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Author:  Lafayette [ Mon Aug 11, 2014 2:31 am ]
Post subject:  Help me find where I went wrong
Okay so today I'm at the pool with my friend. I noticed this girl looking my way quite abit so I caught her starring at me so I held eye contact with her and smiled until she smiled and looked down, I waiting for her parents to leave than I went to her and said " hey could I have some sun screen I don't have any? " She smiled and said "sure" so by that time we had a small conversation about why I didn't have any, I said I just came from practice I didn't plan to swim.

After abit the parents came back and said " oh hey! Glad you came over (girls name) has been talking about you! " Than the girl smiled and looked down. The parents continued to say " she's new in town she'd love to meet new people " I said that my friends aren't too far away. We can wait by our stuff for them, so we went back to our bags of clothes and stuff and we talked. We we're hitting it off I didn't need to know much to tell she was attracted to me. But after abit I ran out of things to talk about with her and when I looked at her for her to pick up the conversation she smiled and looked down. So I asked her age, she said "17 how about yourself? " I'm only 16 so I said I was 16. That's when she got quiet she said " oh sorry your alil young for me" smiled and left. Now I know it isn't my fault she left I'm just young. But where could I improve I'm new I have a feel for openers but some feed back from somebody experienced would be Awesome! Feel free to leave any tips for me in a private text or in the link :)

-Lafayette
Author:  Playboi_ [ Mon Aug 11, 2014 2:42 am ]
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Okay so today I'm at the pool with my friend. I noticed this girl looking my way quite abit so I caught her starring at me so I held eye contact with her and smiled until she smiled and looked down, I waiting for her parents to leave than I went to her and said " hey could I have some sun screen I don't have any? " She smiled and said "sure" so by that time we had a small conversation about why I didn't have any, I said I just came from practice I didn't plan to swim.

After abit the parents came back and said " oh hey! Glad you came over (girls name) has been talking about you! " Than the girl smiled and looked down. The parents continued to say " she's new in town she'd love to meet new people " I said that my friends aren't too far away. We can wait by our stuff for them, so we went back to our bags of clothes and stuff and we talked. We we're hitting it off I didn't need to know much to tell she was attracted to me. But after abit I ran out of things to talk about with her and when I looked at her for her to pick up the conversation she smiled and looked down. So I asked her age, she said "17 how about yourself? " I'm only 16 so I said I was 16. That's when she got quiet she said " oh sorry your alil young for me" smiled and left. Now I know it isn't my fault she left I'm just young. But where could I improve I'm new I have a feel for openers but some feed back from somebody experienced would be Awesome! Feel free to leave any tips for me in a private text or in the link :)

-Lafayette
High school girls want older guys. She was eyeing you up so obviously you can pull off slightly older than 16. Lie about your age, fuck it. I'm sure if you said 18 and that you were going to blah blah college next fall, you were in.
Author:  Lafayette [ Mon Aug 11, 2014 2:51 am ]
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Yeah, I thought also I just figured ill tell girls I'm at least a couple months older than they are, but where I feel I lacked was in the middle where I ran out of things to say, I didn't need neg theory because she was already attracted but in those sitchuations what would I do to close the deal, just go for the number or just be like " oh yeah I need to go " and wait for her to ask for my number?
Author:  Playboi_ [ Mon Aug 11, 2014 3:04 am ]
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Yeah, I thought also I just figured ill tell girls I'm at least a couple months older than they are, but where I feel I lacked was in the middle where I ran out of things to say, I didn't need neg theory because she was already attracted but in those sitchuations what would I do to close the deal, just go for the number or just be like " oh yeah I need to go " and wait for her to ask for my number?
You are the man, you get the number or k/f close. Just be confident and comfortable. That means comfortable in silence when the time calls as well. Silence can be great sometimes. Just take it in. You do not always need to fill in holes of conversation. They add value in some cases. If you are fine with kicking it and just rocking out in the sun, she will be too. Your comfort= her comfort.
Author:  Lafayette [ Tue Aug 12, 2014 2:23 am ]
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Day 2:

So today I think I bombed pretty bad, over confidence from yesterdays 8, it was funny as hell though, So

I was at work and stuff and I went on break, I just sat outside and was playing on my phone thinking of what I could say, I saw a 6 pass by, not special at all, so I thought it'd be easy, I was sitting and she was walking I said " hey excuse me, what do you think about women who cheat? " She said " I think its really about if she loves who ever she's cheating on " I said " well clearly not if she's cheating, " and smiled, but I said it in a low voice for what ever reason I wasn't speaking loudly like I always do, but this seem to make her not wanna be there, so after I said that I just waited for her to add to the chat, she just said " uh I need to go " and she left, I did introduce myself her name was mona, but I think that was a bomb, give me tips on what I should do to fix this, I think I was over confident and just got shocked when she wasn't playful and stuff,

Thanks for reading,

-Lafayette, 08/11/14
Author:  Ardour [ Tue Aug 12, 2014 7:59 pm ]
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Look at the situation from her point of view.

