PUA Forum :: My insecurities are destroying me!!

I know you guys are not psychiatrist, but I decided to reach out to you guys because you are all people that have things to overcome like me, and are great support. I'm SERIOUS about improving myself as a man and improving my game. Recently I was in a convo with a pua friend and I made a lost if all of my insecurities that are troubling me and I also made notes of things in general that I want to fix in my life or game. I made a list/comments that I'd like your feedback on each one. They ALL effect me, if these things were fixed in my life I'd wake up completely normal and happy.

As for the insecurities: they constantly play in my mind daily and keep me from feeling comfortable and loving myself. I'm a normal person just growing up was difficult, I was picked on plus, recently I dated a girl that told me all about my insecurities and brang them to light, so I believe all of them to be TRUE. And I don't know how to resolve my view of them.

I have no self-worth because I feel there's nothing about me that's attractive to woman.
*I'm 5'4,
NOT muscular,
my voice isn't loud and is odd/high,
I have no strength from a muscle disease,
I feel fat, small framed,
can't provide for myself or others (no job, car, apt)
I'm weak and not assertive
don't have a high Testosterone level.
And my member isn't anything to be proud of so I end up hating myself
I see people as someone that automatically don't like me.

I made a list of things cause i think about them EVERY DAY, and they make me feel terrible about myself because I know they're true. And don't know how to fix them and I know woman know it and don't want me. I believe there's an answer for all these things. Please show me the way. Because of these things I don't love myself and can't love other people and it hurts my relationships.

I suggest you go and see a professional.

You made hundreds of threads asking advice. Which we gave you.
- you are 5'4, we can't do anything about this sorry. We are not surgeons.
- not muscular: what do you do to change this ?
- your voice isn't loud: is this medical condition?
- "I feel fat": Do you run 3-4kms a day, and do you have a decent diet ? DO YOU ?
- cant provide for yourself and others. What are the steps you are taking to change this ? Have you applied for a job recently ? I mean any job.
- don't have a high testosterone level. You can take supplements. Like Tribulus etc. use the internet.

I have sent our many job resumes but no one got back to me.

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AFC, I do see a therapist and she told me that she didn't know how to help me and that there's nothing she could do. So I'll be seeing a new one soon. I think that I am fixable but that it would take someone with knowledge and patience to help me. And yes I'm helping myself. You sort of have this, "too bad, deal with it attitude" towards what I'm saying. But you don't understand there's deep rooted psychological issues behind it and I just can't snap out of it, if I could I would. There's great potential in me, you just have to recognize it. I've listed these things cause I wanted To change them. Some I have gotten over -- some I haven't. I have sent our many job resumes but no one got back to me.

Author:	Pinkfloyd123 [ Wed Apr 30, 2014 3:18 am ]
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I know you guys are not psychiatrist, but I decided to reach out to you guys because you are all people that have things to overcome like me, and are great support. I'm SERIOUS about improving myself as a man and improving my game. Recently I was in a convo with a pua friend and I made a lost if all of my insecurities that are troubling me and I also made notes of things in general that I want to fix in my life or game. I made a list/comments that I'd like your feedback on each one. They ALL effect me, if these things were fixed in my life I'd wake up completely normal and happy. As for the insecurities: they constantly play in my mind daily and keep me from feeling comfortable and loving myself. I'm a normal person just growing up was difficult, I was picked on plus, recently I dated a girl that told me all about my insecurities and brang them to light, so I believe all of them to be TRUE. And I don't know how to resolve my view of them. I have no self-worth because I feel there's nothing about me that's attractive to woman. *I'm 5'4, NOT muscular, my voice isn't loud and is odd/high, I have no strength from a muscle disease, I feel fat, small framed, can't provide for myself or others (no job, car, apt) I'm weak and not assertive don't have a high Testosterone level. And my member isn't anything to be proud of so I end up hating myself I see people as someone that automatically don't like me. I made a list of things cause i think about them EVERY DAY, and they make me feel terrible about myself because I know they're true. And don't know how to fix them and I know woman know it and don't want me. I believe there's an answer for all these things. Please show me the way. Because of these things I don't love myself and can't love other people and it hurts my relationships.

Author:	manilahottie [ Wed Apr 30, 2014 4:58 am ]
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How can you make a woman like you if you don't even like yourself? First you have to fix that negative mentality of yours. Why would you care what others think? Do they feed you? Do they give you money? Of course not, so why should you care? Second you have to fix yourself. You say you are unable to provide for yourself. Why? Is this because of some kind of sickness? If so what are you doing to fix that. Do you really just rely on others or do you even try to become better? You know about the man with no arms and legs? Guess what, he has a wife and kids. The rest only reflect your impression of yourself which is not good. With solid inner game you will not even think about those things. You are no model with six-pack abs but would you want to be with a girl who only cares about your physique?

