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| Author: | sugarwallz616 [ Sat Aug 30, 2014 7:16 am ] |
| Post subject: | How NOT to be creepy? |
This question is pretty straight forward: How do i escalate in a night setting, present interest without looking creepy or needy but yet making the girl want to return the feelings. Could somebody maybe just give a short step by step process, that would probably explain the answer the best. |
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| Author: | Versalis [ Sat Aug 30, 2014 3:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How NOT to be creepy? |
Quote: This question is pretty straight forward: How do i escalate in a night setting, present interest without looking creepy or needy but yet making the girl want to return the feelings. Context? What do you mean by "night"? At a club, on a date, inside your house?And what do you mean by "escalate"? Kissing her? Running your hands over her body? Taking off her clothes? Fingering her? Standing her up and bending her over the couch and fucking her from behind? "Escalate" is a pretty broad topic. It's never creepy if she's into you. If she doesn't seem interested, then yeah, she may feel that way. But it's less about doing everything the perfect way, and more about doing most things competently. If a girl is into you, she wants you to turn things sexual. |
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| Author: | dtrak [ Tue Sep 02, 2014 6:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How NOT to be creepy? |
You just do it. What you feel she feels. A man who truely gets girls is able to control his own thoughts and emotions and therefore the girl will follow, is human nature. If you feel creepy and needy she will feel it. If you feel confident and positive she will feel it and love it. Go in, have a regular chat, feeling good about yourself and your life, flirt, escalate and lead because your a man she's a woman, keep the vibe fun and make sure she has a good time. Look at the big picture and make it happen ! |
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| Author: | Pikeman85 [ Tue Sep 02, 2014 7:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How NOT to be creepy? |
Own yourself. Be comfortable in your skin. If she calls you weird or creepy, or acts skeezed out, laugh at her (and later on, analyze why). Don't protest and be like, "No I'm not!!!!!" and proceed to give her reasons why you're not. -That- would be creepy to the girl. It basically broadcasts, "I feel like your claims are legitimate and I feel the need to counter them!" - that comes off as a very weak frame. Remember, girls don't deal with the attraction process logically (nor do we - you see a hot girl, and you want to fuck her), they go viscerally based on how they feel in a given moment (one of the reasons you can be texting a girl who seems into you, and then she loses interest). You can also deflect creepiness accusations or a girl acting like you're acting creepy. For example, last night I sent a text to a girl, suggesting cookie dough and a movie at her place. She responded with, "wtf" - a text that implied I did something wrong with that suggestion. I responded with, "What, you don't like cookie dough?" - me acting like the situation was normal and she had some weirdness or quirk or aberration. Girls are social creatures, and HIGHLY sensitive to judgment. This is why "negging" works. This is why emotion spikes are so easy - piss a girl off and then make her laugh. It also showed her judgment didn't matter to me - my value is higher/stronger than that. After that text, she laughed. Basically, the antidote to being considered creepy is having a strong frame, deflection, and abundance (you don't need nor care if the interaction proceeds well - if you fail, fail boldly - she'll respect you more). You are going to have it happen occasionally that a girl thinks you're creepy though. Just accept it, and don't let it bother you. But the main part to try for is being comfortable with who you are (congruence), and having a strong frame. You are the rock, she is the storm. Make sure your rock is stronger than her storm. |
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| Author: | BrandonMarshall [ Wed Sep 03, 2014 1:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How NOT to be creepy? |
You need to change your mind state. We're under the social conditioning that approaching people is "intrusive" or "creepy. But honestly if you can make a woman laugh, if you can stimulate her mind, if you can be the man that's she's been missing in her life... then it should be your moral obligation to approach beautiful women. If you talk yourself out of it but you truly know you're capable of being this positive force in her life then you have to look at it like you're robbing her from the experience because your fear is causing you to be selfish. So take some quiet time and list 10 ways you can provide value to a woman by approaching her. Could you make her laugh? Could you make her think? Could you have a deep connection with her? Could you make her happy by a simple compliment? Wouldn't you think after studying material on attraction you can give her a better experience than MOST men? Also think of this... what's more painful? Approaching her and having her say no? OR Not approaching her and constantly beating yourself over it for a whole week because you'll never find out what may have happened if you just grew some balls and did the damn thing. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Wed Sep 03, 2014 4:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How NOT to be creepy? |
Creepiness is usually when you are being apologetic about the advances forward you are making. If you are moving in a way that shows you are uncertain of what you are about to do its creepy. If I want to approach a girl at the night club but i'm hesitant and so i stare at her for 5 mins before making a move that is creepy. I found that creepiness is hesitation 9 times out of 10. You can walk up to a girl at a night club and say " You're beautiful.. I want to kiss you " and begin darting forward toward her lips without hesitation. This is will work 5 times out of 10 if done with pure confidence. Don't want to be creepy? Stop hesitation and take action. A creepy guy is a fearful guy. |
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