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| Author: | toma1991 [ Sun Aug 10, 2014 11:11 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Cheating ex in Social Circle |
Hi guys, I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 10 months. I had been seeing her throughout the college year and had various occurrences where I suspected something was going on with het ex, every time I questioned her she denied it entirely, up until the point where I had to end the relationship as I felt I couldn't go on anymore with the trust issues. A couple of weeks after the breakup I've been coping very well, havnt messaged her or contacted her at all up until now. Last week I received a text from her phone reading "hi this is xxxxx (my ex gf's ex).... Blablabla has been lying to you for most of what she has been telling you, i've been seeing her pretty much daily for the past 6 months, and having read her messages to you I think you should know. im furious right now etc." (Turns out she had been lying to both of us, playing us both as fools) Anyway my problem is this girl is in my close social circle when I return to college mid-August, she in fact will br living with some of my close friends. So how do I tackle this guys? I have already text her saying never speak to me again, then i deleted her number, facebook, insta etc and blocked her. It is inevitable that we will be seeing each other often when we return to colleg and will probably going on the same nights out via mutual friends. Normally I would erase and forget a girl in this situation but she will be around due to us having mutual friends. So how should I deal with this? Should I tell our friends? Should i try to ignore in person? Or any other suggestions? Thanks a lot guys Tom |
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| Author: | WillEdward [ Mon Aug 11, 2014 8:32 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cheating ex in Social Circle |
It sounds like she is in the wrong and screwed over both of you guys. You should just act normally and do whatever you want. No strategy involved. You don't have to pretend that everything is fine but you don't have tell the whole world what she did either, as it may just backlash. Sure you may see her at parties, but just do your own thing, have fun, and game other girls. |
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| Author: | sinsitive [ Mon Aug 11, 2014 9:08 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cheating ex in Social Circle |
You could spend all the energy you could possibly allocate to her.... at a lot of other things which will work for you better. Don't spend time on her. Yeah you got played, well done on her behalf... but don't give her more credit she already has. Act as Mr Cool and learn from this mistake. Go on with your life, find a way better girl, or 10 of them (apparently that's easy) and work on yourself. Effort spent way better. Good luck man! Sucks... 
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| Author: | toma1991 [ Mon Aug 11, 2014 12:40 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cheating ex in Social Circle |
Ok thanks guys. In social situations would you say I should just try to avoid talking to her and be blunt if she speaks to me? We will realistically be seeing each other almost every day with friends and understandably I dont want someone like her as a friend. I dont want to start speakingt o her again and become friends again. And worse case scenario I cannot let myself start liking her again. What do you guys think? |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Mon Aug 11, 2014 2:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cheating ex in Social Circle |
Remember the fat, ugly chick in school with acne, who you wanted nothing to do with and wouldn't give the time of day to --- and that you'd really only talk to in order to be polite? Treat her like that girl. |
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| Author: | Xoved [ Mon Aug 11, 2014 2:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cheating ex in Social Circle |
Quote: Remember the fat, ugly chick in school with acne, who you wanted nothing to do with and wouldn't give the time of day to --- and that you'd really only talk to in order to be polite?
This is the best solution.Treat her like that girl. Keep in mind not to be rude, as it'll come out as jealousy. Be friendly and casual, but not interested. After all, if you show interest when she fucked you up with another guy then you'll have no standards. |
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| Author: | Chief [ Tue Aug 12, 2014 2:05 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cheating ex in Social Circle |
Quote: So how do I tackle this guys?
... So how should I deal with this? Quote: Go on with your life, find a way better girl, or 10 of them (apparently that's easy) and work on yourself.
This is the right answer.Effort spent way better. She's not worth spending so much energy thinking about. As a single man, your potential is now awesomely boundless. Don't waste your potential being hung up on any one girl! Once you've worked your way toward having ABUNDANCE with women, these sorts of problems WILL become completely menial and trivial to you. |
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