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Author:  Harkness [ Fri Nov 15, 2013 12:36 pm ]
Post subject:  My friend has ONEitis; please help.
Okay, here's the situation. My friend is a stand up comedian, works out and keeps himself in great shape. He's a bit too dark to be funny to most people, but we've been friends for over a year. He's usually a bit of a natural with women, but this one-itis has gotten bad.

He's told me about dreams he's having about situations where her boyfriend ditches her in a house fire, he comes in and saves her. Stuff like this worries me, he's a good bro but he's Game unaware and I have no idea how to snap him out of it. Other girls throw themselves at him, but he's too fixed on this one.

Admittedly, she's a few years younger, at least an 8 or a 9 (tight waist, large breasts, great eyes and long hair.) but he's 100% smitten. I don't know how to help him out, is there anyone out there who can give me some advice?

EDIT: I should have mentioned, he's not actually in a relationship, dating, or getting anything from her. He's just fawning from a distance. That's why I'm worried.
Author:  Pokee [ Fri Nov 15, 2013 1:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: My friend has ONEitis; please help.
Until your friend can admit to himself that his behavior is negatively impacting his life (currently he can't imagine how it could be), nothing you say will have any effect on his attitude toward this chick. Besides, what's it to you anyway? What is it you want? If you wanna fuck her then that's on you. You want him to let her go so you can pick her up? Cuz that's what I think you want. I don't care, I'm not gonna judge that. Like I said, that's on you. Are you trying to become his life coach to make yourself feel important?

Just focus on yourself. Work on your own game. Live your own life. Let him live his. Accept him for who he is or don't. When he asks you for help then help him. Until then, nothing you can do.
Author:  wingintyme [ Fri Nov 15, 2013 1:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: My friend has ONEitis; please help.
yea. stop being jealous and leave the situation alone. He's found a girl, you haven't. When you start being happy for your friends who have, eventually maybe you will find a girl.
Author:  Harkness [ Fri Nov 15, 2013 1:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: My friend has ONEitis; please help.
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Until your friend can admit to himself that his behavior is negatively impacting his life (currently he can't imagine how it could be), nothing you say will have any effect on his attitude toward this chick. What is it you want? If you wanna fuck her then that's on you. You want him to let her go so you can pick her up? Cuz that's what I think you want. I don't care, I'm not gonna judge that. Like I said, that's on you. Are you trying to become his life coach to make yourself feel important?

Just focus on yourself. Work on your own game. Live your own life. Let him live his. Accept him for who he is or don't. When he asks you for help then help him. Until then, nothing you can do.
I'm not going to say she's not attractive, but as soon as he told me how he felt I left him to it. He's just a good friend who I don't want to see making this AFC mistake, particularly as the way he's pedestalizing her he's setting himself up for failure. That said, you're probably right about that. If I try to baby him it won't turn out good for either of us, the experience might even motivate him to learn Game. Either way, it's his path here on out.

Also, he's not dating or getting anything from the girl. She's got a boyfriend, has had one since I've known her.
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