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Author:  Eddstark [ Tue Jan 07, 2014 12:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Completely weird 180 story...

When I was in high school I was a fucking skinny, insecure beta male,all I had was friends and reputation, that´s true, I was good at studies too but that´s it...
There I met a beautiful woman who was going to the same school, I talked twice with her... nothing special, she always was with my "shredded" bad boy friends...

Six months ago, and five years after leaving the high school we coincided again in a birthday.
BUT there was a difference... I was not the skinny beta she once knew anymore, I have improved and changed in an exaggerated way... This is my fourth year working out, I´m in my last year of career, and I have been with enough women this past years so I know at least how to talk with them, how to treat them...

I didn´t recognise her, but she did, she come and she introduced herself with a total flirting attitude, then I recognised her, she was so changed too... she didn´t belive that was me, she was impressed, but... she had boyfriend...
That night ended and from time to time, during the next 4 months, some friends said me: hey i saw her the other day and she talked to me about you, that you were hanging out the other night in a birthday etc...
I saw fucking interest in her about me...

Then a fucking misunderstanding happened ( caused by our common friends (not my school friends, other friends (women) from my neighbourhood, cause one of them ( we´ll call her X) doesn´t want us together (she enjoys with me, but she thinks I´m not what her best-friend deserves (she thinks I´m gonna fail her or some shit...).

So 2 months ago she added me on facebook, i accepted the friend request, and then i realized for other friends that she broke up with her boyfriend (X said me she still was with him, lying to me, so it sorprised me and then I really saw that X was going to do everything she could to impede me being with her friend...)

3 weeks ago i decided talk to her and ask her out a night that i was gonna go with these common girl friends, she answered so excited and we talk a little more, during this Xmas, agreeing on go out that night.
That night was the January 4 night.
January 2 X and she went out for some drinks, and she talked to me using SPAM she said that X gave her my number, that she expected it didn´t bother to me etc... she talked to me so sweet, throwing IOI´s to me everytime...
Next day i said her something like tomorrow i see you and she said I´m working (what it´s true), then i asked if she was not going to come and she answered me with a "jajajaja" so i decided to ignore her.
That night the group couldn´t go out, cause one of the girls got sick, so we postponed it to the next night (january 5), and then she talked to me again, sweet as fuck, and breaking the silence after her "jajajaj" that of course i din´t answered... She said me that she was going to come cause the 6 she had the day off... "great, I see you then" i said...
The night came up and guess what... she was not there... and she dind´t even text me anything saying something like excuse me i´m tired, im not gonna go or whatever!

Enraged, the only thing i could think was: OK, forget me, and i unfriend her on facebook, not overreacting, i just thinked "it´s over, we´re done" i´m not gonna keep looking for something that doesn´t exist, and i can´t damage myself more, i´ve had a strong oneitis with this girl before, and i don´t deserve suffer again with this shit!
Things have changed since high school i thought...

Today January 7 she has not talked to me to say something.
I´m just gonna wait, and move on...

The question is: Why? How can something like this change 180º in a fucking day... She did a lot, she seems to be so fucking interested in me, and i did the right thing at any moment...

Author:  Eddstark [ Wed Jan 08, 2014 11:25 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Completely weird 180 story...

some advices?
What do you think?

Author:  BrandonMarshall [ Wed Jan 08, 2014 2:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Completely weird 180 story...

don't over react... you shouldn't have unfriended her on Facebook.

I would have jus asked her what happened... that's all... if she acts cold brush your shoulders off and move on... don't give her any indication that you feel any bitterness about it. If anything hide her from your newsfeed.... but if you unfriend her you just escalated it into something bigger than it is.

Author:  Eddstark [ Wed Jan 08, 2014 6:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Completely weird 180 story...

Apreciate so much the answer.
Unfriend her was a mistake, but i did it and don´t wanna punish me more, next time i´ll think twice before do something like this.
But the damage is already done and i suposse that this single mistake is not gonna ruin our project.
She was pursuing me so hard for 3 months, can´t believe this is done for this mistake...
I was not the only one who made a msitake that night, she flaked out on me too...
Totally convinced that she did that because of my behaviour the last night when she talked to me looking for my forgiveness in the most sweet way she could after of a bad response the day before...
She has done a lot (and more being a Spanish woman) for being together, so i think it was just a rebellion act that I dind´t know how to handle, to see if i was really interested on her...
In a week i´m leaving to the United States for three weeks, so I think that maybe my best option is to talk to her from there when my trip is ending, saying something like: "Are you in LA?, have i seen to your twin sister right now?, or do I see u everywhere? ;)"

I think it´s kinda good way of saying: lets be in peace and don´t lose what we want for stupid pride...
Or maybe it´s too beta and it´s better something like "I´ve just seen to your twin sister" and wait 4 her answer that I think won´t be late...

Do u think it´s ok?
I know the best is move on with my life but I have part of responsability and don´t wanna lose my oneitis since school, i owe this to myself...

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