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Author:  smitty3300 [ Tue Mar 04, 2014 10:35 am ]
Post subject:  Buying a girl a drink
Whats the deal with whether or whether not I should buy a girl a drink. Is it a strict rule in PUA not to buy a girl a drink? If not, when is an okay time to do it?
Author:  TheFury [ Tue Mar 04, 2014 3:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Buying a girl a drink
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Whats the deal with whether or whether not I should buy a girl a drink. Is it a strict rule in PUA not to buy a girl a drink? If not, when is an okay time to do it?
No, it is not a strict rule, and if anyone tells you it is, they are just rationalizing their cheapass dead-beat behavior. You should not buy a drink as a way to build attraction, but it is an excellent way to isolate a target, for example.
Author:  BITmixit [ Tue Mar 04, 2014 3:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Buying a girl a drink
Buy a girl a drink only if you want. If she asks/demands one then she's using you for free drinks. You can also gauge interest when buying a girl a drink. If she buys you one back, her interest is high.

Personally on dates/whatever I go for "rounds." I.e. I buy her a drink then she buys me a drink rinse and repeat. This ensures that we both get to the same level of drunk.
Author:  Pikeman85 [ Tue Mar 04, 2014 6:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Buying a girl a drink
Buying a girl a drink is fine, as others have said.

Don't buy a girl a drink if she asks you. Usually if a girl asks me to buy her a drink, I ask her to buy me a drink. That sorta shifts the ball from the girl saying, "To even talk to me, you must placate me", to you saying, "Um, do you know who I am? You should be buying ME a drink, girl."

Attraction usually spikes a bit when you do that. Sometimes you'll get a shit test, like, "Why should I buy you a drink?" - to this I would respond with either, "Why should I buy YOU a drink?" in an amused, I'm better than you way, or possibly just point to yourself in an amused and arrogant way, like, "What? Me? Are you crazy girl?"

You'd be shocked how often girls will buy you drinks. Frequently I don't even have to buy my own drinks at the bar.
Author:  breedlove465 [ Tue Mar 04, 2014 6:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Buying a girl a drink
Gotta see the forest through the trees as they say. The purpose of not buying drinks is to separate yourself from the typical AFC that initiates conversation by buying drinks or is able to get a pretty girl to talk to you as long as you buy her drinks. If you are having fun with a girl, hanging out, there is nothing wrong with buying her a drink. But when you do, get it out of your head that you are doing this to get her to like you. That's not how it works.

If she asks you to buy her a drink then a good response is to ask her to do something for you first, even something as simple as answering a question. The funniest one to me is to ask her to make an animal noise. This way you are showing that you're not there just to jump through her hoops. Or you could say "You get this one I'll get the next round, sounds good?"

It's a line that you are walking where you don't act like a huge dick, you don't submit to her every request, and you don't seem like a cheapskate.
Author:  breedlove465 [ Tue Mar 04, 2014 6:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Buying a girl a drink
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Buying a girl a drink is fine, as others have said.

Don't buy a girl a drink if she asks you. Usually if a girl asks me to buy her a drink, I ask her to buy me a drink. That sorta shifts the ball from the girl saying, "To even talk to me, you must placate me", to you saying, "Um, do you know who I am? You should be buying ME a drink, girl."

Attraction usually spikes a bit when you do that. Sometimes you'll get a shit test, like, "Why should I buy you a drink?" - to this I would respond with either, "Why should I buy YOU a drink?" in an amused, I'm better than you way, or possibly just point to yourself in an amused and arrogant way, like, "What? Me? Are you crazy girl?"

You'd be shocked how often girls will buy you drinks. Frequently I don't even have to buy my own drinks at the bar.
Good advice.

Another possible thing to say i she asks you to buy her a drink, respond with something like "Tell me three things about you other than your looks that will make me want to buy you a drink..."

This way you are turning it from her saying "hey do this for me" to you saying "do this for me, prove yourself to me". And this works on any little request. Sometimes all you need to do is act resilient and say "I'm going to need convincing". It automatically turns her into the mode of "I need to impress this guy, he's not madly in love with me".
Author:  Mr_International [ Wed Mar 05, 2014 6:56 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Buying a girl a drink
From what I gather, some of the PUAs just don't care to drink as much in order to focus on picking up the most amount of girls with a clear head and to keep their costs down. Drinks can be pricey, so if you drink and buy drinks for as many women as these PUAs approach, you're going to be spending an arm and a leg.

If you enjoy a drink, go ahead and enjoy yourself, just take it easy IMO. Nothing wrong with getting a girl a drink, but there are some shady girls out there looking for some AFCs to get them free drinks all night. And once they score a free drink they're like "See ya!" So a lot of these PUAs are trying to drill you to separate the real from the fake.
Author:  GamesSN [ Wed Mar 05, 2014 7:21 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Buying a girl a drink
I never buy a girl a drink if she asks me. This isn't the movies, chicks who ask for drinks generally tend to only want a drink.
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