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| Author: | Andre2807 [ Wed May 07, 2014 11:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I'm confused |
What's up guys. So I'm in the daygame/cold approach during daytime scene and met this girl on the train. We ended up seeing one another regularly on the train on our way, to and from work. She's a total church girl, like the ones that will speak about God and purity, but inside, she's horny like hell. So tonight, after a really mediocre daygame session, she came over to my place for dinner (first date). Throughout the night there was this raw sexual tension between us. We went back to my room, sat down, and I sat real close, moving in closer to kiss. She resisted a few times (with some weird excuse that she wants to continue seeing me, but if she kisses me, she can't). I kept on pushing that boundary, and about 5 - 10 mins later we were making out heavily, with my hand under top. Again after about 5 mins of making out, she resisted again. So I just laid back, had this smirk on my face. A few minutes later I dropped her off at her place. I should've pulled the trigger and continued pushing against her resistances, but at the time I was in my head about "respecting her boundary". We sat in my car for about 5 mins talking about why she's resisting even just kissing me (she wants more than just that), she's made this pledge to herself that she will remain pure. Now regardless of the fact that we made out, I know she wants more and wants to see me again, but she tells me that she can't kiss me again, if she wants to continue seeing me. Should I just escalate every time she's at my place, regardless of the ridiculous boundaries she's setting for herself? I suppose this might just be a rhetorical question, but I'd like to hear some opinions on this. |
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| Author: | hugge [ Thu May 08, 2014 4:00 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I'm confused |
This is a question about respect, whether you should respect her choice. You can as well rephrase the question to a more general one - should you respect people's religious beliefs? I think the answer to that question is obvious - yes you should! The rest is your selfish sexual urges talking. |
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| Author: | Andre2807 [ Thu May 08, 2014 8:00 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I'm confused |
Okay thank you, I feel a bit better. The reason I question this, is because there's this fine line between respecting boundaries and plowing through resistances. Some people will go as far and say... make the ho say no, which means that I should escalate until she verbally, or non-verbally stops me. |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Thu May 08, 2014 1:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I'm confused |
hugge is right - Whether she has that 'pledge' to herself or not (I think not, since she broke it several times with you that night), it's completely a choice thing for her and she's testing to see if you'll respect it. Just don't verbally tell her it's stupid... Non-verbally push on through if she doesn't give you the red light. |
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