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Author:  fillosafee47 [ Wed Oct 19, 2011 5:08 pm ]
Post subject:  ONS seeking validation
I met this cougar last weekend and had the textbook, alcohol fueled ONS.

I've been going cocky/funny with her, sometimes to the point of being mean (calibration needed some). I want to turn this into a FB situ but, again, I'm not that great at the comfort building stage.

I tried to call her and then shoot her a msg. Text convo below:

me: turn on your hearing aid so you can hear the phone ring!

her: running with a friend. will call u back. it's my ipod, brat!

her: i forgot to call you back, hope you didn't lose any sleep ;)

me: stayed up all night, waiting...then pictured you running and laughed myself to sleep!

her: Run forest run! It's quite a site!

----------Here for the the first time she's making herself vulnerable; this is where i need help so I'm building rapport and not squashing these girls' self esteem---so i ease up------------------------------------

me: You're trying, that's what counts

her: At least I have my charm to fall back on


What's the standard response to a woman seeking validation here?
I feel like it's been mostly fluff and think I should build some rapport, being nicer and showing more depth.
Or do I just keep going with the teasing?
Author:  bansario [ Wed Oct 19, 2011 9:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: ONS seeking validation
Quote:
I met this cougar last weekend and had the textbook, alcohol fueled ONS.

I've been going cocky/funny with her, sometimes to the point of being mean (calibration needed some). I want to turn this into a FB situ but, again, I'm not that great at the comfort building stage.

I tried to call her and then shoot her a msg. Text convo below:

me: turn on your hearing aid so you can hear the phone ring!

her: running with a friend. will call u back. it's my ipod, brat!

her: i forgot to call you back, hope you didn't lose any sleep ;)

me: stayed up all night, waiting...then pictured you running and laughed myself to sleep!

her: Run forest run! It's quite a site!

----------Here for the the first time she's making herself vulnerable; this is where i need help so I'm building rapport and not squashing these girls' self esteem---so i ease up------------------------------------

me: You're trying, that's what counts

her: At least I have my charm to fall back on


What's the standard response to a woman seeking validation here?
I feel like it's been mostly fluff and think I should build some rapport, being nicer and showing more depth.
Or do I just keep going with the teasing?

Ease up on the negging with the cougars. The age difference is sometimes enough to make them feel self conscious.

Maybe this could help: http://bosproject.com/blog/dating-older ... t-cougars/
Author:  JSmooth [ Wed Oct 19, 2011 9:35 pm ]
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Start building rapport and going more in depth. You could stay cocky for a little while longer but too much longer and it's going to be a problem. You got some rapport going here let it flow into actual rapport building comfort.
Author:  fillosafee47 [ Thu Oct 20, 2011 1:04 pm ]
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Good link. I do need to ease up with the negging. Met up with her last night and was more direct and kind(?)....she's upstairs sleeping as I type :)

We digressed some though...how do i react when ANY woman seeks validation? Ignore it? Affirm it? Use it to ask questions that will get her talking about herself?
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