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| Author: | Iwillneverbethesame [ Tue Aug 05, 2014 12:32 am ] |
| Post subject: | Ex gf, loss of respect, alpha to beta, emotional attachment |
This is my first post but i've been learning from this website and others and having products and all for about 2 years when i decided to get into game. After listening and reading alot, filling my head with everything i could i developed this cocky confidence and apathetic attitude. This is where shit went down and i would appreciate any help. I managed to turn a friend into a gf and she was dead in love with me, i lied to her about alot but played a character and she truely believed me that i was fucking a shitload of girls when i actually wasnt. Either way she was shy and insecure, not pretty, closed up and kinda hipster. But she was genuine and managed to open up to me because we were both really different. Fast forward: i never loved her, hurt her, didnt give two fucks, wanted better, made out with 1 chick 4 times and another one sucked my dick and i truely did hurt her but the chase she was holding on and being like a slave and all but at one point my life went hard and i syarted to be less dominant and started to let things slip.. I started complaining and all and lost some friends includintb my best two friends and almost got kicked out of school, she was always there. Weird psychology of women as long as i kept her on a lease she was in love. She broke up at one point when i was at my lowest point in my life and really needed her. I succeeded and summer arrived, shes leaving for university and im staying here for. 6 more months she'll come back on weekends and all but the problem is she changed. She became confident when i started giving her attention and told her how to dress and be cute and other guys started chasing her, she got money a car and all and now acts alike a wfucking whore weve been on and off fuckingh and half dating all summer and shes been saying shit but i know she lost reapect for me and attraction too but i know she onside responds very well to being dominated so i know i can pull it off but now i have a broken leg and dnt see too many people, i miss this abu dance mentality i need to get her backc she started acting apathetic and we talked alot and she said i hurt her ao much she cant trust anymore ever and she will never trust me again like before i know its bs in a way because if in a couple of months i get her attracted again anything is possible but right now i have - bit more than 3 weeks before my cegep (school) starts and about a month before she leaves and i need help on how to detach myself emptionally from her but not lose her and get her attacted back not necesarally as a gf while were not both at university but as a fuck buddy. This girl became a fake bitch, but i guess its my fault and shes just being a woman and showing her true inner side, and she says she doesnt love me and isnt too attarcted because too much shit went down but so many times i still got her attarcted for a couple days or weeks and we fucked but i need to man up. I am now planning to go and meet new girls and get numbers with a broken leg but i want this one to be there, i know if i get her attarcted she'll care again and trust me, weve been tru alot and i know tht if i dont man up soonwe might never even be true friends or fuck again at university so tooo any advise on how to get a cocky bitchy overconfident ex gf of a year and put her into her place. With clothes she has a body of a 7 max 8 without clothes shes a 6. Her face without make up is a 5-6 with make up a 7-8 for normal guys u can do +1 for the desperate losers like those ather work who chase her and feed her ego and i know there may be aome hate in this post but its mostly against myself and those who helped turn the perfect sweet gf into a heartless whore. Any advise how to deal with such a girl because ahes just off having way too much fun with her coworkera and she alept with 1 guy but it was short and hes now her gay best friend and shes not hooking up with anyone she probz will in university but whtever. I know this aounds desperate but pick up put me on my feet and saved my life ince and now i need its help again. |
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| Author: | Myk [ Tue Aug 05, 2014 9:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Ex gf, loss of respect, alpha to beta, emotional attachm |
I'm relatively new too, but I can tell you right now, that was not what the game is meant for. If you find a girl you'd like to have as a gf, then treat her right. You made the decision to have her as a gf, not a fuckbuddy. I don't mean be a submissive kiss ass, but still. You still have a lot to learn and not to hypocritical, because I do too. You didn't know what you had until you lost it. But I'm going to be blunt with you, you lost her. Life gives tough love, just move on. But you need to work on how you treat women based on what I hear. There's a difference between alpha and douchebag. I'm just telling you something you should hear, and it's your prerogative whether you follow it. |
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| Author: | DFornazari [ Tue Aug 05, 2014 10:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Ex gf, loss of respect, alpha to beta, emotional attachm |