Author:	Pinkfloyd123 [ Thu May 01, 2014 3:33 am ]
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Thanks for your response..... "Second you have to fix yourself. You say you are unable to provide for yourself. Why? Is this because of some kind of sickness? If so what are you doing to fix that. Do you really just rely on others or do you even try to become better? You know about the man with no arms and legs? Guess what, he has a wife and kids." In my heart of hearts, I don't feel like a man, I'm ashamed of myself I rely on a family member that takes care if me. I AM working on becoming a better me. I used to be 270 and now I'm 152, and I educated myself. Part of my success was studying myself to realize what's wrong with me. I was sick at one point in my life and my parents had very little input on my life and never taught me anything. So now I'm trying to rise from the ashes and put my life on a better path and make money but I don't know how. Although my mind and depression is destroying the great personakity thats in me abd trying to render me with no personality & no desires. So there's mentality issues, mixed with life issues.

Author:	Airbender [ Thu May 01, 2014 8:00 am ]
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Quote: I know you guys are not psychiatrist, but I decided to reach out to you guys because you are all people that have things to overcome like me, and are great support. I'm SERIOUS about improving myself as a man and improving my game. Recently I was in a convo with a pua friend and I made a lost if all of my insecurities that are troubling me and I also made notes of things in general that I want to fix in my life or game. I made a list/comments that I'd like your feedback on each one. They ALL effect me, if these things were fixed in my life I'd wake up completely normal and happy. As for the insecurities: they constantly play in my mind daily and keep me from feeling comfortable and loving myself. I'm a normal person just growing up was difficult, I was picked on plus, recently I dated a girl that told me all about my insecurities and brang them to light, so I believe all of them to be TRUE. And I don't know how to resolve my view of them. I have no self-worth because I feel there's nothing about me that's attractive to woman. *I'm 5'4, NOT muscular, my voice isn't loud and is odd/high, I have no strength from a muscle disease, I feel fat, small framed, can't provide for myself or others (no job, car, apt) I'm weak and not assertive don't have a high Testosterone level. And my member isn't anything to be proud of so I end up hating myself I see people as someone that automatically don't like me. I made a list of things cause i think about them EVERY DAY, and they make me feel terrible about myself because I know they're true. And don't know how to fix them and I know woman know it and don't want me. I believe there's an answer for all these things. Please show me the way. Because of these things I don't love myself and can't love other people and it hurts my relationships. hey i feel your issue i am mix and have strange voice that i dont like , i totally understand where you comming from as i have anxiety and it hard to fix your self when you have fear and anxiety and perhaps panic attacks. you feel alone or mybe feel you are not proud of your self as life is hard. i have good job and brand new car and a place and i am still not able to get anything. women are like that they only want best of the best which is the problem for avrage guy who cant compete with others. i dont have any good advise for you bro as it will be a lie or fake i am fighting my anxiety everyday and trying to make it in a day with no panic so finding women or talking to them is not an easy task but for others who dont have issue they look at me and laugh as i am weak and no one understand me. i dont know what will you do but i can say dont lose hope try what you can and mybe share your experice with others Thanks

Author:	Monsignor Crisanto [ Thu May 01, 2014 1:44 pm ]
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From 270, you're now 152. You have will power. Focus on your strength. Most of your weaknesses can be remedied with a very strong will power.

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Author:	AFCToTheMax [ Thu May 01, 2014 4:01 pm ]
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I suggest you go and see a professional. You made hundreds of threads asking advice. Which we gave you. - you are 5'4, we can't do anything about this sorry. We are not surgeons. - not muscular: what do you do to change this ? - your voice isn't loud: is this medical condition? - "I feel fat": Do you run 3-4kms a day, and do you have a decent diet ? DO YOU ? - cant provide for yourself and others. What are the steps you are taking to change this ? Have you applied for a job recently ? I mean any job. - don't have a high testosterone level. You can take supplements. Like Tribulus etc. use the internet.

