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| Author: | bigafc [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 5:52 am ] |
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So I've been interested in the game for a while now, but I've never gotten anywhere, mainly because I can never force myself to go out and sarge. None of my friends are into this pickup stuff, and when I go out alone trying to pickup girls I feel like a total loser being all by myself, and I have no doubt that I project that. One time I went to a club by myself and it was so abysmal that I don't really want to do that again. At least if I had a sarging buddy I would have somewhere to regroup and calm myself after i get blown out. So what's the verdict? any suggestions on how to get out there and force myself to improve? PS. If anyone wants to be my mentor or just wings, please let me know! |
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| Author: | Au Naturel [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 6:10 am ] |
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I'd suggest just encouraging your friends to go somewhere in which there are lots of girls. Don't over-complicate it and just do what you already like doing, meet girls doing that. Make as many female friends if that's all you have it in you to do right now. Don't even focus on fucking the first girl you talk to, just focus on having a good conversation. Try making a series of checkpoints for yourself to follow. 1. Start a conversation with a girl. Don't even bother thinking about number 2 until you've done this. 2. Escalate a conversation in rapport or some sort of sexual conversation. 3. Escalate to the point of kissing. 4. Get a girl home. Don't focus on the next step until you've completed the one you're on. Just relax and take it easy. |
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| Author: | bigafc [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 7:18 pm ] |
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Thanks au naturel. I'll try to do that. About number 1 on your checklist, I don't have any issue starting a conversation with a girl, but I just feel like those conversations never go anyone, unless we happen to be really similar. But I want to be the kind of social butterfly who can connect to people even if they don't have a ton in common with me. So I guess I just don't know how to take it to number two without running out of conversation material. |
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| Author: | charblad [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 7:59 pm ] |
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Quote: Thanks au naturel. I'll try to do that. About number 1 on your checklist, I don't have any issue starting a conversation with a girl, but I just feel like those conversations never go anyone, unless we happen to be really similar. But I want to be the kind of social butterfly who can connect to people even if they don't have a ton in common with me. So I guess I just don't know how to take it to number two without running out of conversation material.
Hey you have brown hair, I have brown hair too.It's not hard to find SOME connection, all you need is a glance at her and you realize your both humans, might have the same hair/eye/skin color, might be from the same place, speak the same language. Running out of conversation material means your supposed to be ending step one and moving on to two; if you don't you will fail. and with a girl you don't have the find some connection where you went to the same camp with the same counselor and did the same activities and you have the same best friend - is that what you were expecting? life doesnt work like that you have to make your own connections |
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