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Author:  hallo [ Wed Feb 20, 2008 7:32 am ]
Post subject:  Just 2 questions, please help me
Hey all how are ya all?

Ive got 1 question.

Before we start, lets use A B and C as someone's name.

At school, theres a girl that I like and also I know she likes me so much. However, most ppl (probably all) think that this girl that i like, A, likes someone else, B, and they also think that B likes A. However me and A know that we like each other, were just shy.

My question is:

There's a school ball soon. IF....I-F....she asks me to dance, which would be the best to do:

1. Tell her : "Oh, A, I thought u liked B and if i dance with u, B is gonna kill me!" (even tho i want to dance with her)

2. Tell her : "Ah, ok, I'll dance with you :wink: "

Which is better?

Alright, second question:

Generally, is it beter for A to know that I like her too? Or just hide it and act like I dont like her? Which makes her feel better?

Once again I really appreciated and thank you so much for all the help + support

Have a great day all! :P
Author:  chicocat21 [ Wed Feb 20, 2008 8:20 am ]
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1. Tell her : "Oh, A, I thought u liked B and if i dance with u, B is gonna kill me!" (even tho i want to dance with her)

2. Tell her : "Ah, ok, I'll dance with you Wink " ]
I would do 2, since she's asking you. You want to reward her IOI, but at the same time don't convey too much excitement. Maybe say 'ok, since you asked nicely' or 'ok, maybe just 1 song'. You can always extend it to as many songs as possible.
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Generally, is it beter for A to know that I like her too? Or just hide it and act like I dont like her? Which makes her feel better?
You eventually have to let her know. I would say play it off in the beginning, then get her guessing by displaying interest at times and playing it off at other times. You don't want to come off too strong but at the same time, if you don't display interest, B will.
Author:  phantomG [ Wed Feb 20, 2008 2:45 pm ]
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dude this is a PUA forum. You're not an AFC now. Leave that behind. Don't ask her to dance. Do a routine like the reverse number guessing game, and let her win, and say that as her reward, she's going to have the opporunity to dance with you. Drag her hand and go, don't give her time to think and back out.
Author:  Broken_Halo [ Wed Feb 20, 2008 5:32 pm ]
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Yeah dude, don't be shy! and don't apologize for anything. make your approach, DHV and neg. when you're in school it's all about social rank. If you show that you are of a higher social rank (even if you're not) and don't be overly impressed with her.
Author:  tweeby [ Wed Feb 20, 2008 7:54 pm ]
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> There's a school ball soon. IF....I-F....she asks me to dance

So you're gonna wait for HER to ask you to dance? LOL

Look there are two types of people in life:

"Those who wait and those who act."

Guess which type of person gets the most out of life?

>Drag her hand and go, don't give her time to think and back out.

Amen.
Author:  hallo [ Thu Feb 21, 2008 11:33 am ]
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Hmmm I replied a while ago and its not here......I forgot what it was about....

Anyway thanks for all the replies.

The thing is , if its just me and her, its totally cool, im 100% sure she will talk to me. Even if we sit next to each other, thats good enuf, like last time in class she was the 1 to start. However, the problem is that, like always, girls always go in groups....so she is always with other girls that are also popular in school....which is 95% of the time, and her being with her frnds simply makes me AND her NOT want to talk to each other.

How do i break it?
Author:  phantomG [ Thu Feb 21, 2008 3:18 pm ]
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what do you know about puaing? Have you read the game? It'll help you. Don't target her. Open the entire group. Neg her. Then move in.
Author:  Arkitekt [ Thu Feb 21, 2008 4:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Just 2 questions, please help me
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However me and A know that we like each other, were just shy.
This doesn't quite make sense. Do you REALLY know that she likes you?

If so, then I don't see the problem here.

If you were playing a basketball game and were very nervous with
5,000 people watching you. Yet, you knew that every shot you took
would go right in... wouldn't you take as many shots as you could
despite how nervous you were?

Like someone else said, start taking action. Don't wait for her to
make a decision.
Author:  hallo [ Fri Feb 22, 2008 1:03 pm ]
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I forgot to say this:

Few months ago, she was the first to like me, she showed lots of IOIs to me. I wasnt really aware of this, so i just acted normally, quite often I looked at her just liek a normal person would do. However, these days I realized that this girl actually likes me, which makes me shy and look down when she makes eye contact with me. Is this the right way? or should i just act like before and look at her? It seems looking at her eyes works better.

She is always in this group.....its the hardest part i guess.....this morning i talked to her because we were walking together ( she caught up to me because i was ahead of her so i thought this would be a great idea to talk to her) and i was the first to start lol finally. I learned that if it was only the 2 of us, it would be a LOT easier....the thing is, shes always in this group which makes her AND myself shy talking to each other....

So basically the barrier is the girl's friends.....
Author:  Arkitekt [ Fri Feb 22, 2008 4:47 pm ]
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Dude, it seems you are in Bizarro world. ha ha You are doing and acting
the way she is supposed to be.

First off, SHE is the one who is supposed to look down and away shyly
when making eye contact... NOT YOU. Eye contact is key with anyone
you meet. You probably need to work on that.

I'll re-iterate. You need to be taking action... not waiting for her to.

And I'm not talking about chasing this girl like a puppy dog, but just start acting.

Pull her away from her friends. You did it subconsciously by walking
ahead and making her chase you to catch up. It should be ten times
easier to isolate her now. :) Tell her friends you are going to steal
her away for a sec to talk because you've been ignoring her. If
you've gotten in good with the friends, they shouldn't mind.
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