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Author:  Ktine [ Mon Apr 08, 2013 11:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Stuck in a stupid mind set
I don't know how to put it, I am basically afraid to "suck" in bed. I am 22 years old, and had actual sex just once in my life. I know a lot about sex, but I lack the experience, and that just makes me so insecure about it. The time that i had sex and also other times that was supposed to happen i just couldn't get it hard because I was in the wrong mind set, "I don't want to fuck it up, i don't want to not satisfy the girl, bla bla bla" Don't know what to do anymore, there are so many girls attracted to me, so many of them see me as a boyfriend material (I am in between a nice guy and a good guy), and what always ends up happening is me friend zoning the girls cuz I am too afraid to get to that point. Pretty much every girl that wanted something from me told me i friend zoned them, and shit like that. Every time when i see a girl flirting with me i can get her to want me and all that stuff, but is always in the back of my mind that when is gonna get to that point i am gonna bail out. This is my only sticky stupid point and I just can't figure out a way out of it.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Mon Apr 08, 2013 11:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Stuck in a stupid mind set
You know...if you have sex with all those girls...you can get better at sex gradually...just a thought. Maybe I am crazy. Or you can get a temporary girlfriend and practice with her.
Author:  Ktine [ Mon Apr 08, 2013 11:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Stuck in a stupid mind set
I don't want to be said of me as "oh that guy from last night, he was good looking but he sucked in bed", which i hear girls say that quite often (just feels girls conditioned me to think that way). I gave a lot of thought of having a temporary girlfriend, but I don't want to make the other person feel the same way I felt with my previous relationship, a temporary option, hurts and it hurts a lot. Idk, just feels like a messed up case :?
Need to get my balls in the right place, for a while I had only girls as friends and i also work with mostly women , it just feels like I am turning into a woman...
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Mon Apr 08, 2013 11:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Stuck in a stupid mind set
you can just let her know you are fuck buddies. Problem solved. Read on sex material, like sex god method or for visual application, 2 girls teach sex.


I have been applying these techniques to all my fuck buddies in the past and I usually do not get turned down when I wanted sex. They were more than willing to come over as long as I gave them an orgasm. You can too.
Author:  Ktine [ Mon Apr 08, 2013 11:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Stuck in a stupid mind set
I read most of those things, and what pisses me off is that I know more than average men about sex, but they still are the ones that get it, cuz they have the balls and don't give a shit. Their ultimate goal is to get laid no matter through what means, and it usually works :lol:
Author:  SE23 [ Tue Apr 09, 2013 10:04 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Stuck in a stupid mind set
I wouldn't be too concernerd, my foreskin doesn't go far back so its fucking painful sometimes if i haven't had sex in a while, and makes it hard to get it up after one or two attempts. Most girls are pretty insecure when it comes to themselves in bed, and such difficulties they do tend to blame themselves for. Really though, its just a frame of mine, go for it, if its really bad take half a pill of viagra or something or down some spanish fly. Really though you have to start somewhere, so don't fret about it.
Author:  Tr@veler [ Tue Apr 09, 2013 12:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Stuck in a stupid mind set
Dude the only way you'll get better is by having more of it. So go and and get yourself some sex.

Also, what the fuck do you care what some girl thinks about you in bed? If she really is that demeaning, then just don't hang out with such a person again. Seriously, a girl who genuinely likes you will even help you out.
Author:  Cornflake [ Wed Apr 10, 2013 4:56 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Stuck in a stupid mind set
This is coming from someone who is 22 and has had tons of ONS's and after getting into my first relationship realized that while I was by no means bad, I was far from being a great lay. Expectations are a lot lower when you are out drinking and bring a girl back home, as long as it was somewhat rhythmic and you provided a bit of foreplay you will not have to be worried about developing a reputation as a poor lay, so don't be so stressed out! My recommendation is watch "how to guides" of porn and make mental notes. Also, be calm, cool and collected, don't just hammer the girl like she's a pornstar that can take it, give small, slow strokes while gradually going in deeper and harder and I would recommend spreading the girls legs and finding certain positions that are more pleasurable for them, since their satisfaction is your main concern. Again, practice makes perfect and the most consistent sex you will have is from a relationship, in which that person will like you for who you are and will be more tolerant and forgiving of your lack of experience. Hope this helped.
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