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Author:  bokcan [ Tue Jul 16, 2013 3:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Ex gf sent email. Should I reply?
We were dating for 6 weeks and it was very passionate.

I acted needy and obsessively. After a terrible fight.

We later talked on the phone and I said two things. She will miss me and if we ever start again it will be easier.

After 4 days she sent me that email saying that she misses me but still does not trust me. So she says her decision has not changed based on evidence.

I want to have time to change my attitude and want to make up for all the shit I did. But I don't want to talk soon.

She did not actually ask for a meeting, but this was definitely a mail demanding an answer. She has previously mentioned she finds it rude not to answer people's mails.

Should I reply?

How should I reply?

Thanks.
Author:  bundy [ Tue Jul 16, 2013 3:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Ex gf sent email. Should I reply?
dont respond, she says she misses you....make her miss you more until she has to have you back...then its up to you
Author:  Psydaddy [ Tue Jul 16, 2013 7:11 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Ex gf sent email. Should I reply?
First: she wants you back, and she want to trust on you, also she wants you to say something like: You can trust me, I'm a better person, let's be together you don't have miss me again.
If not, why would she send you this? To make you suffer? If so, why she said she misses you, no person says "i'm suffering" to make the other person suffer too (well it depends, but on this case makes no sense). So you have the power on your hands and you can still solve the things out.

You have this options:
- Take 1 day to reply - this will make her suffer a bit
- Take 2 days to make her suffer even more
- Reply right now - doesn't affect her

Waiting 1 or 2 days to reply might help, might not, what i mean is: You are basically saying that you are still the same bad person. On the other hand she'll have time to think that she's has the guilt and she's the reason you are about to split up forever, so she'll try to solve the problem by herself and will try to get you back, but this might not work and it's risky, also she can get more pissed of!
Or you can reply now, which shows that you care about her and you want the best for her - which means you are becoming a different person.

So i would say:
I know, I've cross the line and I'm the one who is suffering more, never thought about this could happen and you have all the right to be mad at me. I'll try my best to get you back and to make you see that i'll never be like that again. <end with something cheesy like: Because you'll be always my chuchu>
The cheesy like can be: calling her one cheesy name that you use to call her, i don't know, make her remember something you had in special with her on your cheesy line!

Then wait for her answer and give her all the reasons saying that she's right bla bla, because it's what she wants to hear. You'll see that she'll calm down and you'll get another opportunity, trust me!

Best of luck
Author:  Hunter_Foxe [ Tue Jul 16, 2013 10:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Ex gf sent email. Should I reply?
Need more info, what shit do you need to make up for? What exactly did you do and why doesn't she trust you?

Sounds like no matter what you do, you will be grovelling to her and putting the power in her hands.
Author:  bokcan [ Sun Jul 28, 2013 9:13 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Ex gf sent email. Should I reply?
Thanks people,

I have replied saying that it happens and I was still thinking about what has happened between us. I said i need time to clear my head and would like to see her next week (when she will be back in town)

I think it was a nice mail, she drunk dialed me 2 times in the next couple of days.

Still dont know what is going on between us though, but hope things will be fine...
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