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You should be doing what she's doing, and dating other people.

It will lessen your investment in her in case things don't swing your way.

I half think she's being respectful by being up front with you... but the other part of me thinks she's trying to get a rise out of you by telling you that you're effectively a contestant on The Bachelorette...

when we were on her bed (haven't had sex just made out/hand job/kisses cause that's not what I set out to do, I was more interested in getting to know her)

Then I asked her if she wanted to go on an actual dinner date with me last night. She revealed that she had an interest & wanted to see how it goes. I told her I understood and she said she didn't know if she wanted me or the other guy, she couldn't decide because she didn't want to miss out on a great opportunity.

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when we were on her bed (haven't had sex just made out/hand job/kisses cause that's not what I set out to do, I was more interested in getting to know her)

Okay then! Bro why you didn't fuck her when she wanted you to is insanity, that would have made her invested in you.

The other guy likely did and that's why she's on the fence.

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This needy clingy bullshit won't help your case.

Invite her out for plain old fun and drinks, take her home, bang her------ then let a relationship bloom from there if that's how the chips fall.

The other thought pattern is bass-ackwards. I know you were raised not to think so, but trust me it IS!

Date other girls, stop putting them on pedestals before you fuck them.

Go for the sexual tension jugular vein. Only show sexual interest, heat her the fuck up. then bang her guts flat.

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Go for the sexual tension jugular vein. Only show sexual interest, heat her the fuck up. then bang her guts flat.

I think I'm going to follow Your advice. How would you go about initiating it? Like I said I told her I will give her till the end of this week to answer me and stopped there. She read the message & didn't say anything else bc she didn't know what to say.
How would I go about heating her up like you said? Call, text or make up something?

Move on.... there's plenty of other women out there without the stress. Stop treating her like #1 when you're just her option.

She'll come back... but it may be too late for her because most likely you'll find somebody who's willing to give you their full focus.

Author:	xthewindx [ Wed Jul 16, 2014 3:55 pm ]
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Basically I met this girl and she got out from a relationship because the other guy moved to another state & supposedly cheated on her. It's been awhile but it's still fresh on her mind & she still thinks about him a lot. However she's attractive enough to have guys hitting her up often, she told me when we were on her bed (haven't had sex just made out/hand job/kisses cause that's not what I set out to do, I was more interested in getting to know her) that she's been going on dates with different guys & want to keep her options open. Blah blah blah long story short, I told her I like her and she said she likes me too. But she didn't want it to be unfair and have me as a rebound Haven't talked to her for a week bc she's always so busy, so am I. Then I asked her if she wanted to go on an actual dinner date with me last night. She revealed that she had an interest & wanted to see how it goes. I told her I understood and she said she didn't know if she wanted me or the other guy, she couldn't decide because she didn't want to miss out on a great opportunity. I sent her the last text saying that I'd give her time till the end of the week to answer me, however I'm deleting this app (it's a chatting app) and if I won't hear from her again then I'll assume that she isn't interested. Tl;dr I want to get this girl to be with me and she indecisive not knowing if she wants to be with me or ther other guy (whom she knew for a whole and I only came to her life recently) So what should I do? I really like this girl and she's very mature.

Author:	CharlesFinley [ Wed Jul 16, 2014 4:44 pm ]
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You should be doing what she's doing, and dating other people. It will lessen your investment in her in case things don't swing your way. I half think she's being respectful by being up front with you... but the other part of me thinks she's trying to get a rise out of you by telling you that you're effectively a contestant on The Bachelorette...

Author:	xthewindx [ Wed Jul 16, 2014 5:00 pm ]
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Quote: You should be doing what she's doing, and dating other people. It will lessen your investment in her in case things don't swing your way. I half think she's being respectful by being up front with you... but the other part of me thinks she's trying to get a rise out of you by telling you that you're effectively a contestant on The Bachelorette... Thank you for the reply. I do have multiple girls that I'm talking to, just messing around and 1 that I'm having sex with. She knows that I'm popular with girls (I made sure to state that clear & be assertive about it). So while I can be occupried, I keep thinking about this chick still and that's when I know I should ask her out. I'm giving her an answer that made it clear that if she doesn't choose me then she will lose me, period. But idk what her answer will be in my favor since we didn't have as much time together as she was with this other dude.

