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| Author: | Byron Jester [ Sat Nov 09, 2013 9:43 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Shy Girls |
On Wednesday, I got out of class early and decided to go to the Student Center to meet with a friend. He was busy doing schoolwork at the time though so I was left alone. I saw a cute girl with hair dyed pink and decided I wanted to approach her. I asked her to watch my stuff and put it down at the table. I then went and bought a drink from one of the stores in the Student Center. When I came back I asked if I could sit with her and started talking with her. She was working on Japanese homework and I kept telling her that if she wanted to work on that just to tell me, but she said it was fine (I'm considering this just politeness and not an IOI). I ran Mystery's ESP routine during which we had a lot of eye contact and talked to her for a little bit. I kept teasing her about her hair and being shy. I asked her why it was that it seems like a lot of the coolest people I know are shy and she said it was probably cause they spend all day on their computer. One of the main problems we were having was that the conversation would die out and she wouldn't initiate anything. When she finished up her homework she took out a 3DS to play Pokemon. I stopped talking to her at this point and just let her play. A couple minutes later a guy walked over and sat next to her. He started talking to her and I teased her about being rude for not introducing me to her friend. She introduced us and then he started talking to her. I tried making some conversation with him to try and win over the obstacle, but he was paying more attention to her so I just took out a book and pretended like I wasn't paying attention to them. They continued talking but she seemed barely more sociable with him than she was with me. About ten minutes later or so they left to go somewhere but she told me goodbye and even specifically said my name (could this be an IOI?). This got me thinking about a few things that I need to address to improve my game. 1. How do you talk to shy people? How can you make them comfortable and more open with you? What are some of the IOIs they tend to give you? 2. How do you win over the guys, especially when they're more interested in the target? I welcome any critiques and advice you have to offer. |
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| Author: | afcAL [ Sat Nov 09, 2013 10:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Shy Girls |
1. Gaming shy girls requires a bit of finesse. Braking her shops about being shy was definitely not a good move, as shy people are generally not proud of being shy and have a somewhat low self esteem. Since that's the case, making her feel comfortable by telling her a few exciting stories about your life would make her open up or at least relate to them on some level. Yea, you need to do most of the talking initially. She was playing pokemon, confirming my suspicion that she is waiting for someone to rescue her from the doldrums of the everyday life. At this point I would make up some crazy adventure and role play to capture her imagination. 2. When it comes to guys, there are many wonderful posts on this forum on how to deal with AMOG's. Personally, Humor works best. In this case I would've blown him out before he approached with "Who are you?" or "Do we know you?" Al |
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| Author: | Byron Jester [ Sat Nov 09, 2013 11:40 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Shy Girls |
Thanks. This sounds like great advice. He was already a friend of hers though, so I think that if I would have said, "Do we know you?" that I might have come off like a jerk. Honestly, he didn't seem very much like an AMOG. I think it was just that she already knew him. |
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