Hello all! I am in need of some help, I will do my best to describe where I'm getting hung up as quickly as possible, if you need more detail please feel free to ask.
I date almost exclusively online, and I'm getting stuck on continuing attraction when we meet in person,.. I've never been much of a ladies man, but through practice I've come a long way.
I can easily move from emailing back and forth to getting a phone number,.. in fact most of the time I don't even need to ask for a number anymore. Women are clearly attracted to me at this point.
Talking on the phone is easy,.. I am a fun person, and always have fun and interesting things to talk about, I live an active adventurous life, plus I LOVE to tease,.. and I'm socially aware enough not to push things too far. This is a HUGE hit,.. and I usually don't even have to ask for a date,.. sometime during the first phone call she's usually asking when we get to meet. I typically make her wait (I like to make sure she's someone I want to meet first) but I tell her that I need to get to know her better to make sure she's not some psyco killer. This is fun too because then if she asks any weird questions I can accuse her of being a stalker. Women are very attracted to me at this point,.. lots of interest, and they are typically quite excited about the date.
The problem comes when we meet in person,..
First off I typically choose some Starbucks to meet at, usually after work, and I usually tell her I only have a half hour,... I like to keep first meetings short.
My pictures on the website are accurate to who I am - I'm in my early 30's could stand to loose 20 lbs, but I'm not way overweight,.. I'm 6 foot tall,. all in all pretty average looking. I'm not a fashion king, but I dress well enough, and my online pictures are pretty typical to what I wear to dates, so there are no surprises.
Dates always go well,.. but there is simply never any spark. There is interesting conversation,.. lively conversation,.. in many cases she was sad when I said I had to go saying she was really enjoying the conversation,.. but it seems there is no sexual attraction. The dates usually end with her giving me a hug,.. and that's it,.. I don't hear from her again, or if I do it's to say she wants to be my friend but she doesn't feel "chemistry".
Frankly I don't feel it either,.. that playful flirty vibe that we had on the phone and in emails is gone,..
This is the story for about the last 20 dates I've been here in CA. I met one girl here who I dated for a while, but before her the same story held true.
I think this lack of chemistry has to do with something I'm not doing, or not doing right,.. and I need your help to find out what it is. Do you have any ideas? Any questions for me?
Thanks for taking the time to read this!
Whiskey
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