I want to respond to this because I am 31 who used to be a major introvert.
Always dated successful, smart girls with good educations / careers. Pretty, but not super hot. Wound up in a LTR in my late 20s, and it ended badly. I also used to be introvert, but I actually totally changed that... that's a whole nother discussion though...
Now, I don't care any more about LTRs and pursue younger women. I literally won't date anyone over the age of 28. I figure when the right one comes, she will come... and she will be 4 - 8 years younger than I.
I am just learning game, and have had a ton of failures (I mean a *TON*) over the past 3 - 4 months, but I am happy to note that I slayed a 24-year former cheerleader for a major state school over the weekend. A month ago, I had another 22 year old cheerleader from a major state school. And I dated cheerleader for a pro team, with whom I hooked up, but didn't f-close because I screwed the pooch (totally my fault, I learned a lot from that failure). She was spectacular though. Not sure how I wind up with all these cheerleaders, but I am not complaining.
About 9 months ago, I decided to get in damned good shape. Now, I am not huge, but I am noticeably buff, even in a suit, at about 5'10" and a very lean 180. I also majorly upgraded my wardrobe (both casual and business), and I dress very well. I also worked really hard on improving my complexion and skin. Avocados (one a day), Burt's Bees night cream and day cream, I went to a dermatologist to kill off some acne I couldn't get rid of. Got a dark tan... lost my glasses and got contacts. All of this really matters... it will not get you the girl alone (well, sometimes it will, if you're good looking enough), but it is enormously helpful. I have a great career too... but honestly, that hasn't helped me land women at all!
Drop the long distance running thing and put on 20 pounds. I swim and play racket sports a ton for cardio workouts. Chicks dig thighs too, so don't skimp on the leg workouts. MAKE yourself better looking. Then just start practicing.
Point is, I am 31. At the age of 30, I was mediocre looking and in a LTR with a what I thought was an awesome girl, and I really never had tried to get chicks before. 8 months later, I still have a long ways to go, but I am a transformed man. Now, I believe I can pick up pretty much any woman. My main goal is to improve on 2nd / 3rd dates... but my friends are in awe at the women I meet... like I am "that guy" in my circles... even my boss has more respect for me because of it.
I 100% believe you can do the same bro!
1. Get better looking. Accept that this is important, take note of what you need to improve and make it happen. Takes time and sacrifice (mainly, money and time and putting on weight), but probably the easiest thing to do.
2. Start talking to girls. Everywhere. I talk to women every chance I get. Waitresses, in shops, retailers, at bars, on the street, at the beach, in coffee shops, at work, at baseball games, old women, young women, ugly women, hot women, fat women, skinny women... just talk to women, even if it just a "hi" and not necessarily someone you want.
3. Embrace failure. You will encounter a lot of it. Sometimes it is super painful... but generally, you should just shrug it off and move onto the next one.
4. Force yourself to be more outgoing. I joined political groups, charity groups and a sports club. I go to all my alumni events. I go to lots of business networking stuff. Etc. Etc. Reach out to people and build a strong social network outside of your normal crew.
That's what worked for me, anyhow... honestly, beyond pick up, I am so much happier with myself.
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