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Author:  Xstatica [ Fri Feb 08, 2008 10:13 am ]
Post subject:  Depressing conversation
Hi all

I am new here and was just wondering if I can get any feed back on this?

Was speaking to a 8 HB that I didnt know last night, and she was showing IOI, touching my arm a lot and constant eye contact etc, both building Kino etc, but the conversation turned really bad after like 5 minutes... She started talking to me about how sick her family is, how her father passed away, how she suffers from depression etc for about 40 minutes, I said I was gonna get a drink at the end of the conversation and she followed me to the bar, on the way there I saw a old friend 9 HB and started talking to her, the previous 8 HB dissapeared.

How would I change the subject without seeming as if I don't care.
What does it mean when a girl you don't really know starts telling you really private stories and how do I avoid falling into the friend zone in this situation.

Later on in the night she was looking over quite a bit whilst she was sitting at a table with other people... looking bored. I was busy speaking to her friends outside, most of the night. Whilst i was speaking to one of her friends alone later on in the night she came randomly to us and blurted out "I think your friend is hot" followed by "im gonna go put my jacket in my car" and dissapeared.

Did I do something wrong, is she interested? What was the point of telling my friend is hot when he left the club a hour before? Found it hard to make jokes (C+F her) after hearing her private stories.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Thanks in advance :D
Happy sarging!
Author:  sandman808 [ Fri Feb 08, 2008 11:01 am ]
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"hey I'm sorry about _____ but lets not let anything negative put a damper on a fun night" and immediately move on to next thread or suggest to go do something else.

you're not her gay friend to let out all her problems to
Author:  Student X [ Fri Feb 08, 2008 11:07 am ]
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Doesnt sound like you did anything wrong, she was in a bad mood, hey presto, if she wants to talk about something serious, show some respect.


Offer an intellectual opinion somewhere through the conversation (after she talks of a problem),"well in my opinion blah blah blah you should blah blah" and say "ok?" with a half to 3 quarters of a smile, pick out something of her clothes, just anything to get away from a depressive subject, " I was meaning to ask, is that lambswool, or merino?" etc etc.

If she wont budge from depressiveness, then thats how she is that night Don't worry about it, DON'T nurture her, game her.

If she acts boring, your an alpha and you don't have time for boring girls, in your head, don't say that to her!
Author:  Jay Wa [ Fri Feb 08, 2008 4:26 pm ]
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Doesnt sound like you did anything wrong, she was in a bad mood, hey presto, if she wants to talk about something serious, show some respect.
Exactly.
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"hey I'm sorry about _____ but lets not let anything negative put a damper on a fun night" and immediately move on to next thread or suggest to go do something else.
Wrong. You need to be more subtle about it. Don't blatantly tell her that you want to change the topic.

First, show some respect. Don't change the conversation right away. Let her vent to you; let her get what she needs to off her chest. And DON'T NEG HER when she is talking about this. . .it will show absolutely no class and it will make you look like a dick.

When she finishes saying what needed to say, be like, "Wow, I just noticed you have the cutest smile." Women who share personal stories also have a tendency to open themselves up quickly (no pun intended) Kino escalate.

Keep in mind that this is a good sign.
Author:  Lone Wolf [ Fri Feb 08, 2008 9:20 pm ]
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From the story you presented I would assume she was into you somewhat, otherwise you wouldn't be telling you her story and following you around. But, it seems she have gotten jealous that you were talking to other girls, and some who prettier than she was and the statement she said later on was a way to boost her ego and possibly disqualify you, or an attempt to make you jealous.
Author:  hollywoodinpa [ Fri Feb 08, 2008 11:40 pm ]
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From the story you presented I would assume she was into you somewhat, otherwise you wouldn't be telling you her story and following you around. But, it seems she have gotten jealous that you were talking to other girls, and some who prettier than she was and the statement she said later on was a way to boost her ego and possibly disqualify you, or an attempt to make you jealous.

I agree with lone wolf...
also sometimes it's good to talk about deep subjects this is how you build a deep rapport with a girl and get her to trust you and really like you. Then BAM your in and getting some goodies.... I wasn't there so I can't comment to much. Just don't always try to change deep rapport subjects!!!
Author:  Foreseen [ Sat May 10, 2008 6:27 pm ]
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I believe it's a good sign if she talks about personal issues with you. Provided she doesn't do it with every stranger she mets of course. If she's telling you about her problems and all that, all you have to do is pretend to care. This is the opportunity to build an emotional connection. By doing this there will be a lesser chance of buyer's remorse the next day when you call her. It's an opportunity, seize it.
Author:  Romantic100 [ Sun May 25, 2008 1:27 pm ]
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Heres my view "I DONT WANT TO CARRY A GIRL WITH EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE" I dont take those type of girls what i call that Is a beatiful disaster and I hate them so much. I ve seen the hottest girls in the world waste their life on drugs going bi and all that stay away from that thats the last thing you will need..
Author:  NOILLUSION [ Mon May 26, 2008 7:25 am ]
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I think in that situation, you should try your best to relate. After that, cut the thread and start a new one. By that I mean immediately change the topic to something more cheerful.
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