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Author:  mrflipz [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 4:31 am ]
Post subject:  She says "Your an amazing guy but i dont have..."
So the situation that I have is that there was this girl who i met and i talked to her for a while (about 2-3 weeks) I initiated alot and then i will be honest and say that I became clingy. So i got fed up with her leading me on and I asked her if she had any feelings for me and she said "Your an amazing guy but i dont have any romantic attraction towards you" I took it and acted as if it didnt phase me and I had a little dilemma with her but we are now just "friends." I dont think that I am in the friend zone for good with her (I usually would know)

A little background,
Im a decent looking guy and have a couple girl-friends just for the dhv aspect but i feel like I blew it with her for good while my close guy friends still say i have a chance

What do you all think?
Author:  peiper [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 4:57 am ]
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here are four steps for getting her to want you again, or view you that way

1. cut contact, 3 weeks or more. or until she reinitiates contact with you. If she reinitiates within the first 2 weeks, then just say your busy, and you'll hit her up when your not.

2. during the cutting contact, see other women or girls. i'm assuming you are in highschool cuz my brother is and he tells me the term "talking" is used a lot. w/e doesnt really matter. i assume you have a facebook, and that you are friends with her on it. if so, get a buddy or someone to take a picture with you and another girl at a party or some event, or even just a chill sesh. this is basically the jealosy aspect, and an indirect DHV. Dont tell her your talking to some girl, let her find out. it adds a hole bunch of mystery when she doesnt know what level you and this girl are at.

3. if she hasnt initiated contact by the 3rd week, it is fine to do so after that. Ideally, you want to invite her to a social event (party) that you are hosting, or organizing. this makes you seem really alpha. if you cant do this, just invite her to some social thing where other girls will also be attending.

4. While at the event, flirt with other chicks. this will make her wonder why you arent flirting with her since you clearly used to like her. now there is a gap where the affection you used to show her was. she needs to fill it with your affection once again.

i am not going into holding a relationship, but basically here is one quote that has never steered me wrong "he/she who cares least in the relationship, holds all the power." i'm not saying dont care about her, just make her work a bit for you.

Hope i helped :)
Author:  EddieFews [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 5:01 am ]
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here are four steps for getting her to want you again, or view you that way

1. cut contact, 3 weeks or more. or until she reinitiates contact with you. If she reinitiates within the first 2 weeks, then just say your busy, and you'll hit her up when your not.

2. during the cutting contact, see other women or girls. i'm assuming you are in highschool cuz my brother is and he tells me the term "talking" is used a lot. w/e doesnt really matter. i assume you have a facebook, and that you are friends with her on it. if so, get a buddy or someone to take a picture with you and another girl at a party or some event, or even just a chill sesh. this is basically the jealosy aspect, and an indirect DHV. Dont tell her your talking to some girl, let her find out. it adds a hole bunch of mystery when she doesnt know what level you and this girl are at.

3. if she hasnt initiated contact by the 3rd week, it is fine to do so after that. Ideally, you want to invite her to a social event (party) that you are hosting, or organizing. this makes you seem really alpha. if you cant do this, just invite her to some social thing where other girls will also be attending.

4. While at the event, flirt with other chicks. this will make her wonder why you arent flirting with her since you clearly used to like her. now there is a gap where the affection you used to show her was. she needs to fill it with your affection once again.

i am not going into holding a relationship, but basically here is one quote that has never steered me wrong "he/she who cares least in the relationship, holds all the power." i'm not saying dont care about her, just make her work a bit for you.

Hope i helped :)
3 weeks is entirely too long, its 2012 bro.. She'll be fucking another guy in a lot less time then that.. Cut contact for 5 days.. And then just keep the convo's short and plain on your end..

If she askes you why just tell her that you get too horny around her so its best if she stayed away from you or else something might happen... That way when she contacts you again she knows whats going down when you guys get together... Works everytime.
Author:  mrflipz [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 5:11 am ]
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Thank you very much for your replies, i feel like the longer i wait the better so 3 weeks sounds great, im gonna try to have as little interest as possible and will be sure to tell you how it goes.
Author:  KingOtto [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 6:25 am ]
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Fuze is right on this matter. 3 weeks is too long....hell in 3 weeks she might be pregnant :)
Author:  papichulo818 [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 8:47 am ]
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That's a canned line. She aint interested homeboy, find some other fish to bait.
Author:  AlexStevens [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 3:40 pm ]
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If she askes you why just tell her that you get too horny around her so its best if she stayed away from you or else something might happen... That way when she contacts you again she knows whats going down when you guys get together... Works everytime.
Lol thats actually pretty awesome, might have to try that one myself.
Author:  Playa93 [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 3:57 pm ]
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Fuze +1
Author:  peiper [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 7:55 pm ]
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Fuze, great fucking point. i was saying three weeks, depending on the amount of time they have been friends, but i think your method is would work a lot better for his situation. i also like how you reengage her. shits bold. thanks
Author:  papichulo818 [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 8:16 pm ]
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Quote:
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here are four steps for getting her to want you again, or view you that way

1. cut contact, 3 weeks or more. or until she reinitiates contact with you. If she reinitiates within the first 2 weeks, then just say your busy, and you'll hit her up when your not.

