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Author:  Epic_1 [ Wed Aug 06, 2014 10:12 pm ]
Post subject:  New Day question
I'm 0-4 on this one.

If you ask a girl to meet you on a day, and she responds by saying, a different day is better for her (i.e. - Me: hi Sarah, do you want to meet this Saturday night at 8pm? ;Her: "No, Tuesday night is better for me."), and you accept her chosen day, is that a test you just failed?

Basically, is it better to tell her that her new chosen day won't work for you and then present a 3rd option which is now your new chosen day?

Thx in advance
Author:  WillEdward [ Wed Aug 06, 2014 11:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New Day question
You should ask what her schedule's like and pick a date that works for both of you.
Author:  oceanx [ Thu Aug 07, 2014 12:57 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New Day question
Accepting her offer or proposing a new offer is fine IMO. When they make an effort to reschedule it means they are most likely interested. The only time to be concerned is if they flake and don't want to reschedule.

Sure it may be a tiny "DLV" to go along w/ her rescheduling plan, but what would you rather do - go out with this girl, or be DLV'd a tiny bit.
Author:  Epic_1 [ Thu Aug 07, 2014 2:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New Day question
Hey guys,

Thx for the responses. I do want to go out with the girls but each time I accept their new rescheduling date I never hear from them again (0-4). That's why I started thinking maybe it was a small test that I kept failing.
Author:  Chief [ Thu Aug 07, 2014 3:01 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New Day question
Implement a 3-strikes rule for flaking and let girls know about it on the first or second instance of flaking.
Author:  Ardour [ Thu Aug 07, 2014 3:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New Day question
Quote:
Implement a 3-strikes rule for flaking and let girls know about it on the first or second instance of flaking.

Surely there is a difference between agreeing to a date in general and then not setting specifics or rescheduling last minute (both flaking) and requesting a different time or day at the initial invite because it doesn't match her schedule?

Surely you don't punish for that?
It's hardly a power play. It's logistics. The only way that goes wrong is if you come back with some AFC shit like "for you I'm always free"
Author:  Epic_1 [ Thu Aug 07, 2014 4:31 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New Day question
"The only way that goes wrong is if you come back with some AFC shit like "for you I'm always free""

I'm starting to think that's how they're taking it (no matter how I say it - i.e.: sure, that [new day] works for me) = I'm failing a test and demonstrating too much availability
Author:  Ardour [ Thu Aug 07, 2014 5:03 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New Day question
I didn't actually read the whole thread before replying. Just seen the 0-4 post.

Its possible. We'd have to see more of the texts leading up to the date request to determine her interest levels.
Author:  oceanx [ Thu Aug 07, 2014 10:58 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New Day question
Since you're 0-4 with this then next time just go ahead with the 3rd option "i'll be at x that night; how bout x night".
Author:  Epic_1 [ Thu Aug 07, 2014 11:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New Day question
3rd option I think is the best option.

0-4 doesn't = same girl with 4 instances.

0-4 = 4 different girls with same scenario
Author:  Ardour [ Thu Aug 07, 2014 11:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New Day question
yeah my bad. i did get that it was 4 different HBs. i just typed singularly rather than plural

i was typing on my phone whilst at work trying to chef.
Author:  DJ_Z [ Fri Aug 08, 2014 12:56 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New Day question
Some guys get way into the "dominant/leading frame." People have jobs, families, lives, etc. If a girl offers a specific day or time she's free, AND that works for you, then just say its perfect, and pitch a location/activity for a meet. Now, if she bails on that at the last minute, when it's her idea, I'd delete the number.
Author:  neo87 [ Fri Aug 08, 2014 1:02 am ]
Post subject:  Re: New Day question
If you're 0-4 on this, it's not that accepting their alternative day ruined you ; they weren't interested from the beginning. Try to make your interactions more solid.
Author:  Epic_1 [ Fri Aug 08, 2014 12:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: New Day question
"Now, if she bails on that at the last minute, when it's her idea, I'd delete the number."

Def a good rule to keep in mind.

"If you're 0-4 on this, it's not that accepting their alternative day ruined you ; they weren't interested from the beginning. Try to make your interactions more solid."

An excellent point that I didn't even think of. Generally I have my fair share of dates and do well on them (after becoming a PUA student and doing months of research :), so I guess I boxed my thoughts into just "a failed test"; didn't even dawn on me I wasn't laying enough proper foundation.

Thx to all who responded!!
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