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| Author: | TheFrenchConnection [ Thu Jan 02, 2014 11:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | And THAT is how you do it. |
Friendzoned with a girl. She used to turn to me for "friend" talks all the time. I knew I should freeze her for a while because being her friend was doing nothing for me, but because of insecurity kept putting it off. A few days ago she texted and asked me to go to facebook to chat. I did not want to power on my PC and did not even answer. Some two hours later she texted again, I was busy. She kept texting, even though I was not ansering, turns out she was having some trouble and needed a shoulder to cry on, and ended up with "were are you when I need your support?" I took the cue and simply answered "Busy with another cute blonde. Talk later". And that is how I started my freeze out. I had previously mentioned I was going out with another girl, she was not interested. Now she wants to know who she is and says she misses me. And that is how you turn the tables and stop being a lapdog. Thank you for being a supportive comunity whose advice has served me well more than once. |
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| Author: | GKS [ Fri Jan 03, 2014 12:03 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: And THAT is how you do it. |
It's a start. But by no mean indicates that you're not in the friendzone anymore. Unless you create some attraction and sexual tension. |
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| Author: | BrandonMarshall [ Fri Jan 03, 2014 2:55 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: And THAT is how you do it. |
good job... you;re on the right track. go out and date other girls. |
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| Author: | fishnwomen [ Fri Jan 03, 2014 3:20 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: And THAT is how you do it. |
Best way out of the friendzone: stop being her friend, you are a MAN for god sakes! You have a dick that you want to stick in pussy... she's emasculating you by saying that to you. Some friend! If you are friends, do so because she brings actual value to your life. Maybe she likes sports. Maybe she likes to help wing you. Just never keep her around as a friend if she is only leaching value from you. |
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| Author: | TheFrenchConnection [ Fri Jan 03, 2014 4:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: And THAT is how you do it. |
I know I have a long way to go, I just meant to show that she used to take me for granted, and now that I removed that she is the one who has to work for it. Basic cat string theory. Also, there may have been (or still is) some attraction, but she friendzoned me because she is pretty damn hot, has lots of male attention from guys who are better looking than me and needed a friend, not one more average guy after her. Also, I failed to escalate and act properly at first because, as I said, she is damn hot, and I'm still a noob. I'm in the game for a few months only. Have had some success, actively game other girls, have FWBs and a few one night stands, but thought "that is waaaay out of my league", so I kinda accepted the friendzone until I feel more confortable with my game, wich I now do. |
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| Author: | Xoved [ Sat Jan 04, 2014 10:26 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: And THAT is how you do it. |
I don't really see the point here. You still didn't get out of the friendzone. Seems that this girl doesn't have a lot of friends she actually goes out with, that's why she's scared shitless she'd be left alone soon. I've literally escaped the friendzone with every girl. It's not a miracle, all you have to do is show your sexual intentions. If the girl doesn't like it, move on to another. That's how you really avoid being friendzoned. |
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| Author: | TheFrenchConnection [ Sun Jan 05, 2014 2:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: And THAT is how you do it. |
In fact, it is quite the oposite. She is the kind of very flashy girl that goes out with her friends almost every single night and is a regular at every last club in town, wich is about the only thing I don't like about her, since I'm not much into clubbing. Why she is so clingy to me, I have no idea. Maybe she sees me as "relatonship material" and is testing the water, I honestly don't know what to make of this. Also, with all due respect for someone who is more experienced than me, I don't see you escaping the friendzone, you are just taking the easy way out. What you are saying is basically this: "I drive my dream car: a Fiat! I could never aford a Ferrari, so I nexted it". Well, I WILL drive a Ferrari, and I DO want this girl. As long as gaming her does not harm my chances with other girls (and so far it hasn't), I don't see why I shoudn't change tactics and try different things in order to get my prize. But then again, I never turned my back on a fight and was always determined to have my way. Again, I say this with all respect and apreciate your advice, but we just have diferent ways of looking at this. Anyway, update: she keeps pushing me and initiating conversations, wich I have been cutting short with the "I'm busy" excuse. She went on my facebook and has been asking me questions about all the blondes I know to see wich one it is. She is freaking out and I belive will soon be where I want her. |
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| Author: | Xoved [ Sun Jan 05, 2014 5:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: And THAT is how you do it. |
I do respect your opinion. But I have to point out something really important. Going for another girl when you don't get something from the previous one is not "Driving a Fiat because I couldn't afford a Ferrari" type of thing. This is because you will definitely find a more attractive girl with a better personality when you start realizing that you moved on. I have nothing against you if you want this girl, instead go for her. Making up more excuses not to talk to her will bore her out and she'll move on sooner or later. You already boosted your value big-time when you told her that you are busy with another girl. Her questions have some sense of jealousy engraved deep inside. Don't be fooled too, club girls are lonely most of the time. Nearly all the girls I game are girls who go out to bars and clubs with different groups everyday, but no one is really close to them for them to trust. If you want my opinion, I'd say go for her. You have nothing to lose as you'll know the answer of whether she has something for you or not. It's a win-win situation. Making up excuses will not do the trick. Good luck |
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| Author: | TheFrenchConnection [ Thu Jan 09, 2014 4:07 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: And THAT is how you do it. |
A lot closer to success now. She has been saying that she misses me, needs me, etc. I responded with something in the lines of "you know I was there when you needed me and that I like you a lot, but you can't honestly expect me to drop everything and hold your hand everytime you need. I have my own stuff to deal with. Have you forgotten how many times you stood me up?" (she had previously flaked on a 1 on 1 date) One thing led to another and me placing her between a rock and a hard place gave her a lot to think. She realized we hit the point of no retorn and that she would had to make a decision, so she asked me out for next weekend. Now it's only a matter of going all in, using my best game, some good kino and it's do or die with this one. |
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