2. during the cutting contact, see other women or girls. i'm assuming you are in highschool cuz my brother is and he tells me the term "talking" is used a lot. w/e doesnt really matter. i assume you have a facebook, and that you are friends with her on it. if so, get a buddy or someone to take a picture with you and another girl at a party or some event, or even just a chill sesh. this is basically the jealosy aspect, and an indirect DHV. Dont tell her your talking to some girl, let her find out. it adds a hole bunch of mystery when she doesnt know what level you and this girl are at.

3. if she hasnt initiated contact by the 3rd week, it is fine to do so after that. Ideally, you want to invite her to a social event (party) that you are hosting, or organizing. this makes you seem really alpha. if you cant do this, just invite her to some social thing where other girls will also be attending.

4. While at the event, flirt with other chicks. this will make her wonder why you arent flirting with her since you clearly used to like her. now there is a gap where the affection you used to show her was. she needs to fill it with your affection once again.

i am not going into holding a relationship, but basically here is one quote that has never steered me wrong "he/she who cares least in the relationship, holds all the power." i'm not saying dont care about her, just make her work a bit for you.

Hope i helped :)
3 weeks is entirely too long, its 2012 bro.. She'll be fucking another guy in a lot less time then that.. Cut contact for 5 days.. And then just keep the convo's short and plain on your end..

If she askes you why just tell her that you get too horny around her so its best if she stayed away from you or else something might happen... That way when she contacts you again she knows whats going down when you guys get together... Works everytime.
That's actually pretty decent Fuze you little bitch!
Author:  DJ_Z [ Tue Jan 31, 2012 8:40 pm ]
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GOG

Game Other Girls
Author:  pickupmasteryjd [ Wed Feb 01, 2012 2:57 am ]
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The reason she just wants to be friends is because you have no sexual value in her mind. You have the nice, sensative part down but nothing that will create a 'gut level' attraction with her.

The solution to your problem is to increase your social worth and sexual value in which there are many techniques you can start doing.

Here are some easy ones you can start applying today with her...

Try using what I call high-class humor, or making fun of her in ways that show you are more socially dominate and worthy than she is...but in a light and funny way.

Example: If she says "I dont think I like this dress on me or my hair is acting funny today" say "yea, you look terrible..I have seen waay better" but in a jokingly manner so she knows you are not insulting her.

Another example is if she says something like "Here, hold this for me" just say "hmm..I dunno, I just dont feel like doing that" in a playful way.

These are not great examples, but you get the idea of increasing your social and sexual value in her mind.

Do not be afraid to mention that you are getting to know other women and NEVER text her stuff like "so...hows it going" that wastes both of your time. Show her you have a life and you are the catch... not her.

Hope this helps you man :D
Author:  Tundra [ Wed Feb 01, 2012 3:06 am ]
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There ain't much you can say to create a sexual image for her if you didn't do it the first time. Go chase some other ass, get said ass, and that might cause her to look again. You admitted that you got too clingy, so you can't fix that by clinging on. Ignore your guy friends. Its not that they're dumb, they are right, you still have a chance, but its not because you can salvage it in the typical romantic way.
Author:  Entourages [ Wed Feb 01, 2012 3:11 am ]
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Both Fuze and Papi are right... Stop texting her, talking to her, and making yourself available.

Get other girls, go out, have a good time, and stop thinking about this chick. If she is attracted to you she will make a move and try and get back in your life, if not, well then who gives a shit.
Author:  mrflipz [ Wed Feb 01, 2012 9:52 pm ]
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Thanks alot everyone, I completely cut contact with her the day I posted this and she began contact with me within a day which was extremely interesting. Then I told her that im busy and i'll talk to her later. Finally she contacts me and I just completely ignored it. When I actually did get to reply to her, I told her i had dinner with a friend and began to start treating her as a "dick" and not really caring and asking much about how she is... I think its working pretty well because shes becoming more talkative, but I still wanna keep it down to a minimum for now
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