He's not your friend, plain and simple. Find new friends that reflect your values and are respectful towards you.


ANYONE who detracts/takes away from you is NOT your friend. Even if it's intended as a 'joke' they are still a negative presence and will reflect badly on you to women ("Why does this guy tolerate this crap?!").

Having boundaries with people is important. Think of your life as a house. The house has a pretty picket fence, a lawn with flowers, and beyond that a street. Be very selective of who you let into your house, some people you may just want to keep outside in the garden/lawn, and others on the other side of the street. If you let anyone who 'seems nice' into the house you may find yourself having these issues in which case you need to push them out and back into the street (maybe they'll get hit by a car in the process, who knows, who cares). Point is, if you surround yourself with this you'll soon start adopting a negative self view, rather than building something positive and empowering. Don't let toxic people into your home, plain and simple.

Horrible advice.

Just because your friends are rude sometimes doesn't mean they shouldn't be your friends. That's like breaking up with your girlfriend because she keeps salting her corn after you told her not to. It's in their nature. OP, your friends are AFC, this is a fact. It is in their nature to act this way, it is not because they're bad friends.

Tell them off, don't just brush it off. If it happens again, THAN you should start reconsidering the relationship. I used to be much shyer. My friend, while AFC and gets poor results, does though have confidence to approach girls. When he'd do this, in my mind I'd have the urge to toss him under the bus because I felt the girl wasn't deserving of this fool. We were both AFCs, me for trying to bring down others to boost myself and him for just being plain bad with woman

But the intensions of my friends are there: I will talk bad about you, so I have more change with the girl you are hitting on.

Talk to them and let them know it's not cool.

I'm liking Neo and Bender's contribution. Manage the situation, don't run from it. Everybody fucks up. . . manage them. If they continue to be unmanageable in pick up situations, then don't go out with them to pick up joints. You can still play pool with them once in a while.

*By the way, that whole thing about ditching friends because you don't like this or that or this?. . . come on. . .that's what chicks do. Gives me the hibby jibbies every time I see a dude behave like a chick . . . "BFF like foooooooorev... fuck you bitch! No, I no you didn't just wink at my boyfriend bitch!" (Read it in the valley girl voice or if you're a dude, in your best stereotype gay dude voice) - go all out. Do that head shake and finger pointing thing. . . it's the image I have in my mind when I read these, "Get rid of your friends" advice.

Also. . . if you ever get to hooking your friends up with chicks as Neo suggests, you'll find that you will fare even better with the ladies. Your friends will suck up to you so that you will continue to send chicks in their direction. . .and women can sense this like they can sense a gay dude from across the room. They'll know who is leading this band. . .