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| Author: | Gunfighter28 [ Thu Feb 27, 2014 1:55 am ] |
| Post subject: | stop replying new way to break up. |
Hey guys this may come off as a bit of a rant, but I would like some input on my opinion. One thing that kinda pisses me off is the relatively new way to break up is to just stop answering your phone. I personally think its a bitch move on a guy or girls part I mean if you wanna break up atleast have the decency to tell the other person and give them some closure. This whole rant is inspired by an incident this weekend a buddy of mine was dating this girl for about a month and a half by all accounts things were good. We were out last saturday and he said he hadn't been able to get a hold of her for 2 days thought that was strange, but didn't think much of it figured her phone was broken, and he'd hit her up on fb tmrw. Well I guess her not answering her phone was her way of breaking up with him because we saw her out with another guy. I thought fuck that is cold! Couldn't she have atleast had the decency to tell him its not working out break up with him so he atleast knows what's up? I thought it was extremely selfish she wants to move on see other ppl, but doesn't want the possible awkwardness of a break up so she just stops answering her phone. This rant doesn't just apply to women because I know plenty of guys who have done the same thing. I personally think its bitch move on a girls part and a pussy move on a guys part. I don't know is it selfishness they wanna break up, but a break up convo may be awkward and uncomfortable and I don't want that so I'll just stop answering my phone? Or is it that ppl these days are just pussies and are scared of having a potentially awkward conversation? Anyway that's my rant like I said brought on by an incident this weekend. I personally think that's a cold immature way of breaking up. Any girl I've broken up with I've broken up with in person in the nicest way possible because like the rule says leave them better then you found them. |
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| Author: | Jay (Majik) [ Thu Feb 27, 2014 2:27 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: stop replying new way to break up. |
Quote: he said he hadn't been able to get a hold of her for 2 days thought that was strange
Is he her boss or her boyfriend? Based off of that statement alone... I'm going to guess that this guy was probably smothering her. Not talking for 2 days a month into seeing someone is not a big deal. In fact, even being exclusive to someone after knowing them for a month is fucking dumb. Your friend seems desperate to have a girlfriend and seems to love the IDEA of a relationship vs actually loving the girl before getting into a relationship. He wanted a girl to call his snuggle bunny and she's only fuck buddy material. |
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| Author: | Gunfighter28 [ Thu Feb 27, 2014 11:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: stop replying new way to break up. |
I see what you mean. I only know what I saw, and what he told me there were times she brought him subway on his lunch break just because she thought it would be nice. When I said about the not talking for 2 days I should have worded it differently their text convos were mutual if anything she was putting more effort in. That's what gave me the opinion that its one of those situations she found someone else, and he's a thing of the past by no fault of his own. I compared it to a situation I had I was watching tv one night having a text convo with this girl when all of a sudden she stopped replying I figured she fell asleep, so the next day I shoot her a text asking her if she's going to the concert we were talking about no reply I thought that was strange about 4 days later I try again no reply so I move on, but in that situation there was nothing I could do she literally cut me off mid convo. From what I know and see of my buddy's situation I think its pretty much the same deal as me. |
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| Author: | ChimeranPanda [ Sun Mar 02, 2014 7:02 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: stop replying new way to break up. |
Quote: he's a thing of the past by no fault of his own
It is always the guy's fault. Women are emotional animals, and they only respond to the stimuli in their environment. If a girl stops going out with you, it is entirely your fault and nobody else's. It's time to reflect on your technique and get better. I think this is the truth, and this mindset is a positive one to adopt.
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| Author: | Gunfighter28 [ Sun Mar 02, 2014 8:55 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: stop replying new way to break up. |
Quote: Quote: he's a thing of the past by no fault of his own
It is always the guy's fault. Women are emotional animals, and they only respond to the stimuli in their environment. If a girl stops going out with you, it is entirely your fault and nobody else's. It's time to reflect on your technique and get better. I think this is the truth, and this mindset is a positive one to adopt.I totally agree with you that that's the mentality to have, and each time something doesn't work out take it as a chance to improve, but sometimes shit happens that you have no control over. |
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| Author: | ChimeranPanda [ Sun Mar 02, 2014 9:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: stop replying new way to break up. |
You're totally right. There are other things, like luck, timing, and other events that happen. They play a role in pick-up, and they also play a role once you're going out. They also affect business success, getting a job, etc. I like sailing, and John Vigor has a "Blackbox Theory" of luck: Quote: It states that there is no such thing as fortuitous luck at sea. The reason why some boaters survive storms or have fewer accidents than others is that they earn their "luck" by diligent and constant acts of seamanship. According to Vigor, aboard every boat there's an invisible black box. Every time a skipper takes the trouble to consult the chart, inspect the filters, go forward on a rainy night to check the running lights, or take any proper seamanship precaution, he or she earns a point that goes in the black box. Then, in times when human skill and effort can accomplish no more, the points are cashed in as protection. The skipper has no control over their withdrawal. They withdraw themselves, as appropriate. Those skippers with no points in the box are the ones later described as "unlucky." Those with points to spend avoid the mishap, but must start immediately to replenish their savings for the sea offers no credit. The point I'm trying to make to the members of the Boating Class as I cover safety requirements is that such measures as checking one's safety equipment at regular intervals or practicing safety drills earn points for the black box.
I see parallels in pick-up and relationships. As PUAs, we understand human relationships, attraction, etc. But we must still earn points every day that go into the "black box." Sometimes there's enough points to keep us afloat during an episode of bad luck. Sometimes, those points are exhausted and we lose. It's a good visual.
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