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| Author: | BlowupPsychiatrist [ Mon Jun 17, 2013 4:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Not sure If I can handle the guilt any more. |
So there's this girl who I've been gaming. Essentially, she's not girlfriend material but she's provided me with tremendous growth in terms of my game. She's got a guy who she's seeing, her relationship status isn't visible, but his states that he is in a relationship. I knew this when I got into the situation. She's stated that she'd leave him for me, but I've made it clear that given our situation it just won't work(I'm moving away very soon and I want to remain single). My ideal situation would be that she would dump him and we could continue chatting, however I know that is fucked up. This would be ideal for me because I could continue to talk to her without the guilt of knowing that I'm fucking over some other guy. Problem is that she would lose him and wouldn't gain me in process so really it would be me fucking up her life a little bit, in order to alleviate my guilt. I'm tempted to throw down the ultimatum that if she doesn't leave him, then I'll stop talking to her because this situation makes me feel cheap, like I'm compromising my values. I enjoy the fact that we can have fun and talk sexually, but when it involves someone else who think they're exclusive I feel that's wrong. My guess is that she'd probably leave him if I gave her the ultimatum. However she may also choose to stop talking to me, in which case I'll lose this girl that I enjoy talking to(not a huge problem because I can try and find other girls). What should I do? |
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| Author: | n2thevoid [ Mon Jun 17, 2013 4:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Not sure If I can handle the guilt any more. |
Find other girls. You're forcing her to make a decision, yet you're telling us there's no chance of a future for you and her beyond "chatting". Move on buddy. |
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| Author: | BlowupPsychiatrist [ Mon Jun 17, 2013 4:51 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Not sure If I can handle the guilt any more. |
True, I guess the main thing is. I'm ideally cool with us seeing each other, I just think her current partner needs to know that she's not entirely exclusive. I'd fine with her being in an open relationship with him. Also there is a future of us beyond "chatting". We both seem fine with the idea of an open relationship. |
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| Author: | n2thevoid [ Mon Jun 17, 2013 4:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Not sure If I can handle the guilt any more. |
Quote: True, I guess the main thing is. I'm ideally cool with us seeing each other, I just think her current partner needs to know that she's not entirely exclusive. I'd fine with her being in an open relationship with him.
Nope. Not for you to decide. He's not your friend, not family, its not your decision you'd be meddling.
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| Author: | Themagicalone [ Tue Jun 18, 2013 1:13 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Not sure If I can handle the guilt any more. |
Quote: Find other girls.
THIS
You're forcing her to make a decision, yet you're telling us there's no chance of a future for you and her beyond "chatting". Move on buddy. |
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