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Author:  FlexBrah [ Sun Mar 16, 2014 4:37 am ]
Post subject:  Performance Anxiety
I know I need to chill the fuck out. I'm like a raging bull going crazy in foreplay and everything lol. (I like her to get it rough)

When I get fully naked I seem to have a mediocre/barely an erection. My erection is a lot better with my clothes on.

I am going to try to just relax and not try to jump to fucking as soon as I get a good erection... just kind of enjoy the moment. Take it slow like some love song or something.

I am also going to try going down on her because i heard that helps.

Any other suggestions?

EDIT: Oh and I have only had sex once with my life, and that once I had the same issue but worse b/c she wasn't very hygenic. :/ But I forced myself somehow to get a decent enough boner and go through with it. Definitely getting performance anxiety due to lack of sex experience.

EDIT2: And I know that my size is also contributing to Performance Anxiety. I Googled it and it looks like my erected length is average and the girth is well above average. I'm a grower not a shower, so I do have a fear of her seeing me limp. But I googled that shit too and my limp length is average/slightly above average.
Author:  Monsignor Crisanto [ Sun Mar 16, 2014 4:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Performance Anxiety
When I'm semi-erect, I use my penis to masturbate her pussy. I rub it on her clit.

I also clamp my fingers on the base of my penis and rotate it clockwise and counter-clockwise around 2 to 3 inches deep in her vagina.

Do those for several minutes and you'll get hard in no time. Spit some saliva on your dick so the sensation feels better.

A girl taught me that trick. By the 3rd or 4th round, I was finding it hard to get my dick hard. So the girl took my limp cock and started masturbating her pussy with it. I'm hard in no time.

It might work fer yah.
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Sun Mar 16, 2014 4:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Performance Anxiety
I say this all the time for alot of different things... But stop watching porn.

Here's my idea why...

When you watch porn and jack off... your brain is causing your dick to get hard and you eventually blowing your load. The images come from your computer screen and into your brain. You're getting off on the thought of fucking a hot girl. Your brain doesn't know what should REALLY be turning you on... The act of actually having sex with a girl.

So say you stop watching porn....

You get a bit edgy because you haven't blown your load in a week or so... You go out. You're horny as fuck. Now the inner animal is starting to come out... You're looking for a girl who you can ravish her vagina. Tear it apart. Make her walk funny for the next week.

The sex will be more like a wild bear mounting a squirrel instead of her feeling like she's getting poked with a wet noodle. Ja feel?
Author:  Mr_International [ Sun Mar 16, 2014 4:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Performance Anxiety
I gotta side with Majikal. Porn is fucking this generation up. Look at the guys in Japan, fucking marrying pillows and shit. Meanwhile, dudes with no access to porn (lower income people) are knocking women up left and right. Not saying that knocking women up all over the place is a goal to strive for, but it sort of sheds light on things.

Ok, enough of that. If that's not the case with you, maybe look into a cock ring. If you're slick, she may not even notice you putting it on or wearing it. On the other hand, if she digs it, they have some pretty badass ones with clit massagers that vibrate. Have that chick like :shock:
Author:  JakeP [ Sun Mar 16, 2014 9:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Performance Anxiety
If you watch porn, that is likely a cause. Stop, and it will fix it itself.

Also, stop fixating on the size of your dick. As long as it's not three inches long and shaped like a Saguaro cactus, you have nothing to worry about. You're giving yourself anxiety by thinking too much about stupid things the media says are important and that you should care about, because well, they need to sell news, magazines and whatever and these topics (penis size, etc.,) generate the most interest and thereby money. If you are average as you say, the vast majority of women will not give a shit. Knowing how to use it is another story, but just focus on how good it feels, and you'll be fine. Stop thinking, start thrusting.

Don't force yourself to go down on her if you don't want to. You're projecting past insecurities from other women onto this woman and this experience. Stay in the present. She isn't that unhygienic girl that you went down on before. You are fine, do what you wanna do and what feels good and it'll all fall into place.
Author:  Snarg [ Mon Mar 17, 2014 1:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Performance Anxiety
Having been in your exact situation a few years ago, I will say that for me, abstaining from watching porn did not help at all. I even tried to go for 3+ weeks without masturbating and that somehow broke my dick even more. I tried everything. The thing is, people who overthink things in all aspects of life tend to have these problems.

Anyway, I caved and bought some generic Viagra online. Now, I know a lot of guys in here will frown on that, but it's what worked for me. I used it three times and by that point, my brain knew that I could get hard and all the anxiety went away. I even kept some with me just for the peace of mind. I've had absolutely no problem since then.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to spam or market this stuff, but it's what worked for me and I think it's a solution that is often overlooked because it's so taboo. But if you need some help finding some of this stuff safely, feel free to drop me a PM.
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