| PUA Forum https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/ |
|
| sort of stood up. technically there was no date. https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=6&t=1625 |
Page 1 of 1 |
| Author: | theslackpack [ Thu Dec 21, 2006 12:19 am ] |
| Post subject: | sort of stood up. technically there was no date. |
so this girl totally flaked on me the other day. i was standing at starbucks like a right lemon for ten minutes waiting for this bird to turn up. i dont know what went wrong. i met her in a club and totally wooed her. she loved me. she took my number and promised to see me. down to her being busy with work i didnt get to see her until two weeks later. finally i got to see her and took her out for coffee, a quick shop and some lunch. great date - i had her rolling up at some great jokes. another two weeks passed and down to a pretty good explanation (a mixture of work commitments and damn bad periods) i didnt get to see her again. she apologised and promised to see me. we organised to meet and were set in concrete over what to do. basically we were going out on the same date. seeing as it worked so well last time. problem is she ignored my confirmation texts (which were just regular texts that you send the day before to make sure its still on) and the couple of times i phoned her. thinking there was a chance she might still turn up despite not hearing from her i commited to turning up and found myself dumped on. what went wrong guys. y did she flake? she texts me all the time so its odd that shes just stopped contact all of a sudden. we became good friends at the very least so its bizarre that she decided to jerk me around... |
|
| Author: | Tequila_Sunrise [ Thu Dec 21, 2006 7:54 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
First mistake: You gave her your number instead of taking hers. Second mistake: Confirmation texts and phone calls; they do not demonstrate confidence. If you're going to show up anyway, I'd say maybe send one text or one phone call with a voice mail message, whichever you're more comfortable with. Any more than that, and you sound desperate. You've also given her all the control. From what it sounds like, you ran some good game at the club, so go back and find another girl who won't waste your time. |
|
| Author: | Pongo [ Thu Dec 21, 2006 12:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | |
>>> we became good friends at the very least This is haunting. Don't let it happen. |
|
| Author: | theslackpack [ Thu Dec 21, 2006 11:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | |
what i am saying is that if she wasnt interested in me - which she was - or at least i think she was quite confidentlly - then at the very least we had become very good friends. so why the flaking and the disappearing act. i may retract this post as it seems there is no good answer and that the explanation is down to her. what would mystery make of this? that wud be interesting. what do the hardened pua's out there think? could it be that theres some social form of anti slut defense. some feeling that stops girls from commiting to someone unless it is a whirlwind occurance. seeing as this procedure of picking up and dating took so long to get round to it could have become offputting for her. it was a while between dates. saying that perhaps she was hospitalised in a freak sleep doodling accident and she has bizarre crayon marks all over her body stopping her from seeing me for the meantime. who fucking knows. hit me with your most outlandish ideas... gonzocharlie p.s tequilla sunrise's comments about confirmation texts was quite cool. perhaps i should have arranged things so definite first time around that i didnt have to confirm. |
|
| Author: | jacked [ Fri Dec 22, 2006 7:08 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
You didn't even give enough information. First of all? Were there any kisses? I mean making out. Second you wanted to go on the same date again? How boring do you think she assumes you are now. Third why do you assume she will give you a next date ? She doesn't feel like the two of you are going anywhere if it took 2weeks to go out on a date each time. Finally going out with this girl and spending this much time on only her seems like you created oneitis. Where were the other girls inbetween these weeks? You are the prize not her. I'm just saying relax and careless. The experience counts and you look like you hit oneitis. Dust your shoulders off, smile, and enjoy life's many wonders "flakes". You setlled for this one girl because you thought things were going great, you should of just kept on speaking with as many other females in the process. Easy to type the talk, but walking it is much more difficult. Good luck on your voyage. |
|
| Author: | Tequila_Sunrise [ Fri Dec 22, 2006 9:20 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
Good comments, jacked. I agree that this sounds like oneitis. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against committed relationships, and I respect faithfulness. That doesn't apply in this case, though, since she hasn't given you anything to commit to or be faithful to. If you really want to see her again, call her once more and tell her, then move on, whether she calls back or not. If she calls back, something may develop. If she doesn't, she isn't worth your time. |
|
| Page 1 of 1 | All times are UTC |
| Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group http://www.phpbb.com/ |
|