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Author:  Mr Oizo [ Thu Feb 21, 2013 5:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Supermarket Girl
Hey Guys I'm 28 from UK (Manchester area)

Heres my first dilemma;

Last wednesday (13'th Feb) I saw this really cute girl working in a local supermarket, I was on the checkout next to her and didn't notice her until I was stood right next to her checkout. She was checking me out I'm pretty sure, so I looked over and gave her a smile!

I know friends who work at this place, so I asked them for her name, to which I found out and checked her out on Facebook! She's adorable. Now all I can think of is how to get to know her, how to approach? Go down the Facebook route or face to face? This is where I loose confidence, I think of all the wrong things!

Don't get me wrong I can speak to girls, and have lots as friends. It's when I see them more than this that I pussy out, choke and can't think of what to say to get a conversation going the more I think about it the worse it gets.

UPDATE a good friend of mine told me to go in to see her again, go to her checkout and have a bit of banter, then last thing to hand my number over to her and walk out. I've had this in mind and been wanting to do this, however I've been back into the store and non of the times she's been working. She has definitely forgotten about me now.

What would you guys suggest?

Mr Oizo
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Feb 21, 2013 5:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Supermarket Girl
Well you could continue to stalk the market in a ski mask and trench coat...OR you could try this:

facebook-method-field-tested-approved-v ... hilit=poke

If she calls you out on it tell her she popped up in your "People you may know" list.
Author:  Mr Oizo [ Thu Feb 21, 2013 6:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Supermarket Girl
Haha! I do know people who know this girl but, finding out when she works seems a little weird! I have considered just adding her on Facebook, but I've always seen this as the easy way out? I have done similar before when I've seen a hot girl and I just got ignored.

I want to stand out to her and not just be like 'every other guy'.

Anymore advice?
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Feb 21, 2013 6:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Supermarket Girl
Did you read the link? If you poke her you will stand out as more than a random "add", That means NOTHING, girls always add, they think it adds social value, but if you poke her and start a cocky convo like this...suddenly your LOTs more interesting. Get it?
Author:  skills360 [ Thu Feb 21, 2013 6:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Supermarket Girl
Face to face always.... buy something go to her line, flirt, couple of jokes, see how is her body language and physical ioi, ask her what she does for fun when she is not working, say awesome, i like that too we should get together and do that sometimes get her number tell her to write it on the recipt(so she does not get fired or whatever)or not... If she gives you her number she is interested if not then she is not... Simple dude...
Author:  poeticlyskuac [ Thu Feb 21, 2013 7:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Supermarket Girl
Supermarket game isn't easy, it takes repeated exposure. If you ask for a girls number after 2 minutes how often does it work out? If you see her a few times and create more comfort things get easier... The cool thing is you can see her 4 times for a total of 10 minutes and you'll seem like you guys have seen each other a LOT longer than just 10 minutes.

The solution is simple, go in chat(flirt) with her 3-4 times so you establish more contact (repeated exposure also helps build attraction and a connection). Then after there seems to be enough there look to create a meet up do it. However coming on too strong too early won't get a meet up, offer to grab a drink, invite her to come along, etc. (short of her being very sexually open)

I work in a grocery store in the states so it is probably way different but that is how it works here in the states. Very rarely will a cute cashier give out her number to a customer... And rightly so. Giving your number out can work but if there isn't enough interest on her part she won't contact you which defeats the purpose of giving your contact info out anyways.

Note: I've only had one cashier I've worked with over the years that would contact guys or go out of her way to hang with a customer. The guys who come on too strong rarely get contacted or get the girl's number. That said I live in Utah a highly conservative state so my geography has something to do with it.

Peace and Love,

Vic
Author:  Mr Oizo [ Thu Feb 21, 2013 7:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Supermarket Girl
Thanks for the info guys :) I would agree that face to face would seem a lot better! this was my initial plan, to go in, chat with her at her checkout! Gain some knowledge about her, either give her my number or ask for hers.

But this has not yet worked out! It's over a week and I've been in and she hasn't been working. She has most likely forgotten anything about me! If I knew when she was gong to be in I would gauge this and go chat with her.

This is the problem I face, I don't want to keep going in everyday seeming like some weird stalker guy? In this case would the Facebook thing be so bad?

