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Author:  ricadams1010 [ Fri Nov 15, 2013 3:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Gives number herself, but doesn't respond
Hi Guys, I am new to dating etc. so I might have made some very obvious mistakes in this case. So, please feel free to be as brutally honest as you can and point out as many mistakes as possible.

Story--
I met this girl while walking home one day and we started talking. I was thinking of asking her out that day but couldn't find the courage. Anyway, the next time I met her, she asked asked me how do I like the city (I am new to city) and I said I haven't been around much and she should show me some time. She said yes and gave me her number herself, without even me asking for it.
Then, I added her on SPAM and from the profile pic its pretty clear that she has a boyfriend. I am ok with that, as I am new to city and would like to make some new friends. So, I waited for 2-3 days and sent her a message on SPAM with General chit-chat. this is a gist of conversation :-
Me - Hey, this is Ric, how are you
Her - Fine and you ? How was your day ?
Me - It was fine, getting used to the cold weather
Me - going to a concert right now
Her - its cool
her - i am doing my assignment
her - its cooler than a concert, believe me haha
*me - haha, may be i should give them a try :) show them to me sometime
*I now think this was a really stupid comment
Then I got no reply from her for like one day. I sent another message the next day -

*me - hey, the weather is nice this weekend, lets hangout sometime

No reply yet !!

My question is 1) why give me number in the first place without even asking 2) why act like this afterwards.
Author:  Cdharders [ Fri Nov 15, 2013 3:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Gives number herself, but doesn't respond
Your reply didn't warrant a response. Have a question at the end. I didn't actually understand what you were trying to convey in the message, so I couldn't tell you. Next time, message her immediately. She could easily forget who you are in a few days. Plus, what's the point of waiting?
Does that advice help?
Author:  ricadams1010 [ Fri Nov 15, 2013 3:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Gives number herself, but doesn't respond
I was just trying to post a funny comment. I get your point and make sure not to write such conversation breakers in between. But two questions :-
1) shouldn't we generally wait for 2-3 days before asking ?
2) Is it this difficult a thing. Iike one bad comment and you won't get replies anymore.
3) what should i do next ? I know she has a boyfriend and I am also not interested in her that way. But, I liked her and would like it if we can be friends. especially since I am new to the city
Author:  r0cky [ Fri Nov 15, 2013 4:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Gives number herself, but doesn't respond
1. You should built more comfort and rapport before asking her out. I think you still have a chance to do this.
2. Just because she asks for your number does not mean she will be down. I've had plenty of girls ask for my number or had their friends tell me that they want my number, but they were still as difficult to game as any other girl. They are maybe 10% more likely to say yes, but not really a big difference.
Author:  ricadams1010 [ Fri Nov 15, 2013 4:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Gives number herself, but doesn't respond
What should I do next. Should I text something after some days or just hope to bump into her again.
Author:  wingintyme [ Fri Nov 15, 2013 6:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Gives number herself, but doesn't respond
Quote:
Hi Guys, I am new to dating etc. so I might have made some very obvious mistakes in this case. So, please feel free to be as brutally honest as you can and point out as many mistakes as possible.

Story--
I met this girl while walking home one day and we started talking. I was thinking of asking her out that day but couldn't find the courage. Anyway, the next time I met her, she asked asked me how do I like the city (I am new to city) and I said I haven't been around much and she should show me some time. She said yes and gave me her number herself, without even me asking for it.
Then, I added her on SPAM and from the profile pic its pretty clear that she has a boyfriend. I am ok with that, as I am new to city and would like to make some new friends. So, I waited for 2-3 days and sent her a message on SPAM with General chit-chat. this is a gist of conversation :-
Me - Hey, this is Ric, how are you
Her - Fine and you ? How was your day ?
Me - It was fine, getting used to the cold weather
Me - going to a concert right now
Her - its cool
her - i am doing my assignment
her - its cooler than a concert, believe me haha
*me - haha, may be i should give them a try :) show them to me sometime
*I now think this was a really stupid comment
Then I got no reply from her for like one day. I sent another message the next day -

*me - hey, the weather is nice this weekend, lets hangout sometime

No reply yet !!

My question is 1) why give me number in the first place without even asking 2) why act like this afterwards.
Everything seemed ok with the exception of when she said she was doing her assignment, "It's cooler than a concert," your response doesn't make a whole lot of sense.

Maybe you should give what a try? "Them" as in her assignment? Some of them are harsh judges on gramatics when you text.

The last thing, "let's hang out" doesn't go with the first part.

Be sure you are not texting back to back within seconds. You will blow them out trying to keep up too fast. You wanna talk to her more than she wants to talk to you.

Probably when she said it's cooler than a concert believe me, you could say something that doesn't suggest hanging out, something kind of smart ass like "OH you think"

You want to leave them hanging if you are going to succeed. Other wise you're looking at the big uglys . You won't get your hang out that soon most times, that's for certain.
Author:  ricadams1010 [ Fri Nov 15, 2013 7:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Gives number herself, but doesn't respond
Btw, I really appreciate you guys helping me out. I could've said something like "ohh, you're such a geek :P". I think I sort of creeped her out which is so stupid given that I was not even thinking about her in this way. But, I guess lessons learnt:-
1) Don't text too fast, take your time and think properly.
2) Always try to keep them hanging.

Anyway, big question ? What should I do now ? I think texting her again is stupid but whenever I run into her again, what should I so.
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