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| Author: | eric12 [ Wed Oct 16, 2013 11:50 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Complex situation with a girl... |
Hey, Recently I've got really closer to that girl, I know her for about an year, living in the same neighborhood, going out with same friends, but we were never that close, until the last month. I totally fall in love with her, cant think of anything but her, I became really close with her and not as just a "gay friend", but the problem is that we are too different. I'm that "quality guy", who anyone knows as that responsiblity, mature friend, had good grades with plans for my future. Confident one but doesn't go for clubs and hunting girls, waiting for the one I really like. You know... Like all the perents of my friends feel safe about us hanging out just cuz of me. In addition, religious guy. She is completly the opposite, love to go to clubs, going out with boys, lot of flirtation... Lets say that most of the perents of our friends doesnt feel comfortable when she is around. I knew that my chances with her really low, because of our different culture, and I really tried to forget her. But that was impossible, we are always sitting together for hours, touching each other, texting... even if I try to avoid her I get a message from her and everyhing coming back. Today I had a conversation with one of my best friend, she told him that she knows I love her(I already thought that she knew), and she doesn't know what to do about it cuz we cant be together, because we are too different and she used to other kind of people around her. And if I were more like her and not too different she would like to be with me. And that it's really strange for her that I changed so much recently cuz she never thought about me as someone who could be her boyfriend but recently I'm like another person. (Of course she told him not to tell me that, but...). My friend was in shocked when he asked me about it I said it's true, like... "You?! HER?! You are much better than her, I always imagines you with a much qualitier girl". And even now, that she knows that I love her, she still trying to keep our relationship, she is still texting me, sitting with me and touching me(I mean... REALLY touching, sitting hugged, hitting each other, etc.). It feels like she really plays with me, It drives me crazy. Before he tolds me that she knows how I feel, I thought that she suspect it and want to test it... maybe even there's a chance she will try a romantic relationship with me if she still keeping our relationship. But after I understood she knows for sure what I feel, it looks like she is just playing with me. What do you think I should do? Do you think that I still have a chance with her, or it's a lost fight? How to act with her now, when she knows how I feel? Just to clear that point, we were in situations that with any other girl I was trying to kiss her for sure, we were really close recently but I stopped myself just cuz I knew that she will feel too strange to be with someone like me. |
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| Author: | Natty [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:03 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex situation with a girl... |
Either fuck her or move on. Seriously. |
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| Author: | dirtyafroman [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:19 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex situation with a girl... |
lol that comment killed me! anyway man if she's outgoing just be a leader and try and take her out places...sounds like you are about there |
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| Author: | eric12 [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:30 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex situation with a girl... |
Quote: lol that comment killed me!
Really? About there?anyway man if she's outgoing just be a leader and try and take her out places...sounds like you are about there Doesn't I should leave it after she knows how I feel but yet doesn't feel like we can be together? |
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| Author: | Natty [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:33 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex situation with a girl... |
Bro if you did date her she would run all over you. |
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| Author: | eric12 [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:41 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex situation with a girl... |
I didnt date her... Recently we were sitting alone together, but just in the neighborhood... You know, she saw me walking with my dog and asked me if Im going to park, she came with me and we were sitting there together for... pretty long time. Usually it's like that. But she is really a flirting girl, I don't know how to interpret her actions cuz I don't used to girl like her. She LOVE to touch, it's not special for her to be hugged with any of her friends. It's just that we were together much more than usual and usully she initiate it. As I said, with any other girl I could be sure she feels something to me, but with her... Just can't say it(Especially if she knows how I feel but yet doesn't want it). |
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| Author: | dirtyafroman [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:42 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex situation with a girl... |
from what i gathered it seems like if you just start to escalate and be the one in control and show her that you can handle her lifestyle she will be yours... if im wrong she has done a great job of frienzoning you whilst still giving you false hope |
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| Author: | Natty [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex situation with a girl... |
Bingo. See first reply. |
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| Author: | eric12 [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:50 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex situation with a girl... |
How do I know if she "has done a great job of frienzoning me whilst still giving me false hope"? |
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| Author: | dirtyafroman [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:52 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex situation with a girl... |
all you can do is sexually escalate and see if she goes along with it, if she doesn't you're stuck in the friendzone |
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| Author: | eric12 [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:55 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex situation with a girl... |
Sorry for the dumb question, but how do I sexually escalate? |
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| Author: | Natty [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:56 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex situation with a girl... |
Yep. Go do it right now. You have already waited too long. Turn her body toward you and tell her all you can think about is ripping her clothes off then do it. You might get slapped, but who caaaaaaares. |
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| Author: | dirtyafroman [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:58 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex situation with a girl... |
its fine, just go on youtube and look up videos on escalation and kino by people like gambler and adam lyons...they can teach you more than i can good luck man |
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| Author: | eric12 [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 11:31 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex situation with a girl... |
Thank man! After watching a lot of videos(PUA Training channel, a lot of information!). I guess that until the last month I really was in that friendzone situation(Even not that friend... we weren't in a close relationship before), but just by trying to kino I guess that I DID sexually escalate, there was some of sexual tension, flirting, hitting each other, she feels really comfort with that. It just like what she said to my friend, it supprised her to see my change, suddently we touch each other, flirtting, she wasnt used to get it from me before. But again, she drives me crazy because she is a girl that can do it with anyone, how do I turn "our" touches into something different for her from what she has with other guys? |
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| Author: | Xoved [ Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Complex situation with a girl... |
I've been in the SAME situation. Know a girl for 9 months, last months got close and we kissed and did other stuff but no sex. DO NOT tell her about how you feel about her. That will drive her away from you. I'm sorry, but you either have to proceed with that "friend with benefits" and have sex with her, or you have to move on and remove her from your mind. It's also possible that if you have sex with her, relationship talk will pop anytime and she will start the talk, not you. |
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