Author:	Pinkfloyd123 [ Fri May 02, 2014 7:28 am ]
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Quote: I suggest you go and see a professional. You made hundreds of threads asking advice. Which we gave you. - you are 5'4, we can't do anything about this sorry. We are not surgeons. - not muscular: what do you do to change this ? - your voice isn't loud: is this medical condition? - "I feel fat": Do you run 3-4kms a day, and do you have a decent diet ? DO YOU ? - cant provide for yourself and others. What are the steps you are taking to change this ? Have you applied for a job recently ? I mean any job. - don't have a high testosterone level. You can take supplements. Like Tribulus etc. use the internet. AFC, I do see a therapist and she told me that she didn't know how to help me and that there's nothing she could do. So I'll be seeing a new one soon. I think that I am fixable but that it would take someone with knowledge and patience to help me. And yes I'm helping myself. You sort of have this, "too bad, deal with it attitude" towards what I'm saying. But you don't understand there's deep rooted psychological issues behind it and I just can't snap out of it, if I could I would. There's great potential in me, you just have to recognize it. I've listed these things cause I wanted To change them. Some I have gotten over -- some I haven't. I have sent our many job resumes but no one got back to me.

Author:	Monsignor Crisanto [ Fri May 02, 2014 9:07 am ]
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Quote: I have sent our many job resumes but no one got back to me. Fresh out of college, my best friend moved to the states to be with his mom who's a nurse. He's one very persistent guy. By the 6th month of consistently sending out dozens of resumes and job applications week after week, he was very depressed when I talked to him. He simply went ahead with the routine and after more than a year, he finally got his first job as a computer programmer. He never looked back since then. The US economy does not look too good right now but it's somehow recovering. If you've been sending out resumes for the past 2 to 3 months, keep on sending them week after week and tailor each one according to the company. Do some walk-in applications too. I got my first job via the walk-in.

Author:	AFCToTheMax [ Fri May 02, 2014 12:33 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: I suggest you go and see a professional. You made hundreds of threads asking advice. Which we gave you. - you are 5'4, we can't do anything about this sorry. We are not surgeons. - not muscular: what do you do to change this ? - your voice isn't loud: is this medical condition? - "I feel fat": Do you run 3-4kms a day, and do you have a decent diet ? DO YOU ? - cant provide for yourself and others. What are the steps you are taking to change this ? Have you applied for a job recently ? I mean any job. - don't have a high testosterone level. You can take supplements. Like Tribulus etc. use the internet. AFC, I do see a therapist and she told me that she didn't know how to help me and that there's nothing she could do. So I'll be seeing a new one soon. I think that I am fixable but that it would take someone with knowledge and patience to help me. And yes I'm helping myself. You sort of have this, "too bad, deal with it attitude" towards what I'm saying. But you don't understand there's deep rooted psychological issues behind it and I just can't snap out of it, if I could I would. There's great potential in me, you just have to recognize it. I've listed these things cause I wanted To change them. Some I have gotten over -- some I haven't. I have sent our many job resumes but no one got back to me. I might have not put my comment in the best presentable way I agree. Lack of time to post. And also you ask advice on things we cannot possibly change. Anyway with regards to job search Hellhound is spot on. You need lots of application out. And they need to stand out from the rest. I'm sure there are good advices on how to do this effectively all over the internet. I've sent out about 200 when I was looking for a job. Mate you are doing fine. You are aware what are your shortcomings and work on them constantly. Basically you are already better than the majority of the population who doesn't do anything except whining. You think you are fixable. This is a very very good attitude. Keep it up. You are not broken however so I would rephrase this as "I believe I can overcome my weaknesses". Sounds much better and actually reflects what you are doing. "there is a great potential in me you just have to recognize it" Well put. We do recognize it already. Maybe you should as well. Now let me quote your first post and your last: - "I have no self worth" - "I end up hating myself" - "I see people as someone that automatically don't like me" - "I don't love myself" Now your last post: - "I think I'm fixable" - "There is a great potential in me" - "I am working on becoming a better me" Big change in attitude and how you look at yourself. This is what you should be thinking. If you hate yourself, why are you working on becoming a better you ? I don't want you to answer this but just think about it a little. I suggest you take a piece of paper and write down all the positive things about you. Anything you can think of. And read them for yourself. And do this regularly.

Author:	Cali-$inner [ Fri May 02, 2014 8:25 pm ]
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Hang in There.... For your height you can wear "Tall" Shoes <-- I forget what they are called. Hit the Gym, Even slender and cut is the way to go. Step outside your boundaries, if you don't then you wont be able to replicate, hence no Offspring and your name will not go on. <--- This freaks the shit out of me when i get alittle lazy and don't go out, I have to force myself and keep telling me that I need my name to carry on.. and another thing Everyone has insecurities, you just have to Fight Through Them.. Slef help books and books for pick up such as such as Neil Strauss's The Game" really helped me overcome some of my insecurities.. Hope that helps..

Author:	slutty22 [ Fri May 02, 2014 11:23 pm ]
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