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Wed Jul 16, 2014 5:17 pm ]
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Quote: when we were on her bed (haven't had sex just made out/hand job/kisses cause that's not what I set out to do, I was more interested in getting to know her) Okay then! Bro why you didn't fuck her when she wanted you to is insanity, that would have made her invested in you. The other guy likely did and that's why she's on the fence. Quote: Then I asked her if she wanted to go on an actual dinner date with me last night. She revealed that she had an interest & wanted to see how it goes. I told her I understood and she said she didn't know if she wanted me or the other guy, she couldn't decide because she didn't want to miss out on a great opportunity. This needy clingy bullshit won't help your case. Invite her out for plain old fun and drinks, take her home, bang her------ then let a relationship bloom from there if that's how the chips fall. The other thought pattern is bass-ackwards. I know you were raised not to think so, but trust me it IS! Date other girls, stop putting them on pedestals before you fuck them.

Author:	xthewindx [ Wed Jul 16, 2014 7:07 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: when we were on her bed (haven't had sex just made out/hand job/kisses cause that's not what I set out to do, I was more interested in getting to know her) Okay then! Bro why you didn't fuck her when she wanted you to is insanity, that would have made her invested in you. The other guy likely did and that's why she's on the fence. Quote: Then I asked her if she wanted to go on an actual dinner date with me last night. She revealed that she had an interest & wanted to see how it goes. I told her I understood and she said she didn't know if she wanted me or the other guy, she couldn't decide because she didn't want to miss out on a great opportunity. This needy clingy bullshit won't help your case. Invite her out for plain old fun and drinks, take her home, bang her------ then let a relationship bloom from there if that's how the chips fall. The other thought pattern is bass-ackwards. I know you were raised not to think so, but trust me it IS! Date other girls, stop putting them on pedestals before you fuck them. I guess you are right. I thought I should treat her differently because I actually like her. Having said that, any thought of how or what should I do to increase the chance of getting her to be with me? I mean I'm going to drop her if things don't go my way for sure. But before doing that, she's still indecisive about me so what should I do to help it to my favor?

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Author:	xthewindx [ Wed Jul 16, 2014 8:40 pm ]
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Quote: Go for the sexual tension jugular vein. Only show sexual interest, heat her the fuck up. then bang her guts flat. I think I'm going to follow Your advice. How would you go about initiating it? Like I said I told her I will give her till the end of this week to answer me and stopped there. She read the message & didn't say anything else bc she didn't know what to say. How would I go about heating her up like you said? Call, text or make up something?

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Jul 17, 2014 12:51 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Go for the sexual tension jugular vein. Only show sexual interest, heat her the fuck up. then bang her guts flat. I think I'm going to follow Your advice. How would you go about initiating it? Like I said I told her I will give her till the end of this week to answer me and stopped there. She read the message & didn't say anything else bc she didn't know what to say. How would I go about heating her up like you said? Call, text or make up something? "Miss me yet?" "I sooo know ur thinking about me. So I thought I would say hi!"

Author:	xthewindx [ Thu Jul 17, 2014 4:17 pm ]
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Thanks. I'll keep you posted but she tends to not reply to text bc she just simple sucks at texting.

Author:	BrandonMarshall [ Thu Jul 17, 2014 10:09 pm ]
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Move on.... there's plenty of other women out there without the stress. Stop treating her like #1 when you're just her option. She'll come back... but it may be too late for her because most likely you'll find somebody who's willing to give you their full focus.

Author:	xthewindx [ Thu Jul 17, 2014 11:12 pm ]
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Quote: Move on.... there's plenty of other women out there without the stress. Stop treating her like #1 when you're just her option. She'll come back... but it may be too late for her because most likely you'll find somebody who's willing to give you their full focus. Thanks for the reply. I will give it a last attempt in order to escalate to sex and fuck her brain out before I completely give up. Any advices on that? A bit about myself, I've been doing online dating for arond 3 months+ and met various girls. I tend to have sex with them and then get bored then moved on, not saying they were hot but these chicks were decent enough. However, this current one somehow made me actually like her and I didnt even think about fucking her yet. So how do I proceed to get to that stage because I'm so distracted with my feelings now.

Author:	Zirk13 [ Fri Jul 18, 2014 7:05 am ]
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ask yourself do I want to fuck this girl, if the answer is yes, then it shouldn't be a problem/ your game to sex, shes made it clear shes game for sex. what your worried about is if you sleep with her what if she doesnt want you afterwards. ask yourself what kind of message are you sending by telling her how much you like her and respect her but you won't sleep with her "I really like you but..." not a good phrase in any situation

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