I could be like' Hey, I saw you the other week, popped in again and you wasn't working, turns out we have friends in common? Something around those lines?
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Feb 21, 2013 7:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Supermarket Girl
I would agree that face to face would be better, but if what you are doing is not working, wtf would you keep doing it?
Author:  Mr Oizo [ Thu Feb 21, 2013 7:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Supermarket Girl
I don't know if it's not working yet dude, she's not been in the times i've been in to attempt anything.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Feb 21, 2013 7:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Supermarket Girl
"Dude" I'm trying to help YOU out here.

I'm saying if she is not there when you are, then obviously it's not working!
If you are not able to connect with her that way, but you have another method at hand, why would you NOT try?

One other off topic question, How many hot girls did you pass on your way to & from that market?
Author:  Mr Oizo [ Thu Feb 21, 2013 8:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Supermarket Girl
I know what you're saying, I've just seen Facebook as the easy way out!

Ok, lets say I added her on Facebook, would you mention anything about seeing her last week?

Non on the way to and from, I'm from a small town and I drove, it's on the edge of town, I do see hot girls all the time, and I definitely need to work on approaching from the outset. I often walk away from a hot girl and wonder 'what if' If only I had just said something.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Feb 21, 2013 8:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Supermarket Girl
Quote:
I know what you're saying, I've just seen Facebook as the easy way out!

Ok, lets say I added her on Facebook, would you mention anything about seeing her last week?
Don't just "add" her. That's why I suggested the poke routine.

If you do just "add" then say SOMETHING when you do.
Quote:
I often walk away from a hot girl and wonder 'what if' If only I had just said something.
Most common form of AA.
Author:  mrmaverick81 [ Thu Feb 21, 2013 10:14 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Supermarket Girl
Facebook isn't gonna cut it for this one, even with Heywood's poke routine. For this situation you need to go face to face.

Since you don't really know this girl and she probably sees hundreds of guys come through her checkout line each week, you need an opener that is cocky, confident, and memorable. This is one that I'm planning on field testing soon, and I think it would work well for your situation:

When you first enter the supermarket, DON'T ACKNOWLEDGE HER. Head straight for the aisles and browse as if you're just there for food. Don't stare at her or try to make eye contact while doing this - you don't want to make it look like you've been planning your approach. Instead, look at the food. Do you see those barcode stickers stuck on everything? Grab as many of those as you can. When you've acquired a large quantity of barcode stickers, put them all over your body. You want to be as covered as possible. When you're ready, approach her register. Drape your body over the grocery conveyor belt, and motion for her to scan the barcodes affixed to your body. She might hesitate - this is a bold move and she may have never seen it before! This is when you pull out your opening line: "Looks like you're checking me out! I've been looking at you, too."

From that opener you should be able to escalate, build a connection, and maybe even get her number. Best of luck!
Author:  Mr Oizo [ Thu Feb 21, 2013 11:51 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Supermarket Girl
Hey thanks man, pretty sure they barcode idea wouldn't go down to well! She probably wouldn't forget it, but for all the wrong reasons haha!

The approach I've been told to use sounds good, but like I've said, I've been back in the store and she hasn't been working, do I continue to keep randomly going in hoping she's there?

Heywood, I'm considering using the 'poke' technique, I've considered it from the beginning. In this situation do you think it would be better to just 'poke' or to 'add' her and explain who I am and why I'm adding her?

As for the AA comment, that's why I'm here man, to improve my technique. Helping or pointing me in the right direction would be the cool thing to do rather Than just to comment on a floor I've opened up about.

Thanks guys.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Feb 22, 2013 1:25 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Supermarket Girl
Ok, I'll say it again. There is NOTHING wrong with a face to face approach. It's even preferred!

Hell I even like Maverick's bar code idea. I even thought of a couple fine tuning ideas to go with it that would more fit my personal style.

Two weeks ago a cashier from a "C" store came over and spent the night.

I had gone in a couple of times, had some idle chit chat while checking out.

Third time I looked at her name tag then locked eyes with her and said. "Sarah I'm moving to the other side of town, if we don't exchange numbers you'll will never see me again (mock sad face)".

She said "I'm not supposed to give my number out to customers!"

I said "that's fine don't!" I wrote my number on the receipt, added "text me" at the bottom. And stopped going there. One month later, I got a text.

My POINT is this. If he can't seem to connect with her, BECAUSE she simply is not there when he IS, then go for it!

Side note:

I used the poke routine on a HB from the gym in August (adapted to me).

I have been fucking her once or twice per month since, as a FWB.

Use it, don't use it!
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