Wow, I've already been through some similar shit you are going right now. I think that the best tool is time itself, at least it worked pretty well for me. The girl ended up being a complete bitch and I followed my life and studies without her. Today I'm definitively a better and more confident person. Also, I'm a big fan of NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming). I'd recommend it for almost any situation in life. If you want some book recommendations about it, send me a PM. |
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| Author: | Iwillneverbethesame [ Tue Aug 05, 2014 11:51 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Ex gf, loss of respect, alpha to beta, emotional attachm |
I know i was a douch and today we had a talk and yhe thing is i taught her good and she is able to afmit things other women aint and she literally told me to MAN up and that the less i care about her the more she'll respond to me and its fucked up women are weird but i guess i just need to not care about her because in the first place i got her by not caring and treating her like an object. |
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| Author: | Myk [ Wed Aug 06, 2014 1:54 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Ex gf, loss of respect, alpha to beta, emotional attachm |
Well, you learned a new lesson. Best of luck to you man! |
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| Author: | WillEdward [ Wed Aug 06, 2014 3:53 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Ex gf, loss of respect, alpha to beta, emotional attachm |
Happens to the best of us man. Keep gaming other girls and have that abundance mentality. Keep it up! |
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| Author: | BITmixit [ Wed Aug 06, 2014 3:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Ex gf, loss of respect, alpha to beta, emotional attachm |
Quote: Wow, I've already been through some similar shit you are going right now. I think that the best tool is time itself, at least it worked pretty well for me. The girl ended up being a complete bitch and I followed my life and studies without her. Today I'm definitively a better and more confident person. Also, I'm a big fan of NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming). I'd recommend it for almost any situation in life. If you want some book recommendations about it, send me a PM.
They're not all like it. The majority of women do have the "crazy" deep inside tho.I remember one girl I was seeing and had slept with a couple times. Was mad dirty in bed then one time (the last time) I was fucking her and she just started screaming "oh like me. Please like me" alot whilst she was riding me. It was fucking weird. After that she kept calling me all the time, I told her I wasn't interested like that but still got "what u upto? can i join?" style messages. Dropped her. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Wed Aug 06, 2014 9:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Ex gf, loss of respect, alpha to beta, emotional attachm |
Hey man,,, I skimmed through this whole thing, but if you want to give me a shorter concise version reach out to me in my inbox and i'll be able to tailor something a little more directly at you. Anyway.. I give this advice to another member recently and judging from what I've skimmed through you maybe able to grab a jewel or two from it. "There is no concrete evidence to back what I am about to say. Its more of a metaphysical thing, but what I've experienced and what many people I've known have experienced is women can always hold out for a moment longer than the point where it seems almost unbearable for men. By unbearable I mean.. At the point where you are feeling like " Fuck this shit.. I'm going to just call/text/ her". When its so strong is the point at which she is thinking about contacting you the most. Energy always follows thought. Now let me say; if you reach out to contact her at this point, you will be putting off an opportunity for you to learn the power of letting the woman go. And this is a lesson all men must learn before they can become truly successful with women. You only learn this lesson by letting go out of choice, not necessity. Men tend to thank they've let women go after they texted her 10 times, called her 3 and she ignore them. Thats not letting the woman go. Thats called picking the only option you have left. You let go out of necessity, not choice. So you don't acquire the stronger sense of presence/aura that attracts women that a man acquires from letting go of women he still has a chance with. You don't grow - you don't learn. You stay on your current level. I could go on and on about this, but the moral of the passage is; if you're interested in growing in the long run, I would leave this one alone. She may reach out - she may not, but what you will acquire will be much more beneficial than any one relationship ever could be. Now if that isn't your interest and you feel both comfortable and content with where you are on your journey. Call her don't text. Call her up and let her know that you'd still like to continue to see her. Be cool and be calm; like you've been busy in life lately, but you've accomplished a few things and you now have time to date again. A woman is always responsive to that kind of energy. With all due love in respect, Peace bro." |
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