You were on your phone. You asked her opinion then ignored it.

That could easily be misconstrued as you were having an argument on your phone about cheating and were merely looking for an affirmation of your opinion. Especially seeing as you only muttered it. She now thinks your girlfriend is cheating on you.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue Aug 12, 2014 8:47 pm ]
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She left because of the way you reacted after she said " you're a lil young". She read your face to see if you were going to feel insecure about your age. Because if you're not secure about your age; how could she be.

This is coming from someone who has never been in a seriously relationship with a girl my age or younger than man. I was with a highly popular senior, when I was a sophomore in high school. All my girlfriends since then have been years older. Some even 10+.

Women need our reactions to validate what they should feel about us. If you would of been like " Haha nah. I think I'm perfect for you" and changed the subject. it would of been lost and forgotten about.
Author:  Lafayette [ Wed Aug 13, 2014 2:56 am ]
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I said it possitivly and I sounded as if I was proud of my age, I come across abit older I got my chin scruff I'm tall thing, etc I hit my maturity early, so she probably didn't like younger guys

DAY 3: I went to the mall by myself today met up with friends later, but I only talked to one girl, idk why I just didn't feel like socializing even tho I had a couple oppurtunitys, thinking back I'm annoyed a fuck because I got checked out by one cute girl, at least a 7-8 big boobs and skinny, long brownish golden hair, bright red lipstick, I eye fucked her but I never approached. So I'm pissed about that, tomorrow I need to go out and talk more, anybody have things I could do to worm up get myself in the mood?

-Lafayette 08/12/14
Author:  Lionheart213 [ Wed Aug 13, 2014 5:44 am ]
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But after abit I ran out of things to talk about with her and when I looked at her for her to pick up the conversation she smiled and looked down. So I asked her age, she said "17 how about yourself? " I'm only 16 so I said I was 16. That's when she got quiet she said " oh sorry your alil young for me" smiled and left.
Yea it's clear she was turned off because of your age. So next time try not to steer the conversation in that direction. And if she ask you first, have her guess your age and then just go with that. Then your not flat out lying to her and feeling bad about it if that bothers you. Later on when she finds out, you can just say "Hey you guessed it, not me" But ideally what you want to try to do is get her to talk about herself. Females usually like talking about themselves, you just have to find out what she likes to talk about. Spark that subject and keep the fire going. Another thing is, if you ran out of things to say, see if she will follow you somewhere else. Since you was by the pool and most likely just laying on the pool chairs. Next time invite her back into the pool with you. Once in the pool you can then splash her, race her, put her on your shoulders in a playful way, many things. The point is, you would have killed that dead silence that happens when the both of you have nothing to say. By moving the subject, you create other opportunities to talk about other things while at the same time keeping her engaged.
Author:  NaughtyNapoleon [ Wed Aug 13, 2014 3:46 pm ]
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But after abit I ran out of things to talk about with her and when I looked at her for her to pick up the conversation she smiled and looked down.

You should go for the kiss at this moment. And once you kiss her and you both kissing each other, age won't be that much problem...
Author:  SamEdi [ Wed Aug 13, 2014 4:19 pm ]
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That's when she got quiet she said " oh sorry your alil young for me" smiled and left.
How about this one: (from the Mystery Method.)
"Take a moment to get over this age thing. I'll wait." (Delivered with a smile.)

She may have been testing you to see how you handled her shit test. Or, she may have been very nervous about the entire interaction, and this was a way for her to get out of the situation. (I mean, her parents basically asked you to hit on her. Lol. That would have made anyone nervous, right?)

Two things to think about: next time someone asks your age, take Lionheart213's advice and make them guess. That way, you are making her jump through your hoops, and not jumping through hers. Also, moving to a different location quickly (and away from the parents) may have made her comfortable.
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