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Author:  stimboX [ Fri Dec 01, 2006 9:56 am ]
Post subject:  Withdrawal Symptoms...AFC mode kicking in!!!! HELP!
I would like to know if someone has experienced the same problem as me before.
I study everything I can daily, absorb AS MUCH informtion as possible.
Go out couple of times, do a few sets and then afterwards it's like I kick back into AFC mode and don't wanna go out anymore, have excuses, and tell myself then and then I'll open as many sets as I can and then I do nothing and wanna beat myself up.Anyone knows what this is?Inner game maybe? Confidence?More practice on the field?
I definitely know enough, I just need to get out there.

Any advice? :cry:
Author:  Paetar [ Fri Dec 01, 2006 2:19 pm ]
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Thing is in confidence. If you are not confident enough, you will be afraid of interacting with people. Then, you are lazy. Straighten your inner game, and you will be the real.
Author:  smoothz [ Sat Dec 02, 2006 12:02 am ]
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totally agree with paetar...when you don't feel confident enuf or are fearing failure, you start making excuses to avoid the moment of truth...just realise that you can only fuck close after fucking up... it's just the order of things cause we all hafta fuck up b4 becoming naturals...go out there and give it as many shots as you need, and soon enuf we'll be hearing bout ALL the 9's and 10's that you've got on a leash :D... good luck :!:
Author:  smoothie [ Sat Dec 02, 2006 5:40 am ]
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Thing is in confidence. If you are not confident enough, you will be afraid of interacting with people. Then, you are lazy. Straighten your inner game, and you will be the real.
I’m sorry Paetar but i slightly disagree with you here. People keep throwing this word "CONFIDENCE" around like its free candy. Saying all you have to do is be confident and I think that such a load of shit. You can’t just wake up and say "IM GONA BE CONFIDENT TODAY!"

Confidence isn’t something that you can just turn on and off when you need it. Chances are if you walk up to a set repeating to yourself “I must be confident” your either gona chicken out or fuck up. Everyone whines they need more confidence but fuck that.

What you guys need is competence!


“The best PUA’s in the world do not have confidence, they have competence and that’s a hell of a lot better to have than just confidence. Given the choice if you were on a motorcycle, riding a motor bike which would you rather have? Competence and a healthy fear of the bike or would you rather have confidence? So we focus on competence here. And some of the best PUA’s, there scared shitless to approach, I'm one of them. I love this game and I hate it, at the same time” ~ Mystery


So stop worrying about losing this generic fear of approaching because it isn’t going to go away! If you can’t deal with that then maybe this game isn’t for you. And I apologize if I'm hitting close to home with some of you guy’s by saying this, but it’s the truth! You need to step up to the plate! You need to go for it when every bone, muscle and brain cell in your body says don’t. You need to push past that fear and not give a damn about the outcome or consequence! You need to stop whining about needing more fucking confidence and just fucking do it! Make an ass of yourself if need be!

The more you approach the easier it will become not because you gain confidence, but because you gain competence in what you are doing!

This isn’t just a jab at StimboX, this applies to all of you who keep complaining of lack of confidence. LESS COMPLAINTS AND MORE ACTION!
Author:  smoothz [ Sat Dec 02, 2006 11:06 pm ]
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smooothie i'm too lazy too look up competence...what is it? :oops: and wuts the difference btwn confidence and competence?
Author:  smoothie [ Sun Dec 03, 2006 2:31 am ]
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confidence = a state of confident hopefulness that events will be favorable


competence = the quality of being adequately or well qualified physically and intellectually

basicaly im saying is instead of trying to obtain confidence and lose this fear (something that may happen over a vast ammount of time but doubtful) you should just accept the fear and go for it anyway with competance that you know what you are doing. and if you dont know what your doing go for it anyways cos that how you learn what works. as soon as you have worked out what works for you then it will be easyer. the fear will still be there but you will be able to overcome it cos you know what to say.

ya dig?


ps. im still abit drunk so if this doesnt make sence then... just fuck it. find what works for you and go for it. but i tell you now! you wont find what works for you by just sitting on your hands.
Author:  Gogo [ Tue Dec 05, 2006 1:40 am ]
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stimboX

slow down alot on the reading
and just go out and practice get sum
reps n sets in and just relax
its all just a game remember :P
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