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| Author: | Straightforward [ Sat Mar 08, 2014 2:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How far does breaking rapport go? |
You learnt that you should break rapport. When a girl says she likes X and you genuinely don't care about X, should you therefore say "hm, interesting, you know what..." and change to another topic or should you say "I don't care about X, to me it's the most boring thing to do(if it's the case for you)"? In general, if you find her hobbies boring, should you say it or change the topic? |
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| Author: | manilahottie [ Sat Mar 08, 2014 4:39 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How far does breaking rapport go? |
If it's an uninteresting topic, try to throw questions to help you find interest in it and learn something about her. Like, say she's talking about shoes. So what color do you like? What style is your favorite? Oooh I would like to see you in those one day, I bet you look really sexy in it. |
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| Author: | hugge [ Sun Mar 09, 2014 6:58 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How far does breaking rapport go? |
Never say anything mean, and never hurt her feelings! Personally, I think breaking rapport sounds like BS. If it is about not agreeing with things you don't agree about, then don't. Simple as that. I know it was something Julien from RSD used to tell people, but he never said anything about building rapport, which I have found much more important (using the NLP technique "pacing and leading"). As a personal observation and a side note, I'm not convinced Julien is that good at connecting with people. I have never seen him in action, and I don't know him, but I'm still not convinced he is that good at pickup as people say. The lack of videos about building rapport is just once such hint. Another really strong hint is a video where he tells a story about how he gets rejected over and over again (and that's what he is used to). Since I learned about pacing and leading I have never been rejected. So when I compare my own results with Julien's stories, it make me doubt his capability, and "breaking rapport". |
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| Author: | Straightforward [ Sun Mar 09, 2014 1:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How far does breaking rapport go? |
Funny you say that, I got this information from julien. But Mystery is doing the same thing. Julien said about building rapport that you have no filters. "If you say what you think she assumes that if you were a serial killer you'd say it". So yes, he does talk about building rapport. |
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| Author: | Gunfighter28 [ Sun Mar 09, 2014 5:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How far does breaking rapport go? |
I agree with the don't hurt feelings comment. Keep it fun and challenging when I break rapport with a girl I do it kind of in 2in1 sort of thing mix rapport breaking and qualifying . I jokingly brush what they say off as insignificant (if the situation is right) I get an exaggerated ahhh then she feels challenged which in turn sets the stage for a qualifying routine. When I 1st got into the game I read BadBoy's article on breaking rapport there were times I took it too far, but even then I still had success. One example off hand is I was at a party and this girl I slept with and her friend were there the friend was testing me hard and being harsh with it. Everything she said I gave back 2x harsher she was playing along until I took it too far, and she left. Then the girl I had slept with was hanging on me I toned down the rapport breaking and just went challenging then ignored her for an hour or so went after other girls she saw that and was on me like a fly on shit, but in my early days I really didn't know how to calibrate when it came to breaking rapport I'd just go all out maybe it was just dumb luck, but anytime I blew it with my target there would be another girl that was listening. And intrigued that would approach me. Anyway that's my story on breaking rapport hopefully there's something useful in there for you good luck!! |
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| Author: | Xoved [ Sun Mar 09, 2014 6:51 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How far does breaking rapport go? |
No you don't want to discriminate what she likes in order to express yourself. Instead, if she says she likes to play Tennis for example, talk about your hobbies or what inspired her to do so. No need to say that you don't like what she does. |
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| Author: | Straightforward [ Mon Mar 10, 2014 5:09 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How far does breaking rapport go? |
Quote: If it's an uninteresting topic, try to throw questions to help you find interest in it and learn something about her.
Who told you that it was necessary to care about what she likes? That's no trick question, I am serious.
Like, say she's talking about shoes. So what color do you like? What style is your favorite? Oooh I would like to see you in those one day, I bet you look really sexy in it. |
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