust the GPS next time though lol
Steph: Lol I know right AHAHHAHAHA
Basically in this convo I am still worried if she sees this as a friendly outing and also the "lolll" is irritating me I don't know why. Also after that last text from her I just stopped responding, I heard it was a good technique.
Now! Last night at around 11pm I texted her. Here is how it went it's brutal.
Me: So what sort of trouble did you cause today?
Steph: Haha none at all I worked 8 hours ahah you?
Me: Work for me today too, pretty long day. So you must have had a lot of tea then?
(She works at a tea shop)Steph: Awh nice any progress,? And lol actually no :$ lots of water though
Me: It's looking like it, big meeting tomorrow with Canon Canada, are you working tomorrow too?
Steph: That's awesome and no I'm off tomorrow
Me: Finally a break lol nice
Me again: I find work takes so much longer since I quit smoking lol
and...no response. I feel like I fckd up big time, maybe lost her interest, talking about myself too much? I really don't know. 30 minutes later she sends me a snapchat of her and one of her friends (a girl) watching a movie in the dark at her friends house. She sent this random video to me but didn't even respond to my text I don't get it.
If you have made it this far thank you so much this is very important to me. So the reason I came here is I want to find out a couple of things.
1. What do you guys honestly think from what I told you about her feelings towards me?
2. I need some serious help in texting like I have seen everything on the internet about a hook, making a connection and teasing her sexually, but I have know her for some time so I need a different approach I literally need step by step examples of what I should text this girl to make her actually enjoy it and look forward to when we go out again and more importantly give her the idea that it is more of a date and less two friends, if that is even what she is thinking I honestly have no idea.
Please help me I want to set something up for this weekend but i want her to understand that its a date without screwing myself over by being too forward if that makes any sense. Also just so everyone knows I'm 21 and she's 20. I believe I am in love with her.
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